Bikinimom:
I am glad your are currently very happy. Having said that I'm aware of women who are happy in less traditional relationships. Whatever works for the couple is great I guess
I do understand that if one is completely infatuated with another, this may lend itself to excessively chivalry. But I don't understand why it doesn't work both ways. I mean there is no reason why both the guy and girl can't do nice things for each other - taking/shouting out impromptu to some nice venue. Further, I can't see why these "nice things" are restricted to tradition - e.g., husband taking wife out to dinner; wife preparing husband a meal. The relationship can be equal and reciprocal in this regard I think.
The inequality of "traditional" relationships has practical virtues; it narrows areas of dispute if both parties accede "the traditional contract", as any activity will presumably be guided by one party without debate. But it would seem stifling and oppressive (to both parties) to me, preordaining our behavior to some degree.
Having said that, I have never been exceedingly infatuated with anyone; you have. So so far, its advantage you lol