So This is Why I havent been around...

[darkprince319]

Hey bro, I eveything has been said, but dont take her back if she did cheat, if you take her back its like your telling her it ok to cheat... she seems like she wants to go out and party prob regrets dating young so she was to experiment what she is missing out.

I had a similar prob with this before went out with this girl for 2 years, but she started to change slowly, making excuses to not to chill making some phony excuses why she didnt pick up, so i wasnt stupid so I confronted her saying your acting diff, is there a reason she denied...so basically I ended up dumping her she was mad but I found out she was flrting at her job where she works at hooters go figure right???

My point is bro that take control now and be a man(not saying your not) just do what you have to do before you getmessed over and heart broken for a while bc yall are married it would be hard...

Hope this helps bra


Dalla

 

[krishna]

I didn't think you were flaming me at all...


At the time I knew the relationship was doomed because I felt like I was settling on him.. because I didn't want to be alone, and because I love him... people dont judge people if you have no idea of there history...

that boy is still in my life and I consider him family.. I was confused at the time about WHAT kind of Love I have for him... He will always be in my life and we will always be close but we should not be together...

and I do know what I want now... I have dated A LOT and found out exactly what I DONT WANT.. weeded my way down through the men and different personalities that way first.. so much so that I thought the man of my dreams didn't exist or COULDN't exist... I have now found one VERY CLOSE to my ideal with one exception... but I know no one is perfect.. so we will see.. But at least if it doesn't work out I know that men like this exist so it is not all for a loss... And I know that I still have the ability to love even though I have been hurt so many times...

I hear ya! I've been bitter towards committed relationships for a long time. I'm just now starting to see the bright side of committing to one girl again. Short-term relationships and flings were fun for a while, but they get old and so impersonal. I'm having to re-learn that relationships are about companionship and emotional support. I still feel that marriage is a joke because I've pounded my brain with statistics to justify my bitterness. I now feel that if you're really gonna be with someone for the long run, you don't need a piece of paper to ruin it for you. So on a helpful note to this guy, a lot of us feel your pain bro. Definitely best to move on, at least for now.

 

[silverbackn]

My heart goes out to you bro! I just lost the love of my life, we weren't married but I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her. This shit hurts something awful. All I can say is that time heals all wounds, and that you will find a good one. Keep your head up and keep grinding!

 

[darkprince319]

yea man good advice givien from silverbackn, time does heal everything sometimes more and sometimes less, just go spend more time with your friends, go to the gym anything where you have to not think about her, it will be tuff but the sooner the better bro...trust me man been there done that

 

[wellbilt]

hang in there bro

 

[JIMguy]

Feelin for you bro.... only one thing i have not seen advised to u and in ur situation right now, especially with her living with you still is this- she has the upper hand.... switch that shit up on her, but not necessarily the way everyone has told u too. Right now she thinks shes got u. Shes trying to de- ball u even as we speak. Even though she might still have feelings of love for u which she probably does, EVERY woman, whether concious or sub, wants to know that she was important enough to break u. She wants to see that drained look in ur eye.. as if ur life is now suddenly meaningless. She wants to c u depressed. She wants to c u stop eating. She wants to c u outta the gym, turning ur life to shit over ur one lost tru love. she wants to feel like she was the center of ur universe. Ur wondering why shes being mean?.. b/c she sees the effect she has had on u, a nice good looking guy, and it makes her feel like a fuckin queen knowing shes tearin u apart. Instead of simply screwing new girls or this or that, show her that u could give less of a fuck! Ur life is the best starting fom right now. couldnt be better. With or without her ur still a fun loving nice guy, and ur going to continue living. Pretend like nothings bothering u and like maybe the break up was for the best. She cheated and it will never be forgiven, but after this point on.. u will no longer give her a seconds thought. Make her feel like u washed ur hands of the situation. It's ur first impulse to let ur wife kno how bad she hurt u and how could she does this and all that.... but wats the fuckin use? Nothing can change, what she did is wat she did, and even if u love her, u kno u can never take her back after she betrayed u. Its tough to pretend, but put on the best damn act that u can. TRUST ME, when she completely believes that u dont think of her for one minute all the shit this bitch has done is gonna hit her like a ton of bricks. Could take some time, but when it does happen u'll kno, and then u'll ultimately get some closeure. Best of luck.

 

[LVTitan]

Not all American women are whores, I will pretend you made a spelling mistake this time.

most of the ones i've found, even the one that was marriage material and perfect in every way, 3 years later: whore, cheat
,
mistaking kindness for weakness, all women are suspect..

and DIVISION was around when i went thru it all, he knows exactly what i'm refering to...
sucks bro,
trust me when i say this, TIME HEALS ALL WOUNDS, it may take weeks, more than likely months, but keep ur fucking chin up.
remember women change A LOT during their 20's, i've had 3 of them that i started dating when they were early 20s, and they all changed and wandered, (then grew up and wanted it all back haha)
women change,
but the weights are always the same. stay in the gym. this is hard advice to take i know, because when it happened to me i got too depressed to work out or sleep or even eat, and i dropped below 130lbs !

PS: division, guess who's called me every day in the last fucking week? apparantly the grass wasnt greener after all... i'm cool with her , but dont worry man, i'm not taking her back again ~~

 

[krishna]

Feelin for you bro.... only one thing i have not seen advised to u and in ur situation right now, especially with her living with you still is this- she has the upper hand.... switch that shit up on her, but not necessarily the way everyone has told u too. Right now she thinks shes got u. Shes trying to de- ball u even as we speak. Even though she might still have feelings of love for u which she probably does, EVERY woman, whether concious or sub, wants to know that she was important enough to break u. She wants to see that drained look in ur eye.. as if ur life is now suddenly meaningless. She wants to c u depressed. She wants to c u stop eating. She wants to c u outta the gym, turning ur life to shit over ur one lost tru love. she wants to feel like she was the center of ur universe. Ur wondering why shes being mean?.. b/c she sees the effect she has had on u, a nice good looking guy, and it makes her feel like a fuckin queen knowing shes tearin u apart. Instead of simply screwing new girls or this or that, show her that u could give less of a fuck! Ur life is the best starting fom right now. couldnt be better. With or without her ur still a fun loving nice guy, and ur going to continue living. Pretend like nothings bothering u and like maybe the break up was for the best. She cheated and it will never be forgiven, but after this point on.. u will no longer give her a seconds thought. Make her feel like u washed ur hands of the situation. It's ur first impulse to let ur wife kno how bad she hurt u and how could she does this and all that.... but wats the fuckin use? Nothing can change, what she did is wat she did, and even if u love her, u kno u can never take her back after she betrayed u. Its tough to pretend, but put on the best damn act that u can. TRUST ME, when she completely believes that u dont think of her for one minute all the shit this bitch has done is gonna hit her like a ton of bricks. Could take some time, but when it does happen u'll kno, and then u'll ultimately get some closeure. Best of luck.

Kind of what I meant by telling you to forget about her. Don't be bitter, just put her out of your mind like she doesn't exist. This will help you deal with life, and at the same time it will kill her (which she deserves). Don't think about that though. Don't think about getting back at her. Be the best person you can be and karma will take care of itself......trust me!

 

[Ulcasterdropout]

I'm surprised there isn't more serial rapists.
The shit you guys put up with for women...

Did she ever fess up to fucking this dude?

