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buffalogal said:Thanks girls.
Remind me again that I can do it... Had a meltdown today and smoked two cigarettes, ate 3 doughnuts, 3 muffins and a bagel with cream cheese.All for supper tonight, with nothing else during the day. I don't think I can get any lower than this.
Hopefully I can only go up from here, andanyone who gets in my way!!
So, your calories for the day were probably about 1200 - nothing to beat yourself up over! (Now the macros . .
) You'll do just fine!
buffalogal
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ck - You can crack the whip out anytime. Emotional trauma for me makes me smoke. I've only had 5 cigs the last few days and that may be it. Fortunately, I cannot get addicted to them.
wlmcrae - yeah, cals may have been okay. Macros - probably 95% carbs
GG - you're so right! F--k him and all the other f---in' a--holes that use women, lie to them, and then leave them in the dirt.
He wouldn't be worth another minute of my time if I could help it. Too bad he's my mentor at work and I need to use him to get me a promotion to another office ASAP. So I can get the f--k away from him. This whole situation is f---ed up and I've been f---ed over big time!!!
Okay, rant over - sorry just need to vent and my sis and best friend is unavailable until this evening...
On another note, did much better with the eating today. Need to start logging stuff into fitday soon, but may wait until I can start fresh. Of course, it's now 1:30 and I've only eaten once. Not even hungry...
But, no cigs yet although they are sitting here calling to me.
wlmcrae - yeah, cals may have been okay. Macros - probably 95% carbs
GG - you're so right! F--k him and all the other f---in' a--holes that use women, lie to them, and then leave them in the dirt.
He wouldn't be worth another minute of my time if I could help it. Too bad he's my mentor at work and I need to use him to get me a promotion to another office ASAP. So I can get the f--k away from him. This whole situation is f---ed up and I've been f---ed over big time!!! Okay, rant over - sorry just need to vent and my sis and best friend is unavailable until this evening...
On another note, did much better with the eating today. Need to start logging stuff into fitday soon, but may wait until I can start fresh. Of course, it's now 1:30 and I've only eaten once. Not even hungry...
But, no cigs yet although they are sitting here calling to me.
ck2006
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buffalogal said:ck - You can crack the whip out anytime. Emotional trauma for me makes me smoke. I've only had 5 cigs the last few days and that may be it. Fortunately, I cannot get addicted to them.
wlmcrae - yeah, cals may have been okay. Macros - probably 95% carbs
GG - you're so right! F--k him and all the other f---in' a--holes that use women, lie to them, and then leave them in the dirt.
Okay, rant over - sorry just need to vent and my sis and best friend is unavailable until this evening...
On another note, did much better with the eating today. Need to start logging stuff into fitday soon, but may wait until I can start fresh. Of course, it's now 1:30 and I've only eaten once. Not even hungry...
But, no cigs yet although they are sitting here calling to me.
My smokes have been calling to me for two days, but I broke every single one of them right at the bottom so I can't smoke them, and I have them to look at everyday, until I am ready to throw the suckers away.
buffalogal said:ck - You can crack the whip out anytime. Emotional trauma for me makes me smoke. I've only had 5 cigs the last few days and that may be it. Fortunately, I cannot get addicted to them.
wlmcrae - yeah, cals may have been okay. Macros - probably 95% carbs
GG - you're so right! F--k him and all the other f---in' a--holes that use women, lie to them, and then leave them in the dirt.
Okay, rant over - sorry just need to vent and my sis and best friend is unavailable until this evening...
On another note, did much better with the eating today. Need to start logging stuff into fitday soon, but may wait until I can start fresh. Of course, it's now 1:30 and I've only eaten once. Not even hungry...
But, no cigs yet although they are sitting here calling to me.
The GOOD POINT here....you learned not to get involved with anyone that you work with everyagain....there is the bright side of this mess!!
dutch diva
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Hey BG,
Stay strong, I went through that last yr...........I went and picked up the book
"he's not that into you", trust me no matter what the reasons are for the breakup this book will help you recover.
Stay strong, I went through that last yr...........I went and picked up the book
"he's not that into you", trust me no matter what the reasons are for the breakup this book will help you recover.
dutch diva
New member
Another good read:
Oprah quoted this...
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behaviour.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not
meant to be.
Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before
you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as
you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends".
A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along,
then he probably is.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of
different women.
He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he
treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something
bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything.
He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behaviour.
Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...
even if he has more education or in a better job.
Do not make him into a quasi-god.
