Please Scroll Down to See Forums Below lol...the more I typed, the less sexy it got haha....but that's my thoughts on how you COULD possibly pull it off if you ever did it. Cali, thoughts?
If another couple asked you to have a foursome
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lol...the more I typed, the less sexy it got haha....but that's my thoughts on how you COULD possibly pull it off if you ever did it. Cali, thoughts?
This post has also proven anther point that women need to be in a good mental state for sex. And I don't mean mental as in psycho mental, but after a hard day of work and kids, you can't just turn it on/off like a light switch (like I can). You need some wine, soft music, conversation, maybe a massage, then "maybe" you're ready if the wine and massage has t put you to sleep after your hard day, lol.
This is my life...
This is my life...
Who said that? lol
I noted in my post that it's easy for men to turn it off. It's not as easy for women. We're biologically wired to bond during sex (our body produces increased levels of the "love" hormone, oxytocin).
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Oh yeah? Could sex with somebody you are thoroughly repulsed with and write it off as "just sex"?
No...If I am repulsed by someone, I would be repulsed by the idea of them touching me.
LOL^^
Nef and Annie both have good points and I do agree that the dynamic between a 3sum and a 4sum is quite a bit different. Nef, your advice is great about having his wife take responsibility and be involved in choosing the woman. The other thing is reality can be different than fantasy and she might get in there and start something and want to stop. Sometimes those things can be an evolution and stop means stop. And you better be damn sure before you get in there, what YOU are allowed to do!
The situation Annie described is imo the most ideal. The problem really becomes finding that woman. It's a generalization but it's hard to find single bisexual women who don't come with a man attached or at least a partner they play with (although based on all the bisexual girls we get through our unit at work maybe it's different with the younger crowd). It's better to have someone you don't really know for boundary issues but then you find someone you don't really know and run the risks that come with that.
I met a lot of couples and a few of them that had been married for a long time. Some of them seemed to be ok with it but when you sat down and talked to them (usually the women and when they're alone) the cracks would show. Jealousy would appear. Resentment sets in. It's just that once you cross that line and if one of you isn't ok, will the other respect it? will they honestly tell you they want to do it again? etc etc....Again...more in the swinger scene.
So where is it you work Cali?
LOL a psych unit! Seems fitting doesn't it?!?
Fuck! Ok all points take this shit is off, lol.
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