 

[LVTitan]

Once again division…. I read your first few posts on here and I couldn’t read anymore… yes there are lots of bad women but there are also lots of bad men…

You can not generalize all women.. I am in my early 20’s and I KNOW what I want… You have to look at each female separately.. I have been on my own since I was 14. I got married to my high school sweetheart in vegas and was working on getting it annulled days later... And I can admit that I had the grass is greener feeling and left him… I am just about to turn 23 and I know the EXACT man I want.. But in this case, he has left me… I guess karma is always the winner…


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i really hate to disagree with you becca, but all the ealry 20's girls i dated all KNEW what they wanted too, trust me girl , you will change phsyically and mentally over the course of the next 10 years... it's a simple fact.

 

[fireflyer]

been there bro - almost a year ago now and it's not a whole lot easier but it is getting better. I was married for 4 years and we were together for 6. She also cheated with a guy at work so it's so common. They're common - find someone who isn't. There are women out there that can be trusted. Remember, a lot of them have the same distrust in us for the same reason.
I did find that just sleeping around a lot at the beginning made me feel better and bothered her so give that a try for a while if you like. Who knows, you could even meet the real Mrs. Right out there while you're at it.

 

[Guvna]

i really hate to disagree with you becca, but all the ealry 20's girls i dated all KNEW what they wanted too, trust me girl , you will change phsyically and mentally over the course of the next 10 years... it's a simple fact.

I agree. Personally, im glad im not in a relationship with [what seems like] her type.


I am also sorry to hear what happend. I send you some K (like its going to help, i know-but there isnt much else I can do).

Good luck bro. Listen to the guys. Stay away from her. It is over, and dont kid yourself into thinking otherwise.

 

[flyin j]

Listen, bro.
Sounds to me like you were too nice and accommodating to your wife and she took it for granted. Women who are immature don't appreciate a nice guy and the way he treats her, thus they cheat. That goes along with the true saying that women love guys who treat them like shit. Immature women need the drama in order to validate themselves in a relationship.
DIV

I totally agree.



"Life is ours we live it our way"

METALLICA
'Nothing else matters'

 

[qtgirl824]

I don't know you Diamond, but after reading your post--I really feel for you. I myself got married young (19) and its been three years and these thoughts go through your head and temptation is always there. Especially at such a young age. Your wife decidedshe didnt want to be married anymore--its not you --so dont think you did anything wrong. You said you treated her like a queen--so now you need to be treated like a king---so try to move on.. It will be tough--but you are tough and strong so you can handle it.

 

[Goldprospector]

I have to say that the best advice is DO NOT TAKE ANYONE'S ADVICE!

Bro, I will tell you that I have been in the same situation TWICE!

The reasons that both of my wives were unfulfilled was my working so much overtime (at there insistance) because of trying to provide a good lifestyle.
My first wife left after 1 1/2 years basically the same way that yours did...She started clubbing and doing shit that just was NOT the woman I married. Anyway, I took everyones advice, I tried everything that everyone said and it only made the situation worse. We ended up hating each other and things have always sucked between us since then and it has been 18 years.

My second wife, started an internet affair,after 9 years of marriage, with a dude who was 1500 miles away and in another country. It was all because she was basically lonely. when I was home, I was too tired for much of anything....the rest of the time I was at work. It is not an excuse, but it is a reason. She always begged me to work overtime so we would have more money. Anyway, I was blind for a year about the situation, the next year was miserable as hell while we lived together, after I finally found out about everything, I literally called her every name in the book, threatened to kill her and just about anything you could imagine. I tracked the guy down, drove to Canada with the solel intentions of murder on my mind...He seen me coming from a distance and I was not able to keep up and I never got my hands on him. After that, she moved out, stayed out for a year...would not give me a divorce. I just basically got on with my life, I waited on her to call me (which she did quite often). I kept telling myself how I could never have her back since she was now ruined or spoiled (in my eyes).
After a year, she came begging to come home, admitted her mistakes. We did a lot of talking (I did a lot of soul searching) about how I don't think I could ever trust her and all that shit. I told myself that I would take her back just so I would not have to pay child support for 10 years. But I can tell you from experience, WOUNDS HEAL! Things are better between us than they have ever been. I am not going to lie and say that I have not thought or dreamed about her screwing around...It still makes me sick as hell ...but I live with it and we are happy.

All I am saying bro, is go with the heart...Don't listen to everyone else. If you think you might want to try again if she is willing, then try it so you will never have second thoughts and wonder what might have been. But then again, If you don't ever want her around anymore...then move on!

It will be hard either way. I am just like you in the fact that I like being married and not having to come home to an empty house. I proved it by getting married a second time. BTW, we will soon celabrate out 17th anniversary.

 

[DIVISION]

One thing that pisses me off more and more now is the weakness of men. Why do men put themselves through shit??? There are an infinite number of women out there it seems, yet men will want to be with the dirty rat bitch whore who screwed them over. Come on guys, have some dignity and pick up your balls already. We've all been hurt. We've all gone through our share of relationship woos. One thing I will NEVER allow is letting some selfish bitch walk away with my self-respect and dignity.

When a woman walks all over you and you continue to want her, that means shes got you by the balls and has stolen your very manhood. Don't be like that pathetic guy who will still marry the broad that lied about being abducted.

Bro, I've been preachin' this shit for years.......but alot of guys just don't think the way we do. I would never EVER take a girl back who cheated, regardless of how emotionally invested I was in the relationship. It's not just a matter of trust, it's a matter of me not EVER being able to see her the same way again. If I claim a woman as mine and she cheats, she's no longer mine and I don't want her, that's how it works. That's how it's always worked. She's basically a stranger to me, no more, no less.

The most important thing any man posesses is self-dignity and respect which can be summed up by having balls. You never lose that, you never give that away no matter how many bad relationships you have or how many mistakes you make. You never give up your pride, and part of that is not allowing yourself to be whipped by a woman. By allowing a woman who has cheated on you to come back in your life you are sending her a message that you have tolerated her behaviour which always leaves the door open for her to do it again. Once you travel down that road, there's no going back. Once you lay down once, you will lay down again. She might have betrayed you, but you have betrayed yourself...





DIV

 

[krishna]

You'll never find yourself until you're alone. People are afraid to be alone. They don't realize that out of their fear comes solice and peace. Learn to see yourself through your own eyes, and not through your dependence on others. Only then will you find true freedom and independence. Only then can you stand alone in any and every situation. Once you have that peace of mind, a relationship will seem more beneficial and fulfilling. Little do people realize, being alone through this wisdom can be just as exciting. Let life be your partner. Krishna has spoken!

 

[DIVISION]

i really hate to disagree with you becca, but all the ealry 20's girls i dated all KNEW what they wanted too, trust me girl , you will change phsyically and mentally over the course of the next 10 years... it's a simple fact.

Exactly. I'm generally skeptical of women in their 20's until they show me some maturity. Trust me, I've seen that "other side" of these same women. I've been that potential "other guy" who could break up a relationship and though I've never acted on it, you'd be amazed at how many women are looking for that side action. Whether they be married or in a relationship, immature women are pure evil. The part that gets me is how whipped the guys are who are dating/married to them. To be that oblivious is part ignorance and part negligence.

most of the ones i've found, even the one that was marriage material and perfect in every way, 3 years later: whore, cheat
, mistaking kindness for weakness, all women are suspect..and DIVISION was around when i went thru it all, he knows exactly what i'm refering to..

TiTaNugga.......I'm just glad you listened to what I had to say.....You're alot stronger now, and you definitely know your shit and what to watch out for in terms of women. I'm happy that you've become battle tested.

