So This is Why I havent been around...

[darkprince319]

Hey bro, I eveything has been said, but dont take her back if she did cheat, if you take her back its like your telling her it ok to cheat... she seems like she wants to go out and party prob regrets dating young so she was to experiment what she is missing out.

I had a similar prob with this before went out with this girl for 2 years, but she started to change slowly, making excuses to not to chill making some phony excuses why she didnt pick up, so i wasnt stupid so I confronted her saying your acting diff, is there a reason she denied...so basically I ended up dumping her she was mad but I found out she was flrting at her job where she works at hooters go figure right???

My point is bro that take control now and be a man(not saying your not) just do what you have to do before you getmessed over and heart broken for a while bc yall are married it would be hard...

Hope this helps bra


Dalla

 

[krishna]

I didn't think you were flaming me at all...


At the time I knew the relationship was doomed because I felt like I was settling on him.. because I didn't want to be alone, and because I love him... people dont judge people if you have no idea of there history...

that boy is still in my life and I consider him family.. I was confused at the time about WHAT kind of Love I have for him... He will always be in my life and we will always be close but we should not be together...

and I do know what I want now... I have dated A LOT and found out exactly what I DONT WANT.. weeded my way down through the men and different personalities that way first.. so much so that I thought the man of my dreams didn't exist or COULDN't exist... I have now found one VERY CLOSE to my ideal with one exception... but I know no one is perfect.. so we will see.. But at least if it doesn't work out I know that men like this exist so it is not all for a loss... And I know that I still have the ability to love even though I have been hurt so many times...

I hear ya! I've been bitter towards committed relationships for a long time. I'm just now starting to see the bright side of committing to one girl again. Short-term relationships and flings were fun for a while, but they get old and so impersonal. I'm having to re-learn that relationships are about companionship and emotional support. I still feel that marriage is a joke because I've pounded my brain with statistics to justify my bitterness. I now feel that if you're really gonna be with someone for the long run, you don't need a piece of paper to ruin it for you. So on a helpful note to this guy, a lot of us feel your pain bro. Definitely best to move on, at least for now.

 

[silverbackn]

My heart goes out to you bro! I just lost the love of my life, we weren't married but I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her. This shit hurts something awful. All I can say is that time heals all wounds, and that you will find a good one. Keep your head up and keep grinding!

 

[darkprince319]

yea man good advice givien from silverbackn, time does heal everything sometimes more and sometimes less, just go spend more time with your friends, go to the gym anything where you have to not think about her, it will be tuff but the sooner the better bro...trust me man been there done that

 

[wellbilt]

hang in there bro

 

[JIMguy]

Feelin for you bro.... only one thing i have not seen advised to u and in ur situation right now, especially with her living with you still is this- she has the upper hand.... switch that shit up on her, but not necessarily the way everyone has told u too. Right now she thinks shes got u. Shes trying to de- ball u even as we speak. Even though she might still have feelings of love for u which she probably does, EVERY woman, whether concious or sub, wants to know that she was important enough to break u. She wants to see that drained look in ur eye.. as if ur life is now suddenly meaningless. She wants to c u depressed. She wants to c u stop eating. She wants to c u outta the gym, turning ur life to shit over ur one lost tru love. she wants to feel like she was the center of ur universe. Ur wondering why shes being mean?.. b/c she sees the effect she has had on u, a nice good looking guy, and it makes her feel like a fuckin queen knowing shes tearin u apart. Instead of simply screwing new girls or this or that, show her that u could give less of a fuck! Ur life is the best starting fom right now. couldnt be better. With or without her ur still a fun loving nice guy, and ur going to continue living. Pretend like nothings bothering u and like maybe the break up was for the best. She cheated and it will never be forgiven, but after this point on.. u will no longer give her a seconds thought. Make her feel like u washed ur hands of the situation. It's ur first impulse to let ur wife kno how bad she hurt u and how could she does this and all that.... but wats the fuckin use? Nothing can change, what she did is wat she did, and even if u love her, u kno u can never take her back after she betrayed u. Its tough to pretend, but put on the best damn act that u can. TRUST ME, when she completely believes that u dont think of her for one minute all the shit this bitch has done is gonna hit her like a ton of bricks. Could take some time, but when it does happen u'll kno, and then u'll ultimately get some closeure. Best of luck.

