My fiance left me

[C3bodybuilding3012]

This can be a tough thing to go through..clear your head and decide what you really want to do and what you want out of life. I lost someone very special to me a long time ago, I never allowed myself to fully heal or vent about it and it still haunts me. In the long road, you will be okay. The parent thing sounds a lil nutty to me anyway...coming into a private counsling session? Btw, just curious, what were these sessions for? Was there trouble before all this? If too personal, I understand. I am just trying to figure out the mindset of someone who says yes and then a week later takes off.

 

[javaguru]

This can be a tough thing to go through..clear your head and decide what you really want to do and what you want out of life. I lost someone very special to me a long time ago, I never allowed myself to fully heal or vent about it and it still haunts me. In the long road, you will be okay. The parent thing sounds a lil nutty to me anyway...coming into a private counsling session? Btw, just curious, what were these sessions for? Was there trouble before all this? If too personal, I understand. I am just trying to figure out the mindset of someone who says yes and then a week later takes off.

Cut all ties physically and emotionally is my best advice. That doesn't mean banging the first or as many chicks as you can but getting right with yourself....don't be that crazy dude.

 

[the.gladiator1987]

This can be a tough thing to go through..clear your head and decide what you really want to do and what you want out of life. I lost someone very special to me a long time ago, I never allowed myself to fully heal or vent about it and it still haunts me. In the long road, you will be okay. The parent thing sounds a lil nutty to me anyway...coming into a private counsling session? Btw, just curious, what were these sessions for? Was there trouble before all this? If too personal, I understand. I am just trying to figure out the mindset of someone who says yes and then a week later takes off.

Thanks bro

The sessions were just something we were advised to go through as a young couple before getting married. It was through our church. Me and my ex always went together every week and talked about things like finances, relationships, understanding eachother, etc. And in a biblical way how to make the marriage work.

There was no trouble, beside the fact that I had no current job. HOWEVER i had a side job and her job with mine we had enough income to start out and pay for everything. The parents knew this, my ex knew this, and the counselors knew this from the very beginning.

I dont know why she took off and kicked me out in such a hurry, we never had a HUGE fight in the last month, maybe like 6 months ago, but lately we would only fight about things like i didnt do the dishes, or i was too tired to get up and go to church.

 

[samoth]

Actually from reading your posts you are not only a provaricator & twit I think you are really, really, really challenged mentally and emotionally.

Well, he is really just a kid. Most people aren't ready to be married at 20 in today's society of college and graduate school and 20s-are-for-fun culture. Further, someone as young as him with only one relationship for the past five years (most of his sexual maturity) is probably another reason for the regression to 15-year-old I-want-pussy-NOW mentality.

 

[musclemom]

Well, he is really just a kid. Most people aren't ready to be married at 20 in today's society of college and graduate school and 20s-are-for-fun culture. Further, someone as young as him with only one relationship for the past five years (most of his sexual maturity) is probably another reason for the regression to 15-year-old I-want-pussy-NOW mentality.

Yes, he is a kid. Which is why, when he created this particular gem of a thread discussing his impending marriage (and existing speeding tickets) on Feb. 4, 2009:

http://www.elitefitness.com/forum/chat-conversation/40-gym-membership-bills-639183.html

Everyone of us was telling him, "DON'T DO IT."

Now, how the logistics work of the fact that he proposed to his GF a week ago and she just dumped him when he was planning on getting married back in Feb., I dunno. Maybe he really is smarter than he appears on this board and has managed time travel?

But remember, he knows much, much more about life, living, and relationships than I, or anyone else who has been married, divorced, or even has children his age or older, could ever possibly know. In fact, he's far smarter than his GF's parents, and his pastor, and anyone else who doesn't possess the breadth of his vision, the depth of his knowledge, or the vastness of his experiences.

In fact, I hope someday but to be able to sit at the feet of the.guardian, or another such as himself, merely to drink in such wisdom. I dream of this, as one who has crawled through the desert dreams of drinking from cool clear running streams

I wax far too prosaic, definitely time for me to hit the hay.

 

[Razorguns]

Yes, he is a kid. Which is why, when he created this particular gem of a thread discussing his impending marriage (and existing speeding tickets) on Feb. 4, 2009:

http://www.elitefitness.com/forum/chat-conversation/40-gym-membership-bills-639183.html

Everyone of us was telling him, "DON'T DO IT."

Now, how the logistics work of the fact that he proposed to his GF a week ago and she just dumped him when he was planning on getting married back in Feb., I dunno. Maybe he really is smarter than he appears on this board and has managed time travel?

