How come I have to go thru this B.S. every time I get into a relationship?!?

[from zero]

but actions speak louder than words and her actions are very unfair to me.

There's only one thing to do then homes.

 

[Y_lifter]

Are you looking to marry this girl soon, or just dating having fun ?
Why not just enjoy the time you have with her and her attentions ?
Jealousy is a terrible thing..

 

[YoungBeast]

The ex is getting in your line of fire, don't tell him to move just fire. What I am saying is the ex is going to ruin it and cloud the girl's mind so you should get rid of him and then reprogram your girl's mind.

 

[javaguru]

A friend of mine has three rules of dating he always quotes and unfortunately they seem accurate more than I like;

1. All women are whores
2. Those who aren't whores are whores in waiting.
3. They always go back to their ex's.

Their amicable relationship so soon after dating means that she will eventually cheat on you with him, dump you to go back to him or both.

 

[alien amp pharm]

Dump her and tell her you think she's still not over her ex.

Then what? She what her next move is?

Do I ever take her back or just move on completely?

(Damn, you'd think I've never been in a relationship before)

 

[Apexx]

First, stay out of her email and IM's. You'll almost always read more into what is there than what really is.
Now is she really over him........doubt it. Even if she is, she's not taking your feelings into consideration when she is inviting him over. That's unacceptable. She has to know that hanging out with a recent ex when starting a new relationship is gonna cause you to be uneasy. Simply tell her how you feel.....without acting like a psycho.
If she gets pissed off at you, then she's still banging him, or still wants to. If she's really in love with you, than your relationship should be more important than that friendship.
But if it was me, I'd bang her one more time. I'm talking screw of the decade here.
then I'd dump her ass. Nobody is worth going through that kind of uncertainty or making you doubt yourself.

 

[alien amp pharm]

First, stay out of her email and IM's. You'll almost always read more into what is there than what really is.

see post #6.

She copy/pasted me part of the IM.

I'm not jealous. I just don't want to waste my time.
You make good points.

 

[alien amp pharm]

The ex is getting in your line of fire, don't tell him to move just fire. What I am saying is the ex is going to ruin it and cloud the girl's mind so you should get rid of him and then reprogram your girl's mind.

Yep.
He cheated on her, so they broke up.
It's almost as if him seeing her with somebody else rekindled his feelings for her.

 

[YoungBeast]

Yea, I can understand you don't want to waste your time with someone focused more on their ex then you. Tell her friends and her friends will see it to and then probably talk to her about it.

If not then she is bound to go back with the ex and leave you. you lack communication with issues with her. Next time you see her tell her how you feel.

 

[the nature boy]

Then what? She what her next move is?

Do I ever take her back or just move on completely?

(Damn, you'd think I've never been in a relationship before)

See what her reaction is. If she's at least trying to convince you to stay then play it by ear. If she doesn't put up a fight, then there's your answer.

I dated this chick a few years back that was just like your g/f. She had last dated her ex 8 months prior to us dating. SHE STILL WASN'T OVER HIM. By the time she finally got over him I had lost interest. Don't make the same mistake I did. There are other nice girls out there.