How come I have to go thru this B.S. every time I get into a relationship?!?

[jh1]

It's almost as if him seeing her with somebody else rekindled his feelings for her.

It's not almost if... that is it.

You never want something/someone unless you can't have it....

 

[havoc]

In all honesty, explain to her that if the role was reversed she would be a bit like "what the phuck", tell her until her ex's family and her ex are not so "everydayish" in her life that you will take a step back because it's just not acceptable and fair for you, especially when you seem to be giving 100% here, during this break/step back still continue to have sex with her and other women if possible.




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[alien amp pharm]

See what her reaction is. If she's at least trying to convince you to stay then play it by ear. If she doesn't put up a fight, then there's your answer.

She did say she wouldn't talk to him anymore if I wanted, but I like your style better. Breakup/Take time apart (tell her it's because I don't think she's over her ex) and then see which direction she goes.

 

[the nature boy]

She did say she wouldn't talk to him anymore if I wanted, but I like your style better. Breakup/Take time apart (tell her it's because I don't think she's over her ex) and then see which direction she goes.

Yeah. I'm not sure I would take the attitide of telling her not to talk to the ex. She has to want to NOT talk to him because she's over him, not because you want her to.

Also, havoc is right, if the tables were turned, she's be shitting a brick about this.

 

[from zero]

She did say she wouldn't talk to him anymore if I wanted

Bullshit. Every time you're not around, she'll be talking with him. If you think she won't, you're a fool.

 

[Smurfy]

Your interaction with her and your relationship should be focused MORE on the two of you than on her and the ex. If this is a huge deal and she is having THAT much contact with him, then Im not sure how things might work out for you. That situation makes me nervous to tell you the truth. Sounds pretty iffy to me. You need to communicate to her that you are uncomfortable with these things and if she is serious about her relationship with you, she will make some changes.

 

[alien amp pharm]

Got it!

Operation Dump-a-ho begins in 3 hours, when I get to talk to her again.

I'll keep you all updated in this thread or start another. Wish me luck.

 

[Smurfy]

That sucks that it has to end like that. I mean , afterall, you said you love her. Im sad now.

 

[alien amp pharm]

Bullshit. Every time you're not around, she'll be talking with him. If you think she won't, you're a fool.

Ha, jokes on you...I'm a fool ALL the time!

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[sigweed]

I have delt with alot of shit bro...guess what she is going to tell you shortly?

"I thought I was over him, but I'm not...and I'm not ready to see anyone else...we will just have to remain friends..."

hahah ive heard that before, almost the same wording too

whatever though, it was from a girl who just broke up with her boyfriend of 4 years and starting seeing me like a week later, so id be lying if i said i didnt see it coming!