GUYS - Are you honest with women about..

[Lestat]

the number of chicks you have had sex with?

I'd imagine that once the number gets too high its a turn off to women, especially initially. How do you get around that? Just never fessing up? Or do you just under estimate?

I've been sexually active 11 years, only had 2 serious long term girlfriends that took up about 2 years each. That leave 7 years of almost casual sex... that can do some damage.

Also, on a side note that is somewhat related... since I'm jumping back into the dating scene I got STD tested. (I used to do this once a year before I got serious with my last girlfriend). Proud to say I am still clean on all counts.

 

[plornive]

I still haven't figured that one out.

If I was definitely looking for a serious relationship, I would leave it open ended... I would be very vague and let her figure it out gradually. I wouldn't want to have any regrets and I wouldn't want to have to pretend. There's no reason you have to be forthright or answer all of her questions at first.

But it's hard because "looking" for a relationship would not be my idea of enjoyment. I say something different to each girl... if something turned into a relationship, I might have to deal with some lies.

 

[SoreArms]

I don't like to date goody two shoes chicks in the first place, so if she's curious/naive/stupid enough to ask, I'd tell her.

I, like you, have a long time of casual dating with only two relationships, both long term.

SoreArms Dating Stats
Age 27
started dating: 15
first got laid: 17
first real relationship: 21
duration of relationship: 1.5 years
second relationship: 23
duration of relationship: 3+ years
total partners: unkown, but not exageratedly high, I just can't remember. Estimated in the low 30's.
current status: single

Personally, I learned my lesson about asking, so I don't any more. Yes, I can be/have been a bit slutty, but I am into total commitment when in a relationship, and thats what should matter!

 

[jerseyart]

If I meet someone with LT potential and she asks (I never ask like SA, prolly don't want to know anyway) I just tell her "That's in the past,it's not something I'm proud of, and I'd like to leave it there and start fresh with you. If it really is important I'll tell you, but I'd rather not cloud up the future with the past."

At 36 if a person doesn't have baggage the haven't been alive, and no matter what people say, or how secure they think they are, it is always an issue better left unsaid

 

[slickdadd]

I usually have a flow chart in a nice binder ready on every date I go on just in case that question comes up. I whip it out and give all the yearly averages, mins and maxes, and other descriptive stats.

 

[MAX 300]

No,

and that is the one thing in my life I regret and am ashamed of.

I wish I hadn't slept with as many women as I have.

 

[gonelifting]

I keep both women`s phone numbers with me at all times. Just in case the chick needs references.

 

[bran987]

you are in a negotiation, always find out her number first, never crack or give a direct answer, drives 'em crazy too

 

[Dial_tone]

I can't recall the last time a girl even asked me that.

 

[Lumberg]

I must admit it makes me uncomfortable, and I don't think it's particularly relevant.

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