aap, if you take advice from this forum on how to be with youre relationships, you ahve serious problems
ok, she sounds ditsy. a bit needy, too...but she poured it out to you in that IM convo (who the fuck breaks up on IM? dont you guys have any sense of decency? you do that sort of thing in person ffs!) and so theres something real there...even though you are as big a drama queen as i have seen, and this whole thing stinks of emotional blackmail
for someone saying "i love you" youre sure being selfish...or damn silly saying that after a month, anyway