Welcome to the board Fatback! Congratulations on your weight loss and maintaining it for 10 years. That's an awesome feat, and you should be very proud.
About your friends and family only paying lip service to getting healthy and fit...It's amazing how other people will act like they want to do it, but never LISTEN to the people (like you) who've actually done it. Instead they just keep doing the same stuff that never worked for them before (or looking for quick miracle fixes that don't involve diet and exercise) and continue complaining how life dealt them a hard hand.