PS: division, guess who's called me every day in the last fucking week? apparantly the grass wasnt greener after all... i'm cool with her , but dont worry man, i'm not taking her back again ~~

I still say you should drop the bitch like a bad habit........If you cut her off completely she'll understand that there's absolutely no chance of you taking her back. All a woman needs is a crack, a faint glimmer of hope and then she can start trying to work her way back in to your life. TiTaNugga, don't be "that guy".




DIV

 

[DIVISION]

You'll never find yourself until you're alone. People are afraid to be alone. They don't realize that out of their fear comes solice and peace. Learn to see yourself through your own eyes, and not through your dependence on others. Only then will you find true freedom and independence. Only then can you stand alone in any and every situation. Once you have that peace of mind, a relationship will seem more beneficial and fulfilling. Little do people realize, being alone through this wisdom can be just as exciting. Let life be your partner. Krishna has spoken!

Bro, I am also an undergrad in Psychology (Junior), yet I don't buy in to the whole lovey dovey bullshit that you are preaching. I'm realistic about people and relationships and I'm being absolutely serious when I say that women truly don't have their heads together 'till their late 20's. Enlightenment comes with experience and acceptance, but in the short term your words don't mean shit to a guy who just found out his wife has been getting dicked down by a guy from work. Apply what you've learned, Krishna......

Psychology isn't reading from a textbook, it's applying principles you learned throughout coursework to your own intuition and putting the pieces to the puzzle.

You seem like a humanist to me, which has it's own merits, but in itself is not realistic for this day and age.




DIV

 

[doublebicep]

Once a cheater, always a cheater.

I have found this to be the case for both male and females. Again, how could you ever trust her 100% ? Never. Trust, once broken, is never there 100% again.

 

[PolfaJelfa]

Cow i was wondering where you were bro.
Been in the same situation if not worse....wasnt maried though....
Bitch decided this also....decided to hook up with someone else.
Now i look for a totaly diferent woman...more mature...not a young stupid cunt who doesent kno wwhat she wants. If i hear the word "clubin" or something like that i dont even want to come within 2 ft. of a bitch like that. There are some unbelievably stupid and moronic bitches out there. Cow you remember me...and why i was out of this board for 2 yrs. A bitch RUINED MY WHOLE LIFE...for a while....never willi allow this to happen again....couldnt eat sleep etc. Was wondering why. I didnt do anything worng. Love is blind but...suck it up.....it cant be 1 sided....dont feel bad either...She is telling you you are not important and she want to be a whore and skank fuck others....cant take a commitment seriously..and is a stupid "club head bitch" so simply move on. Why woudl you want to be with someone like that.
Believe me dude ive been there...you keep feeelign..but my situation is diferent... i love her...bla bla.. bulshit.....you will see with time.

You learn from this...now on the first date i learn the most important things about woman.... Democrat/ Republican, Faith/religion/ Perspectives on life...what she wants to do with her life...
If i here the words club...and she has no goals, no faith, air head....i could not care if she was Pamela Anderson....i lay that shit strait on the table....and tell ehr the truth about wh she can go home herself!

 

[courtneybcca]

i really hate to disagree with you becca, but all the ealry 20's girls i dated all KNEW what they wanted too, trust me girl , you will change phsyically and mentally over the course of the next 10 years... it's a simple fact.

Okay so if you guys think you can generalize the whole female race then I think I should be able to generalize as well…

Here is it blunt…

Men cheat because they are horn-balls and have the biological need to spread their seed to every willing recipient.

Women cheat because there is something missing in the relationship… Be it emotional or physical..

That being said most likely you were not fucking her right.. And she became so sexually frustrated that she went looking elsewhere to fulfill that need.

She is probably being mean now because you have ignored her needs for so long that she is pissed off that all of a sudden she matters to you…

Sorry that is the bottom line…

 

[krishna]

Okay so if you guys think you can generalize the whole female race then I think I should be able to generalize as well…

Here is it blunt…

Men cheat because they are horn-balls and have the biological need to spread their seed to every willing recipient.

Women cheat because there is something missing in the relationship… Be it emotional or physical..

That being said most likely you were not fucking her right.. And she became so sexually frustrated that she went looking elsewhere to fulfill that need.

She is probably being mean now because you have ignored her needs for so long that she is pissed off that all of a sudden she matters to you…

Sorry that is the bottom line…

Ouch! I actually just finished a study on short-term relationships. It showed that men and women both prefer long-term relationships to short-term ones. Also, it showed that men do not have a greater desire than women to "spread their seed". Now it doesn't say why men and women cheat, but it does show that their desires are not significantly different. You may be on to something with why men and women cheat. If you ask me, when something is missing in a relationship, you work together to find it, you don't go and cheat on your partner. That is a very cruel and immature way for women to deal with their problems. Men, what can I say? We have no excuse when we cheat. But then again, who likes excuses? They only seem to make it worse.

 

[krishna]

Bro, I am also an undergrad in Psychology (Junior), yet I don't buy in to the whole lovey dovey bullshit that you are preaching. I'm realistic about people and relationships and I'm being absolutely serious when I say that women truly don't have their heads together 'till their late 20's. Enlightenment comes with experience and acceptance, but in the short term your words don't mean shit to a guy who just found out his wife has been getting dicked down by a guy from work. Apply what you've learned, Krishna......

Psychology isn't reading from a textbook, it's applying principles you learned throughout coursework to your own intuition and putting the pieces to the puzzle.

You seem like a humanist to me, which has it's own merits, but in itself is not realistic for this day and age.




DIV

This has more to do with my second major - philosophy. If nothing else, it plants a seed. There is more to life then just what you see around you. There are deeper realms of life and the mind. This was for meditation, and that can always be beneficial in any situation! Some people are more spiritual than others, and whether or not what I said earlier had any effect on him, is not for you to decide.

 

[courtneybcca]

Ouch! I actually just finished a study on short-term relationships. It showed that men and women both prefer long-term relationships to short-term ones. Also, it showed that men do not have a greater desire than women to "spread their seed". Now it doesn't say why men and women cheat, but it does show that their desires are not significantly different. You may be on to something with why men and women cheat. If you ask me, when something is missing in a relationship, you work together to find it, you don't go and cheat on your partner. That is a very cruel and immature way for women to deal with their problems. Men, what can I say? We have no excuse when we cheat. But then again, who likes excuses? They only seem to make it worse.

I totally agree that you should work together if there is something wrong and the communication lines should be open so that both parties can do that... I didn't say my opinion was right but that is the way it is... I would never cheat on my boyfriend/husband or whatever... But since everyone is making generalizations about myself I decided that it was fare to make one as well.. There is always two sides to the story we have to remember that.....

 

[DIVISION]

Okay so if you guys think you can generalize the whole female race then I think I should be able to generalize as well…

Here is it blunt…

Men cheat because they are horn-balls and have the biological need to spread their seed to every willing recipient.

Women cheat because there is something missing in the relationship… Be it emotional or physical..

That being said most likely you were not fucking her right.. And she became so sexually frustrated that she went looking elsewhere to fulfill that need.

She is probably being mean now because you have ignored her needs for so long that she is pissed off that all of a sudden she matters to you…

Sorry that is the bottom line…

I think what we said was that in our experience, women in their 20's were not mature relationship-wise. Obviously we can't account for a whole gender, so the best you can do is go by your own experiences. I'd say TiTaN has been through alot of 20-ish females and had the same problems regarding maturity and trust.

As far as your point about women cheating because something is missing in the relationship, I already made that point in my first post. I laid it out cleanly why women cheat.