 

[LVTitan]

Not all American women are whores, I will pretend you made a spelling mistake this time.

most of the ones i've found, even the one that was marriage material and perfect in every way, 3 years later: whore, cheat
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mistaking kindness for weakness, all women are suspect..

and DIVISION was around when i went thru it all, he knows exactly what i'm refering to...
sucks bro,
trust me when i say this, TIME HEALS ALL WOUNDS, it may take weeks, more than likely months, but keep ur fucking chin up.
remember women change A LOT during their 20's, i've had 3 of them that i started dating when they were early 20s, and they all changed and wandered, (then grew up and wanted it all back haha)
women change,
but the weights are always the same. stay in the gym. this is hard advice to take i know, because when it happened to me i got too depressed to work out or sleep or even eat, and i dropped below 130lbs !

PS: division, guess who's called me every day in the last fucking week? apparantly the grass wasnt greener after all... i'm cool with her , but dont worry man, i'm not taking her back again ~~

 

[krishna]

Feelin for you bro.... only one thing i have not seen advised to u and in ur situation right now, especially with her living with you still is this- she has the upper hand.... switch that shit up on her, but not necessarily the way everyone has told u too. Right now she thinks shes got u. Shes trying to de- ball u even as we speak. Even though she might still have feelings of love for u which she probably does, EVERY woman, whether concious or sub, wants to know that she was important enough to break u. She wants to see that drained look in ur eye.. as if ur life is now suddenly meaningless. She wants to c u depressed. She wants to c u stop eating. She wants to c u outta the gym, turning ur life to shit over ur one lost tru love. she wants to feel like she was the center of ur universe. Ur wondering why shes being mean?.. b/c she sees the effect she has had on u, a nice good looking guy, and it makes her feel like a fuckin queen knowing shes tearin u apart. Instead of simply screwing new girls or this or that, show her that u could give less of a fuck! Ur life is the best starting fom right now. couldnt be better. With or without her ur still a fun loving nice guy, and ur going to continue living. Pretend like nothings bothering u and like maybe the break up was for the best. She cheated and it will never be forgiven, but after this point on.. u will no longer give her a seconds thought. Make her feel like u washed ur hands of the situation. It's ur first impulse to let ur wife kno how bad she hurt u and how could she does this and all that.... but wats the fuckin use? Nothing can change, what she did is wat she did, and even if u love her, u kno u can never take her back after she betrayed u. Its tough to pretend, but put on the best damn act that u can. TRUST ME, when she completely believes that u dont think of her for one minute all the shit this bitch has done is gonna hit her like a ton of bricks. Could take some time, but when it does happen u'll kno, and then u'll ultimately get some closeure. Best of luck.

Kind of what I meant by telling you to forget about her. Don't be bitter, just put her out of your mind like she doesn't exist. This will help you deal with life, and at the same time it will kill her (which she deserves). Don't think about that though. Don't think about getting back at her. Be the best person you can be and karma will take care of itself......trust me!

 

[Ulcasterdropout]

I'm surprised there isn't more serial rapists.
The shit you guys put up with for women...

Did she ever fess up to fucking this dude?

 

[LVTitan]

Once again division…. I read your first few posts on here and I couldn’t read anymore… yes there are lots of bad women but there are also lots of bad men…

You can not generalize all women.. I am in my early 20’s and I KNOW what I want… You have to look at each female separately.. I have been on my own since I was 14. I got married to my high school sweetheart in vegas and was working on getting it annulled days later... And I can admit that I had the grass is greener feeling and left him… I am just about to turn 23 and I know the EXACT man I want.. But in this case, he has left me… I guess karma is always the winner…


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i really hate to disagree with you becca, but all the ealry 20's girls i dated all KNEW what they wanted too, trust me girl , you will change phsyically and mentally over the course of the next 10 years... it's a simple fact.