Damn Thandie, we should all be that *fluffy* LOL but I do understand what you are saying. I am only in perimenopause and just began the hormonal lab experiment and it is not fun. But I do know 1000% (as if I had a doubt before) there is nothing that will take the place of eating better and moving about.
I don't need any progesterone yet. Just test and estrogen. We are trying to find the proper dosages. My doc will give me as much test as I like. I will up the dose as much as I want as long as there are no sides and I am happy with the result. It's not magic but it definitely makes a HYUGE difference in my fat distribution (as I noted BEFORE my hubbie dragged me on the roadtrip from hell) and my state of mental well-being (or is it the estrogen that makes me feel less crazy, I dunno) and of course, my physical well-being. The flashing and nightsweats were unbearable when they came.
I can't begin to imagine life with that crap for the REST of my life. Goodness I don't know how our mothers and grandmothers, etc survived.