DIV

 

[AristotleBC]

You can not generalize all women.. I am in my early 20’s and I KNOW what I want…

LOL

 

[Slydog]

Okay so if you guys think you can generalize the whole female race then I think I should be able to generalize as well…

Here is it blunt…

Men cheat because they are horn-balls and have the biological need to spread their seed to every willing recipient.

Women cheat because there is something missing in the relationship… Be it emotional or physical..

That being said most likely you were not fucking her right.. And she became so sexually frustrated that she went looking elsewhere to fulfill that need.

She is probably being mean now because you have ignored her needs for so long that she is pissed off that all of a sudden she matters to you…

Sorry that is the bottom line…

OK, very valid points. But again whether its men or women (really boys and girls based on maturity level) we are still bringing up the fact that girls/guys in their 20s tend to be very immature when it comes to relationships. Women in their 20s tend to be very scandalous while men lack the ability to commit in general. Obviously DCC's ex-wife was not mature enough to express to him what she felt was lacking in their relationship. So instead of telling DCC what he could do better to fuck her right "as you put it", so they could both be happy she decides to show that she has no heart and no concern for him and looks for the nearest dick in a glass case to fulfill her needs. Thats class.
Best part about this is that if DCC walks away from this with his head high and keeps his pride and dignity eventually Karma will catch up with her and she is going to be one miserable bitch.

 

[DIVISION]

LOL

Courtney Bcca says she knows what she wants......isn't that what all women in their 20's say?

OK, very valid points. But again whether its men or women (really boys and girls based on maturity level) we are still bringing up the fact that girls/guys in their 20s tend to be very immature when it comes to relationships. Women in their 20s tend to be very scandalous while men lack the ability to commit in general. Obviously DCC's ex-wife was not mature enough to express to him what she felt was lacking in their relationship. So instead of telling DCC what he could do better to fuck her right "as you put it", so they could both be happy she decides to show that she has no heart and no concern for him and looks for the nearest dick in a glass case to fulfill her needs. Thats class.
Best part about this is that if DCC walks away from this with his head high and keeps his pride and dignity eventually Karma will catch up with her and she is going to be one miserable bitch.

I agree with you Slydog. CowCutter's girl was immature, and decided to get pounded on the side. I think his only option at this point is to walk away and wash his hands of the whole situation. At the very least he'll keep his pride and dignity, once a woman gets pounded by another guy, there's no coming back from that. The relationship is dead.




DIV

 

[HiDnGoD]

I'm really sorry to hear your tale man. I've never gone through anything like that so I can't imagine your feelings.

Best of luck, I'll be pullin for ya.

i really hate to disagree with you becca, but all the ealry 20's girls i dated all KNEW what they wanted too, trust me girl , you will change phsyically and mentally over the course of the next 10 years... it's a simple fact.

I think you're right girls do change, but guys change too. Look at all you guys that have had bad experiences, it's changed you. The trick is to be lucky enough to change the same way at roughly the same time.

 

[boyer]

Okay so if you guys think you can generalize the whole female race then I think I should be able to generalize as well…

Here is it blunt…

Men cheat because they are horn-balls and have the biological need to spread their seed to every willing recipient.

Women cheat because there is something missing in the relationship… Be it emotional or physical..

That being said most likely you were not fucking her right.. And she became so sexually frustrated that she went looking elsewhere to fulfill that need.

She is probably being mean now because you have ignored her needs for so long that she is pissed off that all of a sudden she matters to you…

Sorry that is the bottom line…

Your assesment of men, but not all men is correct. I don't agree with your assesment of women. Their are some women out there that you could have coming buckets and treat them like a princess. Yet they still have the propensity to cheat.

 

[needsize]

damn bro, really sorry to hear this, I've been through it and dont even want to imagine doing it again. I guess this means you'll be in no shape for our contest in the fall, too bad as I was looking forward to the challenge

 

[DIVISION]

Their are some women out there that you could have coming buckets and Yet they still have the propensity to cheat.

Evidently you've been with some "squirters" in your time, boyer.

I've never been with a woman who flooded the bed with her cum.





DIV

 

[nzbro]

sounds abit like my life cept im in a new country with no freinds no family
Just me and my 2 online business and ef
i posted this in the c+c so i just copyd and paste

Myself and my girl friend have been together for 5 and half years
We lived in south africa spent the last 2 years in the uk
and she wanted me to move to nz
We where apart for month well i was still in the uk
THen went back home to south africa for a month so 2 months in total
In these 2 months i thought something was up
Got to nz 3 days later she broke up with me (4 good reason)
reasons being
We sort of just become freinds neva holding each other sex life become like a few times a month
I really got annyoed with her all the time over stupid shit
she didnt like me smoking weed all the time ect...
so we live together in nz sleep in the same bed
We show more affection to each other then we have eva before
She was the most loyal person in the world *sort of How high do you want me to jump*
i neva appricated what i had till she broke up with me
we have more sex then we did in the last 2 years
But shes scared to get back in a relationship
We both only 20 and 21(me)
neva had any other partners
But we have so much in common so comftable around each other
Like where "soul mates"
Shit got out of hand we lived and worked together in the uk so it was hard

Now i feel lost like i dunno what i want anymore
now she's like i dont want to be how i used to be that you where everything in my life that she lived only for me , did everything i said (which in my mind makes so much sense But my gut feeling ) fucking hates the idea

sorry to rant just dunno what to do
iv been in nz for almost 2 months now only getting my work permit on monday so iv just been chilling to much time to think ect...

Sorry to rant Just feel like im all alone in this world

Take care
Peace

 

[boyer]

Evidently you've been with some "squirters" in your time, boyer.

I've never been with a woman who flooded the bed with her cum.


Buckets might be somewhat of an exaggeration, but it is gratifying nonetheless.

Stay stong DCC.




DIV[/QUOTE

 

[Mr. Black]

I've never been with a woman who flooded the bed with her cum.

DIV

It's fun for a while, then soon the novelty weres off and it becomes a pain in the ass. Every time you fuck they soak the sheets you & the bed... i had one ex that could cum so hard she'd soak right through a towel....what a mess

 

[nzbro]

Women are the anti christ no doubt

 

[DIVISION]

It's fun for a while, then soon the novelty weres off and it becomes a pain in the ass. Every time you fuck they soak the sheets you & the bed... i had one ex that could cum so hard she'd soak right through a towel....what a mess

I've had that before, but that's mainly from my sweat and her sweat combining more than just her cumming buckets!!!!

I've never been with a woman who squirted.....sounds kinda freaky deaky...

I can't imagine going down on a woman and having her squirt ejaculate in my eyes.....




DIV

 

[nzbro]

div hows collage mah Nugga

Im with you on the squaters must be fun in the begining

 

[bicepts101]

Once again division…. I read your first few posts on here and I couldn’t read anymore… yes there are lots of bad women but there are also lots of bad men…

You can not generalize all women.. I am in my early 20’s and I KNOW what I want… You have to look at each female separately.. I have been on my own since I was 14. I got married to my high school sweetheart in vegas and was working on getting it annulled days later... And I can admit that I had the grass is greener feeling and left him… I am just about to turn 23 and I know the EXACT man I want.. But in this case, he has left me… I guess karma is always the winner…

Men play the same games… And they also like the bad girls..

this isnt the point...and no one ever said guys dont play games. you're damn straight guys play games.

i know you felt a direct hit, since you are a women in your twenties. but trust me, we know the other side of the coin

 

[bicepts101]

thing is this whole relationship thing is just to make 90% of us miserable and 10% happy. i mean think about it. how many people stay married? how many people are happy with their marrage or relationship and accually stay happy? and no one is happy when they are alone. for a period of time sure and yes there are perks. when it comes down to it you will want a partener.

in the military ive seen SOOO many relationships just burnt up and thrown to the dirt cause people are scumbags. DIV, im sure has seen it too. a guy will go out to the trail for a week, his wife will go out to the bar with a few friends and bam shes naked fucking her neighbors husband cause shes out in the feild too. thinks its funny?...it happens and people kill themselves over it. i know a women that cheated on her boyfreind when she was in iraq and guess what he did while he was back home waiting for his dream girl? he hung himself in a church. pretty fucked up huh?

so think twice next time before you fuck with someones mind. the shit hurts people in different ways so stop thinking of yourself sometimes.

