serious question for the parents on the board

[Yarg!]

...just out of curiosity


when you post half naked pics of yourselves online or e flirt or exchange racy PMs, etc etc... do you ever care about what your children think? or do they know you do this stuff? are your children into forums and stuff as well? i ask this because, if i ever found out my dad typing up stuff like:

"my biceps are so large. we should meet. lax is good. LOL etc etc etc etc "

i would be thoroughly creeped out. luckily for me hes too busy at work and too much of a dinosaur to even know what a forum is. also my mom... trust me, it hurts me more than it hurts you to think about:

what if she was posting racy pics of her on the internet? and e flirting like crazy? id go fucking insane. i would be sooooo creeped out.. infact its on par with that of, if me walking into my parents getting it on. the thought just sends shivers down my spine.

so, what do your kids think of this? or are they just too young to care? (cuz i know most of you have young kids).

lets debate; feel free to post your thoughts up.

 

[al420]

You would hope anyone w/ kids and a computer would take the proper precaution. I have 4 kids, all under age 8, but still my vices are well gaurded. While I am not the type to e flirt or things like that I can still see the damage that would be done in showing one's partner any level of disrespect in front of your kids, much less e cheating (if that is a word....poor kids....they wouldnt have a chace at a good relationship.

 

[Cutiebaby]

damn......

 

[heatherrae]

Oh boy, you think that because someone has kids that they should just stay home and bake cookies? Now being disrespectful to the other partner is one thing, but if you are fishing around and find a racy email of your mother or father, then shame on you for being a nosy little shithead. It would be different if they were doing something right in front of you, but if you are snooping around their forums, shame on you. I hate to tell you, but I'm sure your mother and father still have sex. I don't know if they are still married to each other, but they are having sex with someone if not each other. I guess they are supposed to never have any human emotion such as love or lust because they have an immature kid who can't see them as an fully integrated and sexual adult. Grow up, already, and think of someone besides yourself.

 

[the-short-one]

Oh boy, you think that because someone has kids that they should just stay home and bake cookies? Now being disrespectful to the other partner is one thing, but if you are fishing around and find a racy email of your mother or father, then shame on you for being a nosy little shithead. It would be different if they were doing something right in front of you, but if you are snooping around their forums, shame on you. I hate to tell you, but I'm sure your mother and father still have sex. I don't know if they are still married to each other, but they are having sex with someone if not each other. I guess they are supposed to never have any human emotion such as love or lust because they have an immature kid who can't see them as an fully integrated and sexual adult. Grow up, already, and think of someone besides yourself.

lolol. she's right.

life doesn't end after kids, you know. it gets better.

 

[al420]

Oh boy, you think that because someone has kids that they should just stay home and bake cookies? Now being disrespectful to the other partner is one thing, but if you are fishing around and find a racy email of your mother or father, then shame on you for being a nosy little shithead. It would be different if they were doing something right in front of you, but if you are snooping around their forums, shame on you. I hate to tell you, but I'm sure your mother and father still have sex. I don't know if they are still married to each other, but they are having sex with someone if not each other. I guess they are supposed to never have any human emotion such as love or lust because they have an immature kid who can't see them as an fully integrated and sexual adult. Grow up, already, and think of someone besides yourself.

I think your missing the point. It's not about stopping being a person but rather starting to consider the impact your actions will have on your child. If you choose to have kids then you should choose to raise them. This means more times than not putting your needs 2nd.

With this said I would never let my kids use the same PC I do. I don't keep my gear at home, I don't look at porn at home, etc..... It is just basically a means to an end of still being a deviant and not letting my kids in on it!

 

[heatherrae]

I'm not talking about e cheating or whatever. it's just that the poster is 20 years old, not 10. He would be just so grossed out or whatever to see his parents saying something racy on the the internet. Please! Give me a break.

Yes, I would not post up something on the family computer that could easily be found, but I am also teaching my step children to have respect for their parents' privacy. They now that they are not allowed on adult forums and if they violated that rule, they would get in trouble for it.

Analogously, if my step daughters went in my drawer and saw a dirty movie, massage oil or whatever, they would be punished for snooping. Period. We are not prudes who think that our daughters are going to be forever traumatized for seeing a topless woman. We sure as hell are not giving up our sex lives to try to make the impression to our family that we are Ward and June Cleaver and sleep in seperate beds.

We talk about sex and abstinence in our home. We talk about privacy and boundaries.

I take a little offense because I do RAISE my stepchildren, and I don't think that by having an adult discussion on the internet I am putting my needs first at the detriment of theirs.

 

[heatherrae]

PS --- by the "topless woman" above, I do not mean me. I was referring to see a glimpse of a magazine or movie or whatever. We try to limit what they see, but if we go to a beach here and a european takes her top off, we don't have the typical American response, which is to freak the hell out.

 

[Yarg!]

Oh boy, you think that because someone has kids that they should just stay home and bake cookies? Now being disrespectful to the other partner is one thing, but if you are fishing around and find a racy email of your mother or father, then shame on you for being a nosy little shithead. It would be different if they were doing something right in front of you, but if you are snooping around their forums, shame on you. I hate to tell you, but I'm sure your mother and father still have sex. I don't know if they are still married to each other, but they are having sex with someone if not each other. I guess they are supposed to never have any human emotion such as love or lust because they have an immature kid who can't see them as an fully integrated and sexual adult. Grow up, already, and think of someone besides yourself.

when did i say just cuz youre a parent that you have to stay home and bake cookies? and if someone is fishing around their parent's emails looking for shit.. well shame on them- you are right. my parents are entitled to as much privacy as me. this isnt about my parents. this is about parents who blatantly e flirt, start dramarama, post racy pics of them on the internet.. etc etc (maybe not even on this forum, but ive seen it on other places too). what if the kids find out.. like say.. accidentally. umm that shit is fucked up. like i said if i ever saw MY mother posting shit like "well I like anal lol : x10" i would be beyond freaked out and quite frankly, disgusted. is it her right? yes. but shes a middleaged woman with 3 kids. so are some of these ppl. theyre the ones that should grow up.

 

[heatherrae]

I see your point. You just have to be careful not to be very blatant. In my profile, I don't post anything racy, because I don't want any racy pictures on this computer. However, I will make risque comments or just comments that I wouldn't say in front of the girls. I don't even curse in front of the girls. Gee, though, after being a parent all day, sometimes parents like to have a non-Barney friendly conversation...lol. It isn't that bad.

PS. mid thirties won't look so old to you in just a few years. ;-)