But remember, he knows much, much more about life, living, and relationships than I, or anyone else who has been married, divorced, or even has children his age or older, could ever possibly know. In fact, he's far smarter than his GF's parents, and his pastor, and anyone else who doesn't possess the breadth of his vision, the depth of his knowledge, or the vastness of his experiences.

In fact, I hope someday but to be able to sit at the feet of the.guardian, or another such as himself, merely to drink in such wisdom. I dream of this, as one who has crawled through the desert dreams of drinking from cool clear running streams

I wax far too prosaic, definitely time for me to hit the hay.

When on the internets has anyone, regardless of age, admit they didn't know everything about everything on the planet? lol

Anywhere on the internet, people proudly demand that everyone knows that they know everything. And if you doubt them, fuck you!

Which is why their lives in real life are perfect.

r

 

[MsBeverlyHills]

Ok So Im 20, shes 19. We dated for 4 1/2 years until we decided to get married. I proposed to her about a week ago but we were planning the wedding for June for the last couple months.

A couple days ago, we went into a counseling meeting and her parents were there. All of a sudden they say whats the rush, and my ex is saying that she feels that God is convicting her to not get married, and it would go against his will to get married. WTF? Then the counselors ask how im supporting her, and I said i had a job lined up, but everyone already knew I didnt have a job right away and we went on with the planning for the wedding.

Just kinda venting here, but a week after I propose and she says yes, she leaves me, kicks me out of her house, and doesnt talk to me. I know were done but any tips on how I can just not even think of her or get sad to think about her. I want to move on now and I know im young so everything is good, just what she did really hurt. Thanks everyone heres a pic of us

http://i14.photobucket.com/albums/a316/hehateme00000/meandgirlsexy.jpghttp://i14.photobucket.com/albums/a316/hehateme00000/meandgirlsexy.jpg

wow.. this sounds like a plot to a movie.... oh yeah it was a movie-- License to Wed!! lol

seriously, listen to the other posters- you are too young & inexperienced to get married...get a job or go back to school- get your life on-track before you make a major commitment like this.

good luck

 

[Wulfgar]

hey bro...same thing happened to me...10 day engagement and then given back the ring.....but worse...far worse


takes some time but its just that she isnt ready. take it as a sign....you will prolly thank her later

 

[the.gladiator1987]

hey bro...same thing happened to me...10 day engagement and then given back the ring.....but worse...far worse


takes some time but its just that she isnt ready. take it as a sign....you will prolly thank her later

Yea will do, im glad theres no contact either right now that would just make me think about her more, but im keeping busy so all is good

lol razr i know what you mean, everyone on internet is perfect, lol i never said i was tho and idk why MM takes it like i am or something

and why are you calling me the.guardian? its gladiator

thanks for responses everyone, its good to get advice and logical advice from people that have no reason to be emotional over it.

 

[Bikini Mod]

When on the internets has anyone, regardless of age, admit they didn't know everything about everything on the planet? lol

Anywhere on the internet, people proudly demand that everyone knows that they know everything. And if you doubt them, fuck you!

Which is why their lives in real life are perfect.

r

I may have posted this regarding myself about a million times. YOu must have missed them, that is not MY bad.

I do believe I posted "there isn't anyone person who knows everything there is to know about everything" within the last seven days as a matter of fact.

Oh yea and Gladiator, you are young... we get it. Good lord do we get it. Why don't you ask my husband what he was doing with his life when he was your age? Pssssssssssssshhhhh 20 was OLD for him. Ask him what he was doing when he was 16. Hey, while we are at it why don't you ask me what I was doing at your age?

My husband didn't have a choice in growing up as quickly as he did whereas ME, THE DUMBASS DID have a choice and I went and screwed it all up anyway because I was *READY* to be a full-fledged grown-up. NOBODY in my family has laughed about the stupid choice I made over 20 years ago... least of all my children. They can't laugh, they are too busy being abused.

The only reason any of us on this thread gave you a hard time is because you came off like SUCH an arrogant, unintelligent, hypocritical moron regarding your religious views. Perhaps we shouldn't have because you've already admittedlu felt the need to *hold back* or *not expose* your intelligence during every single one of those posts and what fun is there in having yet another battle of wits with an unarmed man?

I feel so empty.

Have fun with the impending pussy-massacre but will they go in christ with you? Or I guess it won't matter because they won't "know" the lord. As long as one party engaged in the fornication olympics knows who the boss is, then I guess that makes it ok for both. Good thing for your immortal soul that jesus died for it. This way all you "believers" get as many get out of hell cards free as you need.

Dammit, see now I was absent that day in sunday school. I miss ALL the good stuff.