 

[krishna]

thing is this whole relationship thing is just to make 90% of us miserable and 10% happy. i mean think about it. how many people stay married? how many people are happy with their marrage or relationship and accually stay happy? and no one is happy when they are alone. for a period of time sure and yes there are perks. when it comes down to it you will want a partener.

in the military ive seen SOOO many relationships just burnt up and thrown to the dirt cause people are scumbags. DIV, im sure has seen it too. a guy will go out to the trail for a week, his wife will go out to the bar with a few friends and bam shes naked fucking her neighbors husband cause shes out in the feild too. thinks its funny?...it happens and people kill themselves over it. i know a women that cheated on her boyfreind when she was in iraq and guess what he did while he was back home waiting for his dream girl? he hung himself in a church. pretty fucked up huh?

so think twice next time before you fuck with someones mind. the shit hurts people in different ways so stop thinking of yourself sometimes.

I'm not much of an advocate for marriage either. That's why you have to learn to be happy on your own, and it is possible. You have to go deep inside yourself. It's what us contemplaters call meditation.

 

[The Terminator]

in the military ive seen SOOO many relationships just burnt up and thrown to the dirt cause people are scumbags. DIV, im sure has seen it too. a guy will go out to the trail for a week, his wife will go out to the bar with a few friends and bam shes naked fucking her neighbors husband cause shes out in the feild too. thinks its funny?...it happens and people kill themselves over it. i know a women that cheated on her boyfreind when she was in iraq and guess what he did while he was back home waiting for his dream girl? he hung himself in a church. pretty fucked up huh?

Yep
Some people take it REALLY HARD and DONT get over being hurt by another very well, and they either "off themself" (as my best friend might say ), or they turn bitter towards women and become miserable and jaded for a long time

I figure the smart ones are the ones who jump right back into the drivers seat and find a new vehicle to drive asap (I can "say" that , but I dont always do that...)

 

[alltraps]

man, i hate seeing this shit happen to good guys. i am sincerly sorry for this and i do know how you feel. i know this sounds stupid, but with time, all will heal. keep your head up, read some books on this, it helps

 

[DIVISION]

div hows collage mah Nugga

Im with you on the squaters must be fun in the begining

College is fine.....

It's the homework that is a pain in the ass.

Women in college are a distraction......




DIV

 

[bicepts101]

Yep
Some people take it REALLY HARD and DONT get over being hurt by another very well, and they either "off themself" (as my best friend might say ), or they turn bitter towards women and become miserable and jaded for a long time

I figure the smart ones are the ones who jump right back into the drivers seat and find a new vehicle to drive asap (I can "say" that , but I dont always do that...)

yeah i have a terrible time letting things go. anything, you name it. someone says something...ill think i should have said this or that. i think its a form of insecurity

 

[nzbro]

seems like everybody i know having trouble in the relationships :<
I dont get why everybody says Ahh Im happy if they happy
That Bullshit i want her life to be missable , TO much of a good thing = a bad thing
Fuck All Women who Fuck with me
Hail marry

 

[DIVISION]

in the military ive seen SOOO many relationships just burnt up and thrown to the dirt cause people are scumbags. DIV, im sure has seen it too. a guy will go out to the trail for a week, his wife will go out to the bar with a few friends and bam shes naked fucking her neighbors husband cause shes out in the feild too.

Shit don't stop..........

When I was stationed in Germany we'd have rotations to Bosnia and when certain units left their dependent wives would always wander around the enlisted barracks searching for random cock...

Believe me......THEY GOT IT!

Pounded, each and every time.

There were crazy times in the barracks.....at times they'd get a dependent wife drunk and be tripleteamin' her in a fourway......other times guys would run trains. The barracks were unregulated, so shit was off the hinges...

I'd say married women who cheat are the worst, because they want to get away with the nastiest shit behind their husband's back. Things they'd never do with their husbands they will do on the side.....





DIV

 

[sparetire]

Interesting, she was raped at about 14-15yrs and her dad is a step dad. I'll agree that SHE got married to young though. I didnt. I enjoy being a husband and wish none of this nonsense ruined it for us.

I'll move on and be ok, eventually

Find out what happened to her before she was 14-15. I bet you buck for buck something happened to her before the age of 8. Kind of makes you wonder what happened to her real father and why momma chose such an a-hole to have a kid with. I bet if you dug deep enough, you'd find out that momma was abused as a child also, therefore she brings someone in her life to abuse her or her kids. It's a sad cycle that gets repeated over and over until someone finally breaks through to the person who was abused and gets them to get some therapy. For what it's worth, i'm sorry that your marriage might be over, but if you don't have any kids with her, the better off you are without her in the long run. Find a good woman, and yes there are plenty out there, that has her head on her shoulders and start a new life (if this one is ended of course.) On a side note, I came from a divorced family, which my mother re-married to a decent guy, who I refer to as my dad (i love him very much), but when I was a teenager and early adult I would seek out those girls who have been abused or needed "fixing" in attempt to fix them and in some weird way trying to unconciously fix myself. Until I realized where it was coming from (childhood trauma) I kept seeking out fixer-ups. Now that I consider myself "fixed" and my wife "fixed" through some therapy, we have a wonderful marriage. But, in the end, it takes two to tangle in the therapy dance..

 

[DIVISION]

yeah i have a terrible time letting things go. anything, you name it. someone says something...ill think i should have said this or that. i think its a form of insecurity

You can't change the past.......there's no point in killing yourself over things you can't change.

That applies to everything.

Life is a grind, nugga. The Shit don't Stop!




DIV

 

[sparetire]

Mormon strippers in Scottsdale........only in Phoenix!
If I ever meet this bitch I'll shove that Book of Mormon up her twat.
DIV

umm...

 

[DIVISION]

gawd i hope you don't live in the same state as i do..

I'm in Phoenix, bro........





DIV

 

[sparetire]

almost kinda scary..now i'm wondering what gym you work out...

 

[DIVISION]

almost kinda scary..now i'm wondering what gym you work out...

I would be that nail which your spare could never fix.....

Roll over me and see what I mean....




DIV

 

[AristotleBC]

thing is this whole relationship thing is just to make 90% of us miserable and 10% happy. i mean think about it. how many people stay married? how many people are happy with their marrage or relationship and accually stay happy? and no one is happy when they are alone. for a period of time sure and yes there are perks. when it comes down to it you will want a partener.

in the military ive seen SOOO many relationships just burnt up and thrown to the dirt cause people are scumbags. DIV, im sure has seen it too. a guy will go out to the trail for a week, his wife will go out to the bar with a few friends and bam shes naked fucking her neighbors husband cause shes out in the feild too. thinks its funny?...it happens and people kill themselves over it. i know a women that cheated on her boyfreind when she was in iraq and guess what he did while he was back home waiting for his dream girl? he hung himself in a church. pretty fucked up huh?

so think twice next time before you fuck with someones mind. the shit hurts people in different ways so stop thinking of yourself sometimes.

