So This is Why I havent been around...

[sparetire]

Let me ask you this.. was your wife ever physically or sexually abused as a child? Or let me ask you this, how's the marriage of her parents? Is daddy still around ? Is he married to her mom still? A lot of girls will act out in chaotic ways reinacting trauma from their past. They do this to fullfill a need to "fix" something from the past. I bet you know the answer to this, and if not, I'd dig deeper. We all haven't had perfect childhoods, but man, when you screw with a girl , sexually, physically, mentally in their childhood, they sure as hell act out later in life. Most likely, I'd bet dad and mom had a divorce sometime and she's acting out now because she's getting to close to you and it feels uncomfortable, so she needs to cause chaos. If she doesn't want to go to marriage counseling and then probably therapy, she's not worth it. And yes, you probably did get married to young. Hope this sheds some light on it..

 

[DiamondCutCows]

Let me ask you this.. was your wife ever physically or sexually abused as a child? Or let me ask you this, how's the marriage of her parents? Is daddy still around ? Is he married to her mom still? A lot of girls will act out in chaotic ways reinacting trauma from their past. They do this to fullfill a need to "fix" something from the past. I bet you know the answer to this, and if not, I'd dig deeper. We all haven't had perfect childhoods, but man, when you screw with a girl , sexually, physically, mentally in their childhood, they sure as hell act out later in life. Most likely, I'd bet dad and mom had a divorce sometime and she's acting out now because she's getting to close to you and it feels uncomfortable, so she needs to cause chaos. If she doesn't want to go to marriage counseling and then probably therapy, she's not worth it. And yes, you probably did get married to young. Hope this sheds some light on it..

Interesting, she was raped at about 14-15yrs and her dad is a step dad. I'll agree that SHE got married to young though. I didnt. I enjoy being a husband and wish none of this nonsense ruined it for us.

I'll move on and be ok, eventually

 

[uglyass]

Hope it works out for you bro, you sound like a decent guy.

You'll train better when you're single anyway as you can stay in the gym all night!

UglyASS

 

[BIGJAKE]

Here's my take on this, CowCutter.....


Anytime a woman cheats it's because she not being fullfilled in some way in her relationship. In this case, she feels that this guy at her work can give her something that you are not giving her. Her age is a big reason why she has decided to do this, women in their 20's aren't that mature relationship-wise and perhaps she feels that she is too young to settle down. That doesn't mean she didn't love you and have the best intentions when you first met. Things change, people change; her feelings for you have changed.

The reason she is being "mean" as you put it is because she feels some guilt because she's cheated and she doesn't like it, therefore her way of acting out is to be "mean" and treat you like shit. A woman in a relationship is like a soldier in war, it's kill or be killed and she has decided to kill you. There's nothing more for you to do and you don't owe her anything as she is the one who ended the relationship. In the future make sure any woman you commit to has some degree of maturity, or you may fall victim to the same fate.

One last thing: In relationships, women tend to be very self-protective, they think of their own emotions first and they will hurt you to avoid being hurt. Keep that in mind and you will be trouble free.



Sorry if this all seems blunt, but it's the only way I can be. I hope you understand.





DIV

I would have to say Div. nailed it down here. Sorry to here of this Bro.

 

[CrazyK]

I frankly don't care whether you agree with my points or not. I'm here to give him advice from a male's perspective on women and why they do what they do. She cheated and I think it's best he moves on.

Once a woman cheats, in my eyes she's tainted. I'd never get back with a woman who cheated on me. I just can't see her the same way again, either emotionally or physically......once another guy's pounded her, I don't consider her mine anymore.

That's just the way it is.






DIV

I'd fucking slit a bitches throat if she cheated on me.

 

[CrazyK]

Interesting, she was raped at about 14-15yrs and her dad is a step dad. I'll agree that SHE got married to young though. I didnt. I enjoy being a husband and wish none of this nonsense ruined it for us.

I'll move on and be ok, eventually

Yeah bro, just move on. Sucks that she came from such a messed up upbringing, but stay away from those women man, they have deeper issues than you can ever imagine, and it's not your job to play psychiatrist.

 

[DIVISION]

I'd fucking slit a bitches throat if she cheated on me.

When they turn out the lights I'll be there in the dark, thuggin' eternal through my heart......

Hail Mary...






DIV

 

[Steve The Bluesman]

Well my wife of 4 years suddenly decided one day that she is too young (24) to be married and wants to start going clubbing and meeting new people.

We did get married very young, but Im mature enough for it, where she obviously is not.

Her reasoning is suspect if that. She told me she goes to lunch with a dude at work. I asked if he had her #, she said NO. Sure enough he calls five minutes later while she is in the shower and his # is already programmed in the phone.

Anyways, she has changed very much in the last few weeks and my marriage is over. I love nothing more than coming home to the same girl everynight and holding her while we sleep. Im just now trying to move on with my life...

FWIW, this has ruined my cycle. About a month ago I tore my deltoid and held weight (239) while I didnt lift, but in the last two weeks I have fallen down to 220ish. I cant eat or sleep, but I continue to hit the weights a few times a week.

She has been very mean to me also. She even admits that I did nothing to deserve this.

So why treat me like this???

Please dont move this MODS. C+C guys dont know me and wont give a crap...

Wow. You have an ugly few months to get through - but once you get past the mess, there will be light at the other end.

Forget revenge, forget the past, learn the lesson and become a better man for it.

Best of luck bro.


Bluesman

 

[sweed]

really sorry to hear all this bro... I am shocked to hear this from you telling me before about her. I hope everything goes well and when you're feelin better, take a trip down to my work (u remember where i work rght ) and party up to find some new friends. i hope you feel better soon. it always hurts for a little while, but then u get past that to see the real truth about people..

 

[krishna]

She betrayed you bro. Even if she wanted you back, best to move on. It will never be the same anyway. Four years is a long time, but do your best to start moving on; it's for the best. Who gives a shit why that bitch fucked you over, point is SHE DID! She isn't worth a second glance anymore. Just start ignoring her from here on out, that will hurt her the most, plus help you move on. Plenty of women out there bro, if you ask me, marriage is usually a mistake.