So This is Why I havent been around...

[Slydog]

This is something that Ironmaster PM'd me. Ive posted this many times before, and it helped me through the toughest time of my life.

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I've said this several times, so I'm not sure which post you mean. But, yes, I've been through life's ups and downs. My first marriage ended badly, I've had successes and failures in business, I've fought the battles of raising teenagers, lost loved ones......this shit just happens if you live long enough.
The one constant thing in my life has been the training. The gym is a place of truth and honor. The iron and steel is always there waiting for you, and always gives back exactly what you put in. The determination, sacrifice and hardwork required to be successful there will spill over into all your endeavors in life.
Yes, women and money and friends come and go, but a 45lb. plate always weighs 45lbs.
When things are in the shitter, I've always just renewed my dedication to training and the brotherhood we all share. And you know, things always get better.
My second wife is great.....shares my interest in enhanced training, cooks my food just right, is a great mom to our 5 sons, and is much younger and prettier than I deserve.......but if it went down the dumper tomorrow, I'm still going to the gym.
Hang in there, man, it'll be ok.

IM

Great post bro, this is so.. true. I was in a very similiar situation with a girl that I was with for 6yrs. I was certainly no angel but I always treated her with respect I was devoted to her and gave her everything I had. Then she took my heart stepped on it, spit on it, and left me for dead. At the time I was training for my first competition and needles to say for at least a week or two my training, diet and stress levels were out of control. I took all those feelings and emotions to the gym and let loose on the weights> I refocused and was determined to show her that while she can knock me down she can't knock me out. To make a long story short I won the show and haven't looked back since.
Show that bitch she just made the mistake of her life and move on. Attack the weights and get up on some strange bro you definitely deserve it.

 

[courtneybcca]

Once again division…. I read your first few posts on here and I couldn’t read anymore… yes there are lots of bad women but there are also lots of bad men…

You can not generalize all women.. I am in my early 20’s and I KNOW what I want… You have to look at each female separately.. I have been on my own since I was 14. I got married to my high school sweetheart in vegas and was working on getting it annulled days later... And I can admit that I had the grass is greener feeling and left him… I am just about to turn 23 and I know the EXACT man I want.. But in this case, he has left me… I guess karma is always the winner…

Men play the same games… And they also like the bad girls..

It is really sad to say but if you naturally an honest, open, and loving person… No matter if your male or female assholes will take advantage of your feelings and stomp on your heart…

Relationships SUCK… diamondcutcows I am sorry to have jacked your thread but I had to say something…

I really feel your pain because I am going through the same feelings right now.. I know how much you are hurting and it is a horrible thing… But at least you can say that you know what real love is. A lot of people are emotionally retarded and can’t open up their heart enough to allow themselves to feel.

I totally understand that you love this lady and you want the situation to stay the way it is.. But you are forced to face the reality of the situation. And No one can sugar coat it for you DATING SUCKS!!

This is something I learned in my psychology class that might help you see the scientific approach this..

There are the 5 steps of grieving process through a bad situation

1. denial - which you have already gone through that stage
2. anger - I think you have been though this one as well
3. bargining - you are probably between 3-4 trying to figure out this situation
4. depression – the obvious one
5. acceptance -- this is when you will accept the result and move on… which is the hardest phase.. But you are already half way through so you don’t have to much more to go…

Good LUCK…. Just remember that karma always comes around so she will get hers.. And you will some day find someone that is truly deserving of you.

 

[wutangnomo]

Time to start inviting female friends over to your place. Make sure to have raunchy dirty wild sex. Leave used condoms and womens panties scattered throughout.

 

[doublebicep]

I frankly don't care whether you agree with my points or not. I'm here to give him advice from a male's perspective on women and why they do what they do. She cheated and I think it's best he moves on.

Once a woman cheats, in my eyes she's tainted. I'd never get back with a woman who cheated on me. I just can't see her the same way again, either emotionally or physically......once another guy's pounded her, I don't consider her mine anymore.

That's just the way it is.






DIV

Yep, and think about how you could ever trust her again? Also, don't be surprise that once you do start to move on she comes running back to you. Be ready for that. Know up front, will you have her back or not?

 

[quizkid]

Cow,

You need to move on. It will hurt for years. It took me almost 10 years to fully get over how bad my first real love hurt me. I think she kind of enjoyed seeing me hurt.

Unfortunatley, you will probably treat the next couple girls like crap as a weird way of getting even.

It's a tough spot brother. All I can say is stay close with your true friends, train and don't feel sorry for yourself. There are alot of good people out there.

Start looking (not at the bars or gym either).

I found my wife of 7 years at a library.

good luck

chilly

 

[DIVISION]

Time to start inviting female friends over to your place. Make sure to have raunchy dirty wild sex. Leave used condoms and womens panties scattered throughout.

Now that's revenge.....do all this while she's still living there?

Damn, Wu-Wu.......you're an evil lil' bastard.



DIV

 

[DIVISION]

Yep, and think about how you could ever trust her again? Also, don't be surprise that once you do start to move on she comes running back to you. Be ready for that. Know up front, will you have her back or not?

The problem is, I'm not sure if he's strong enough to cut ties and wash his hands of the whole situation. Yes, she'll probably try to crawl back eventually, but I only hope he's strong willed enough to be resolute in his decicion, whatever that may be.

Like I said, once a woman cheats, I wouldn't be able to take her back under any circumstances. CowCutter seems like the type of guy who might take her back, but I hope he understand that he might be setting himself up for a bigger fall later down the line.




DIV

 

[Tweakle]

thats rough man. But it's a major problem with younger girls, especially ones who have slutty partygirl friends to influence them (and pursuade them they're missing out on something important by not spending their weekends dancing & having skinny little coked-up dudes hitting on them).

Sucks but learn from it, deal with the pain and them move on and have some fun. I like the idea of spending a little quality time with the guy she's fucking, it'll help get it out your system and you wont feel like a victim.

 

[maldorf]

I have been married 2x, my first wife was unfaitful to me. She lied to me for awhile about being home late from work, but finally admitted to what she had done when I found his phone number hidden in her car. I think she would have continued to lie to me if i had not found that number The guy turned out to be the brother of one of her best friends, a guy who I thought was a new friend.
We were going to try to work things out. One night she was late comming home again. I went to her friends house and caught her screwing him there in a rv parked in the driveway. Worst of all, she was wearing the nightgown given to her by her sister that she wore on our wedding night.
At first you might want to hurt the guy, I know I did, but I am glad I did nothing. Walking away from it makes you a real man. Doing jail time over beating up a deadbeat isnt worth it either!
Once a cheater, always a cheater. These people cannot be trusted, get out now while it will be fairly easy. I hope you dont have any kids or major assets to divide up, we did not.
I am glad that we divorced and that it is over. About 2 years later she called my father's house trying to find where I was, of course he did not tell her. It turns out she had moved in with the guy but things did not work out for them. She was trying to get me back.
I think the thing I miss the most about our marriage was her family, not her. I miss her mom,dad, and sister. These people were great, I am much better off now without her.
Things were pretty hard the first 5 months or so, but it does get easier. The day the divorce goes through is kinda rough too, it brings back all the pain. Once that has all passed, years of time pass and you almost forget how bad it was. I remarried 4 years later and am still married happily now for 9 years with 2 little girls.

 

[Popeye1]

That really sucks....I've been there. Try everything you can to hold the marriage together. You have to at least give it a shot. If that fails, hey, you're young enough.....get out of that mess and find a real woman. You'll never look back!