Great post. The idea that she cheated because he somehow "wasn't satisfying her" is so absurd in it's possible endorsement of that behavior it amazes me. Only a VERY, VERY weakminded person would be unable, unwilling or unaware of the concept of controlling their emotional impulses rather than letting them control her.

In my experience, women are far more likely to be led by their urges than men.

It is difficult to trust a woman because she has little to no concept of honor or any standard of behavior higher than her emotional desires.

 

[sparetire]

I would be that nail which your spare could never fix.....

Roll over me and see what I mean....




DIV

lol..

g1 div.

 

[KillzwithPillz]

I'd say div has nailed this hes making alot of good points,

One last thing: In relationships, women tend to be very self-protective, they think of their own emotions first and they will hurt you to avoid being hurt. Keep that in mind and you will be trouble free.

Me and my gf of 2 yrs recently ended our relationship, nothing like this happend but I can say it was the first time that I gave it my all in a relationship, and also was the hardest to let go becuse of it, I since have moved back to my house where I have nothing no funiture, a house that was trashed from renters, little or no money, but I have my friends and family and im finished bieng too nice to any woman, I'm back to "Nice guys finish last, that's why the guy behind me is in second place" Good luck stay strong

 

[Spartacus]

That goes along with what I said about women in their 20's not being mature enough for marriage. In my experience, women in their 20's are still in "play mode" where everything is still a game without consequences. I think women in their 30's are stable and able to know what they want, thus it's easier to deal with them and have a level of mutual understanding.

That said, you then have the problem of whether you want a woman in her 30's if you are in your 20's......it's a trade-off. It all depends on how picky you are.



DIV

this paradigm applies to both genders

 

[DIVISION]

It is difficult to trust a woman because she has little to no concept of honor or any standard of behavior higher than her emotional desires.

Women and their emotions, don't get me started Aristotle....

Women are self-protective creatures.....they do what they do, regardless of me or you!

I'd say div has nailed this hes making alot of good points,

Me and my gf of 2 yrs recently ended our relationship, nothing like this happend but I can say it was the first time that I gave it my all in a relationship, and also was the hardest to let go becuse of it, I since have moved back to my house where I have nothing no funiture, a house that was trashed from renters, little or no money, but I have my friends and family and im finished bieng too nice to any woman, I'm back to "Nice guys finish last, that's why the guy behind me is in second place" Good luck stay strong

If you don't look after yourself and your own interests, don't expect a woman to do it for you. Women are out for themselves, it's up to you to get what you want out of any relationship.

Killz it.....




DIV

 

[AAP]

Actually, when people cheat, it doesn't always have something to do with them being unfulfilled in their current relationship. People cheat because they are INSECURE. They have low self esteem and need attention. Any kind of attention just to give them an ego boost. Trust me on this.. I know. You can give a person the entire world and if they are insecure they are still going to cheat simply to get attention. They don't do it because they love the other person. If they did, they would be busting down the courthouse doors to get a divorce so they can be with the other person.

And you guys telling him to go out and get another girl. Worst mistake he can make right now. Legally and emotionally.

True love doesn't go away easy. If it does, it wasn't true love in the first place.

 

[bicepts101]

i know my self esteem is low but ive never cheated...not too many relationships either...all were long....i have to concentrate on finding on person more than that is impossible

 

[-SD-]

I frankly don't care whether you agree with my points or not. I'm here to give him advice from a male's perspective on women and why they do what they do. She cheated and I think it's best he moves on.

Once a woman cheats, in my eyes she's tainted. I'd never get back with a woman who cheated on me. I just can't see her the same way again, either emotionally or physically......once another guy's pounded her, I don't consider her mine anymore.

That's just the way it is.
DIV

Word is bond. Bitches.

 

[habitualhealth]

so think twice next time before you fuck with someones mind. the shit hurts people in different ways so stop thinking of yourself sometimes.

This is such a powerful statement.

I've read every post page for page of this thread and have to admit that most of you guys/gals are right. Each person brings a valid point to the table. Cowcutter, I don't know you but am truly sorry for what you're going through.

I'm not going to man/woman hate in here but note that men and women deal with the same issues daily. How you deal with it decides your future. You can let it make you or break you. To my misfortune, I too have experienced all of the same emotions, uncertainties, insecurities, doubt, etc that you're dealing with. Now, years later, they still surface. It's really hard to find a way out...to grasp the breath of fresh air. (Especially when you truly love someone.) And yes, like the guys have said in here (some of them) it'd be easy to forget what you're dealing with by pouncing on the next hottie that walks by. But, IMO, all that will do is surpress all of those feelings and create a wicked, malicious, angered, depressed, you name it, you. You create a "victim crutch" for yourself and the excuses for life begin. And could very well make you miss an incredible oppty in the future. Some men and women are too bound by these negative emotions to be able to see something awesome walking in their life....or out for that matter. I would say "stay strong"...but that's quite the cliche with what you're going through. Only you will know the right time to let go.

To succeed at anything in life beit realtionships, career, what have you....you have to daily rededicate yourself to that task, project, committment. Though it sounds like you have done that...you might have a bad egg on the other side. (w/her)

Imo, age is a number....we can define a person based on that all day long....but i feel maturity, experience, goals, self-awareness, and intellect are what truly define a person. (but that's just my $.02)

I hope things get better for you.

 

[beefcake28]

This sounds almost identical to what I went through a few years ago... and I was almost exactly the same age as you when I went through it. I even had the same symptoms: couldn't sleep, eat, lift, or much of anything else... I'm sorry to hear that you gotta go through this... I know firsthand how rough it can be...

 

[DIVISION]

Word is bond. Bitches.

....once another guy's pounded her, I don't consider her mine anymore.

That's just the way it is.







DIV

 

[Lestat]

hang in there man, you've got a lot of good shit going for you, don't let one woman bring you down for too long (a little while is normal)

 

[TC2]

this is the reason women in their early 20's have hold no interest for me.

They are ALL like that.

I've been talking to this "great" girl for awhile, shes smart, funny, beautiful and has a giant heart.

I reccently found out that she just turned 21 not to long ago, as much as I want to, I'm not even about to get involved with her.

 

[DIVISION]

this is the reason women in their early 20's have hold no interest for me.

They are ALL like that.

I've been talking to this "great" girl for awhile, shes smart, funny, beautiful and has a giant heart.

I reccently found out that she just turned 21 not to long ago, as much as I want to, I'm not even about to get involved with her.

She just might be the exception the rule about women in their 20's, TC2......

However, just keep your guard up, nugga.....

Last thing you want to do is invest yourself emotionally in a relationship with her and come home one day to find her getting dickeddown by the mailman.

That's a bill you just can't afford to pay, bro.






DIV

 

[CrazyK]

Just say "NO!" to the white women.

 

[CrazyK]

Okay so if you guys think you can generalize the whole female race then I think I should be able to generalize as well…

Here is it blunt…

Men cheat because they are horn-balls and have the biological need to spread their seed to every willing recipient.

Women cheat because there is something missing in the relationship… Be it emotional or physical..

That being said most likely you were not fucking her right.. And she became so sexually frustrated that she went looking elsewhere to fulfill that need.

She is probably being mean now because you have ignored her needs for so long that she is pissed off that all of a sudden she matters to you…

Sorry that is the bottom line…

Wow that was a fucked up thing to say. I hope you get fucking ass raped, cunt.

 

[DIVISION]

Just say "NO!" to the white women.