He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man.
If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...
compromise is two way street.
You need time to heal between relationships...
there is nothing cute about baggage...
Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...
a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...
look for someone complimentary...
not supplementary.
Dating is fun...
even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes...
when a man always know where you are, and
you're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted.
Never move into his mother's house. Never co-sign for a man.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
Share this with other women and men (just so they know)...
You'll make someone smile, another rethink her choices, and another woman
prepare.
They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate
them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them.
Oprah quoted this...
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behaviour.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not
meant to be.
Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before
you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as
you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends".
A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along,
then he probably is.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of
different women.
He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he
treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something
bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything.
He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behaviour.
Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...
even if he has more education or in a better job.
Do not make him into a quasi-god.
He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man.
If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...
compromise is two way street.
You need time to heal between relationships...
there is nothing cute about baggage...
Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...
a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...
look for someone complimentary...
not supplementary.
Dating is fun...
even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes...
when a man always know where you are, and
you're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted.
Never move into his mother's house. Never co-sign for a man.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
Share this with other women and men (just so they know)...
You'll make someone smile, another rethink her choices, and another woman
prepare.
They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate
them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them.
buffalogal
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DD (no not the bra size 
) - thank you so much.
A lot of that hits home and I'm going to keep reading it over and over. I'm also going to check out that book. The first two lines are the most powerful and certainly apply in this situation. Just in the one minute or so you took to post that, you made me feel better than anyone has the last 4 days.
Went and worked out today with a friend to take my mind off things. At least it got me out of the house for 3 hours and away from the cigs. I still haven't had one and I'll be damned if this jerk is going to make me smoke anymore.
On a happier note, I got a referral for a trainer who recently trained someone for a BB competition. Going to give her a call tomorrow to see what I can set up. If not, I have a few more options available to me so we'll see...
) - thank you so much.A lot of that hits home and I'm going to keep reading it over and over. I'm also going to check out that book. The first two lines are the most powerful and certainly apply in this situation. Just in the one minute or so you took to post that, you made me feel better than anyone has the last 4 days.
Went and worked out today with a friend to take my mind off things. At least it got me out of the house for 3 hours and away from the cigs. I still haven't had one and I'll be damned if this jerk is going to make me smoke anymore.
On a happier note, I got a referral for a trainer who recently trained someone for a BB competition. Going to give her a call tomorrow to see what I can set up. If not, I have a few more options available to me so we'll see...
buffalogal
New member
So, may I ask what you did? I'm ready to leave immediately because I can't bear the thought of him moving on. But, I'm not eligible to leave until January...
dutch diva
New member
I'm glad that little write up helped, I printed it out and every time I wanted to call him I read it over and over and highlighted the parts that applied the most to me.
To be honest I went on a bender....I worked out like a mad women, drank all weekend and just tried think of anything but. After the first 6 weeks things got better... I thought I was going to die everyday of heartache... but we live and 3 months after the breakup I had the opportunity to go work in Texas for 3 months and I took it. I ended up falling in love online with a guy from the new gym I switch too to get away from the jink-ex, and he flew to come see me and the rest is history. I look back and think I am so happy we split, but theres always the moments when all we do is think of the positives we have to think of the negatives. You need to sit down and write a specific list of all the things you want in a relationship and all the things you didn't have in this past one. And remind yourself that if he was as good of a guy as u once thought he was he wouldn't have a list! And no man that makes a women cry is worth your time! Hang in there it will be difficult, but try and consume your time in somthing good, training....! Obsess about getting where u want to with your physical goals, and do it for u not to get back at him..........I had that thought too!
To be honest I went on a bender....I worked out like a mad women, drank all weekend and just tried think of anything but. After the first 6 weeks things got better... I thought I was going to die everyday of heartache... but we live and 3 months after the breakup I had the opportunity to go work in Texas for 3 months and I took it. I ended up falling in love online with a guy from the new gym I switch too to get away from the jink-ex, and he flew to come see me and the rest is history. I look back and think I am so happy we split, but theres always the moments when all we do is think of the positives we have to think of the negatives. You need to sit down and write a specific list of all the things you want in a relationship and all the things you didn't have in this past one. And remind yourself that if he was as good of a guy as u once thought he was he wouldn't have a list! And no man that makes a women cry is worth your time! Hang in there it will be difficult, but try and consume your time in somthing good, training....! Obsess about getting where u want to with your physical goals, and do it for u not to get back at him..........I had that thought too!
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