I've tried. It doesn't work, bro.

Even if I say "NO!" to them, they keep saying "YES!" to me....





DIV

 

[CrazyK]

I've tried. It doesn't work, bro.

Even if I say "NO!" to them, they keep saying "YES!" to me....





DIV

Maybe try the European brand of white women? I think they're a little better.

 

[DIVISION]

Maybe try the European brand of white women? I think they're a little better.

You're right.........I'm thinking Italian, Estonian or Yugoslavian.

Eastern European brand it is!





DIV

 

[spongebob]

im very sorry to hear your misfortune i hope you can just move and be happy without her.

 

[SoKlueles]

Im sorry about this DCC, I dont know u but I do know you are funny and have alot of good qualities about you.
Your heart hurts, your self esteem hurts, your ego hurts and all that will get better in time. You dont need a woman to fill that void right now. More than likely it will be the very first woman that shows you a bit of attention. Then youll regret it, Give it time,get your head straight then be happy
and screw the ex, she dont deserve you

 

[mendo]

Okay so if you guys think you can generalize the whole female race then I think I should be able to generalize as well…

Here is it blunt…

Men cheat because they are horn-balls and have the biological need to spread their seed to every willing recipient.

Women cheat because there is something missing in the relationship… Be it emotional or physical..

That being said most likely you were not fucking her right.. And she became so sexually frustrated that she went looking elsewhere to fulfill that need.

She is probably being mean now because you have ignored her needs for so long that she is pissed off that all of a sudden she matters to you…

Sorry that is the bottom line…

Courtney...what was missing from DCC's relationship was communication, maturity and commitment...ON HER PART.

She wasn't seeking out sex for physical reasons (there is no way she was with him for that long if the sex was just shitty for her)...it was to boost her own ego...her self esteem, as a few others have said. Thats the real reason women (and many guys) cheat. And the solution for a lack of desire or sexual satisfaction...in a healthy mature relationship...is communication and honesty...not adultery.

And AAP...as far as advocating that DCC find a girl to fuck asap...that wasn't meant to be a longterm solution. It is only to take his mind off shit while they are living together...as I can assure you, he isn't going to be able to clear his head and think for a little while.

 

[DIVISION]

And AAP...as far as advocating that DCC find a girl to fuck asap...that wasn't meant to be a longterm solution. It is only to take his mind off shit while they are living together...as I can assure you, he isn't going to be able to clear his head and think for a little while.

What makes it doubly worse is the fact that he's the type of guy who WANTS marriage and wasn't pushed in to it, he genuinly likes it.

I also don't believe he's the type who will find much solace in fucking random women, like most guys. He's a relationship type, and he will feel incomplete until he has that again.





DIV

 

[DiamondCutCows]

The problem is, I'm not sure if he's strong enough to cut ties and wash his hands of the whole situation. Yes, she'll probably try to crawl back eventually, but I only hope he's strong willed enough to be resolute in his decicion, whatever that may be.

Like I said, once a woman cheats, I wouldn't be able to take her back under any circumstances. CowCutter seems like the type of guy who might take her back, but I hope he understand that he might be setting himself up for a bigger fall later down the line.




DIV

You're right Div, I am the kind of guy to take her back, BUT Im NOT. This is the ONE thing in a marriage that is UNFORGIVEABLE. I know that she'll want me in a matter of weeks, but it's the life she chose.

If she wants to casually call me once in a while to talk about how our seperate lives are going then thats fine.

Im finding me a lady who appreciates being my diamond. Its how I think a guy should treat his woman. I wont settle for another who doesnt realize how lucky she is...

 

[habitualhealth]

You're right Div, I am the kind of guy to take her back, BUT Im NOT. This is the ONE thing in a marriage that is UNFORGIVEABLE. I know that she'll want me in a matter of weeks, but it's the life she chose.

If she wants to casually call me once in a while to talk about how our seperate lives are going then thats fine.

Im finding me a lady who appreciates being my diamond. Its how I think a guy should treat his woman. I wont settle for another who doesnt realize how lucky she is...

I'm curious...are we running on suspicion or proof? (not excusing any behavior by any means) just wondering if you know for a fact she cheated?

 

[mendo]

You're right Div, I am the kind of guy to take her back, BUT Im NOT. This is the ONE thing in a marriage that is UNFORGIVEABLE. I know that she'll want me in a matter of weeks, but it's the life she chose.

If she wants to casually call me once in a while to talk about how our seperate lives are going then thats fine.

Im finding me a lady who appreciates being my diamond. Its how I think a guy should treat his woman. I wont settle for another who doesnt realize how lucky she is...

That is really good to hear bro! Sounds like you know where to go from here and you're already learning and growing from this. You'll get what you deserve...and so will she.

 

[Agathe]

men cheat, women cheat. It's sad but true. I don't wanna know any more than that, cause it only makes things worse for me. I'm just hoping that one day I will find the one.

 

[DiamondCutCows]

What makes it doubly worse is the fact that he's the type of guy who WANTS marriage and wasn't pushed in to it, he genuinly likes it.

I also don't believe he's the type who will find much solace in fucking random women, like most guys. He's a relationship type, and he will feel incomplete until he has that again.





DIV

Div does know me pretty well...I can do the random woman thing. That'll make me feel better till they leave, then Im alone again. I just miss my life.

There are plenty of females interested in the fact that Im single again. Maybe they can keep me company sometimes...

I'll feel much better once she moves out though.

 

[sweed]

Div does know me pretty well...I can do the random woman thing. That'll make me feel better till they leave, then Im alone again. I just miss my life.

There are plenty of females interested in the fact that Im single again. Maybe they can keep me company sometimes...

I'll feel much better once she moves out though.

Come by Friday night... im sure u can find some little thing to keep u company bro
** - no i am not gay.. he's probably coming to where im working to pick up chicks!

 

[Agathe]

Artist: Mario

Albulm: Turning point

Song Title: How could you

[Verse:]
It's kinda crazy baby,
How i remember things, (like where you came from and how you had nothin)
I went and made you flyy,
Putextras on ya ride, (didnt miss a birthday now u cant even remember mine)

[Hook:]
U made it clear to me (you wasn't down for me),
(I may be blind baby) but now I see,
(you had things up your sleeve, dont even lie to me) I even heard it 4rm yo family,

[Chorus:]
How could you let somebody lay where I layed?
How could you give him everything that we made?
How could you call him all the names thaat u used to call me?
HOw could You How Could You just forget bout me?
How Could You teach him all the things I thought You?
How Could You put him up to the Ghetto Karmasutra?
How Could You put me in the back and give him the front seat?
How Could You How Could You just forget bout me?

[Verse:]
You must be out ya mind,
YOu got alot of nerve (to think that im gone chill after at tha shyt i heard),
I damn near carried you,
I could've married you,
Good thing i found out b4 i bought that 7karate for ya,
(i kno ur sick about) the way i found you out,
(GO head and pack it out) I hope he got romance in his house,
You should have thought of me b4 u hopped in the sheets,
Damn I cant believe that u did this to me

[chorus]

[bridge:]
Girl i tried to give u everything,
Can't believe the ways u repaid me,
Girl u had it all,
But i guess my all wasn't good enough for you,
Baby I've accepted it,
And i aint gone trip,
Girl im movin on,
Sometimes i give up and think that another mans gonna get the one thats in for me

[chorus]

How cold you how could you just go and lay there,
How could you how could just give him everything,
How could you how could you call him names like that,
How could you babe?
How could you babe?
How could you how could you teach him everything?
How could you how could you put him to the ghetto kramasutra?

 

[DiamondCutCows]

Come by Friday night... im sure u can find some little thing to keep u company bro
** - no i am not gay.. he's probably coming to where im working to pick up chicks!

I'll holla at you tomorrow about Friday night.

 

[Ulcasterdropout]

Interesting reading.

 

[DIVISION]

Div does know me pretty well...I can do the random woman thing. That'll make me feel better till they leave, then Im alone again. I just miss my life. There are plenty of females interested in the fact that Im single again. Maybe they can keep me company sometimes...I'll feel much better once she moves out though.

I hope I've been able to help at least a lil' bit, CowCutter.....

I feel that I have you down pretty well, that's why I've tried to help.

When are you having her move out?

Considering the fact that she cheated, I don't see how she has any leverage at all in this situation.

Soon as she's gone, you can clear your mind and begin recovery, and that my friend cannot come soon enough.

You're right Div, I am the kind of guy to take her back, BUT Im NOT. This is the ONE thing in a marriage that is UNFORGIVEABLE. I know that she'll want me in a matter of weeks, but it's the life she chose. If she wants to casually call me once in a while to talk about how our seperate lives are going then thats fine. Im finding me a lady who appreciates being my diamond. Its how I think a guy should treat his woman. I wont settle for another who doesnt realize how lucky she is...

I'm glad you've got the right mindstate to go on without her. I know you are right, she will be crawling back in about 3-4 weeks begging you to reconsider and right now she won't grant you a divorce. Eventually when she realizes it's pointless and you've already made up your mind she'll let it go and move on. She really fucked up a good thing, bro. You treated her how a woman should be treated, you gave her everything a woman asks for and hopes for in a guy. Now it's someone else's turn to get that special attention.





DIV

 

[silverbackn]

It sounds like your mindset is getting better. I am having to face this right now too. This board definitely helps out a lot. Sometimes I feel so alone, like no one understands, then I come on here and see that lots of people can relate. I hate to see good bro's go through this shit, but you know what we will all make it. There are two options: 1) let it beat you and roll over and die or 2) dig deep and find that shit somewhere in you and pick yourself up and become stronger in yourself everyday. I think we as bodybuilders are much more inclined to buck up and take the second route. I have been in agonizing pain the last few day, but you know what, I'm getting stronger and realizing I need a woman and not a girl.

 

[HiDnGoD]

Sorry to digress here, but I can't let this go by.

Wow that was a fucked up thing to say. I hope you get XXXXXXX ass XXXXX, XXXX.

You know, a lot of the problems in society today can be narrowed down to a basic lack of respect for others. Most of the pple here seem to have an idea of that & instead of issuing mindless insults, they try to examine ideas, promote thought & offer advice. IMO you would have been better off trying to refute her claim, as others did quite eloquently, instead of flaming her like that. Whether you agreed with her post or not, that was a fucked up thing to say & I think you should apologize to the lady.

 

[CrazyK]

Sorry to digress here, but I can't let this go by.




You know, a lot of the problems in society today can be narrowed down to a basic lack of respect for others. Most of the pple here seem to have an idea of that & instead of issuing mindless insults, they try to examine ideas, promote thought & offer advice. IMO you would have been better off trying to refute her claim, as others did quite eloquently, instead of flaming her like that. Whether you agreed with her post or not, that was a fucked up thing to say & I think you should apologize to the lady.

Two things, #1. This is the internet, #2. Fuck off.


lol

 

[bicepts101]

Sorry to digress here, but I can't let this go by.




You know, a lot of the problems in society today can be narrowed down to a basic lack of respect for others. Most of the pple here seem to have an idea of that & instead of issuing mindless insults, they try to examine ideas, promote thought & offer advice. IMO you would have been better off trying to refute her claim, as others did quite eloquently, instead of flaming her like that. Whether you agreed with her post or not, that was a fucked up thing to say & I think you should apologize to the lady.

i know its crazy isnt it....who gives a fuck?...let the man speak his mind

 

[DIVISION]

Whether you agreed with her post or not, that was a fucked up thing to say & I think you should apologize to the lady.

Evidently you don't know CrazyK very well.........There is absolutely, positively no way he will apologize to Courtney Baca...

He said what he said, and that's that......

Everyone's got an opinion, and he just stated his.

Don't preach morality and chivalry on here, bro.........you will lose every single time.







DIV

 

[Lestat]

this has turned into quite the debate!

 

[HiDnGoD]

Two things, #1. This is the internet, #2. Fuck off.


lol

OK, I think I can take a hint. While I still believe what I said, I'll try to limit my moralizing to people who will appreciate it, if I ever find any, LOL. I'm kinda new at this so thanx all for the guidance without jumping downmy throat.

 

[LVTitan]

Okay so if you guys think you can generalize the whole female race then I think I should be able to generalize as well…

Here is it blunt…

Men cheat because they are horn-balls and have the biological need to spread their seed to every willing recipient.

Women cheat because there is something missing in the relationship… Be it emotional or physical..

That being said most likely you were not fucking her right.. And she became so sexually frustrated that she went looking elsewhere to fulfill that need.

She is probably being mean now because you have ignored her needs for so long that she is pissed off that all of a sudden she matters to you…

Sorry that is the bottom line…

so wrong babe.. she has been calling me off the hook lately, even told me last night she started calling me again cause she cant stay away from me.
trust me, i was putting it down well in the bedroom dept, she even said no one else since has compared to me.. she cheated because she was mad at me for hooking with a chick that she didnt like from school, and when she found out, she wanted to get back at me.. she was just immature and did it to hurt me simple as that. she just didnt know what she wanted to do...
oh well.. i'm over her now, and i told her we will never be back together. i'm not bashing you girl, it's just that women (and men) do change a lot thru out their20's ...

 

[DIVISION]

so wrong babe.. she has been calling me off the hook lately, even told me last night she started calling me again cause she cant stay away from me.
trust me, i was putting it down well in the bedroom dept, she even said no one else since has compared to me.. she cheated because she was mad at me for hooking with a chick that she didnt like from school, and when she found out, she wanted to get back at me.. she was just immature and did it to hurt me simple as that. she just didnt know what she wanted to do...
oh well.. i'm over her now, and i told her we will never be back together. i'm not bashing you girl, it's just that women (and men) do change a lot thru out their20's ...

BabyTitan LIVES!!!!!

Word of advice to women: If you want to get back at your BF, do not go sleeping around behind his back, that could be the end of a relationship right there.




DIV

 

[Gemini_Man]

What he said....
www.dontmarry.com

 

[DiamondCutCows]

BabyTitan LIVES!!!!!

Word of advice to women: If you want to get back at your BF, do not go sleeping around behind his back, that could be the end of a relationship right there.




DIV

UPDATE:

So I went out last night and got smashed, met a few girls and generally has a good time. I walk in the apt around 2ish, what does the "wife" say??

"Now we're definitely breaking up" "You never go out during the week"

Im like, WTF? "I dont want you anymore, just find a place to go"

She will be moving out soon. She's gonna get an apt with her cousin...

 

[SoKlueles]

UPDATE:

So I went out last night and got smashed, met a few girls and generally has a good time. I walk in the apt around 2ish, what does the "wife" say??

"Now we're definitely breaking up" "You never go out during the week"

Im like, WTF? "I dont want you anymore, just find a place to go"

She will be moving out soon. She's gonna get an apt with her cousin...

shes messing with your mind and trying to make you feel guilty. dont let it get to u

 

[AristotleBC]

What he said....
www.dontmarry.com

No shit. Especially some of the chicks on here