serious question for the parents on the board

[Yarg!]

...just out of curiosity


when you post half naked pics of yourselves online or e flirt or exchange racy PMs, etc etc... do you ever care about what your children think? or do they know you do this stuff? are your children into forums and stuff as well? i ask this because, if i ever found out my dad typing up stuff like:

"my biceps are so large. we should meet. lax is good. LOL etc etc etc etc "

i would be thoroughly creeped out. luckily for me hes too busy at work and too much of a dinosaur to even know what a forum is. also my mom... trust me, it hurts me more than it hurts you to think about:

what if she was posting racy pics of her on the internet? and e flirting like crazy? id go fucking insane. i would be sooooo creeped out.. infact its on par with that of, if me walking into my parents getting it on. the thought just sends shivers down my spine.

so, what do your kids think of this? or are they just too young to care? (cuz i know most of you have young kids).

lets debate; feel free to post your thoughts up.

 

[al420]

You would hope anyone w/ kids and a computer would take the proper precaution. I have 4 kids, all under age 8, but still my vices are well gaurded. While I am not the type to e flirt or things like that I can still see the damage that would be done in showing one's partner any level of disrespect in front of your kids, much less e cheating (if that is a word....poor kids....they wouldnt have a chace at a good relationship.

 

[Cutiebaby]

damn......

 

[heatherrae]

Oh boy, you think that because someone has kids that they should just stay home and bake cookies? Now being disrespectful to the other partner is one thing, but if you are fishing around and find a racy email of your mother or father, then shame on you for being a nosy little shithead. It would be different if they were doing something right in front of you, but if you are snooping around their forums, shame on you. I hate to tell you, but I'm sure your mother and father still have sex. I don't know if they are still married to each other, but they are having sex with someone if not each other. I guess they are supposed to never have any human emotion such as love or lust because they have an immature kid who can't see them as an fully integrated and sexual adult. Grow up, already, and think of someone besides yourself.

 

[the-short-one]

Oh boy, you think that because someone has kids that they should just stay home and bake cookies? Now being disrespectful to the other partner is one thing, but if you are fishing around and find a racy email of your mother or father, then shame on you for being a nosy little shithead. It would be different if they were doing something right in front of you, but if you are snooping around their forums, shame on you. I hate to tell you, but I'm sure your mother and father still have sex. I don't know if they are still married to each other, but they are having sex with someone if not each other. I guess they are supposed to never have any human emotion such as love or lust because they have an immature kid who can't see them as an fully integrated and sexual adult. Grow up, already, and think of someone besides yourself.

lolol. she's right.

life doesn't end after kids, you know. it gets better.

 

[al420]

Oh boy, you think that because someone has kids that they should just stay home and bake cookies? Now being disrespectful to the other partner is one thing, but if you are fishing around and find a racy email of your mother or father, then shame on you for being a nosy little shithead. It would be different if they were doing something right in front of you, but if you are snooping around their forums, shame on you. I hate to tell you, but I'm sure your mother and father still have sex. I don't know if they are still married to each other, but they are having sex with someone if not each other. I guess they are supposed to never have any human emotion such as love or lust because they have an immature kid who can't see them as an fully integrated and sexual adult. Grow up, already, and think of someone besides yourself.

I think your missing the point. It's not about stopping being a person but rather starting to consider the impact your actions will have on your child. If you choose to have kids then you should choose to raise them. This means more times than not putting your needs 2nd.

With this said I would never let my kids use the same PC I do. I don't keep my gear at home, I don't look at porn at home, etc..... It is just basically a means to an end of still being a deviant and not letting my kids in on it!

 

[heatherrae]

I'm not talking about e cheating or whatever. it's just that the poster is 20 years old, not 10. He would be just so grossed out or whatever to see his parents saying something racy on the the internet. Please! Give me a break.

Yes, I would not post up something on the family computer that could easily be found, but I am also teaching my step children to have respect for their parents' privacy. They now that they are not allowed on adult forums and if they violated that rule, they would get in trouble for it.

Analogously, if my step daughters went in my drawer and saw a dirty movie, massage oil or whatever, they would be punished for snooping. Period. We are not prudes who think that our daughters are going to be forever traumatized for seeing a topless woman. We sure as hell are not giving up our sex lives to try to make the impression to our family that we are Ward and June Cleaver and sleep in seperate beds.

We talk about sex and abstinence in our home. We talk about privacy and boundaries.

I take a little offense because I do RAISE my stepchildren, and I don't think that by having an adult discussion on the internet I am putting my needs first at the detriment of theirs.

 

[heatherrae]

PS --- by the "topless woman" above, I do not mean me. I was referring to see a glimpse of a magazine or movie or whatever. We try to limit what they see, but if we go to a beach here and a european takes her top off, we don't have the typical American response, which is to freak the hell out.

 

[Yarg!]

Oh boy, you think that because someone has kids that they should just stay home and bake cookies? Now being disrespectful to the other partner is one thing, but if you are fishing around and find a racy email of your mother or father, then shame on you for being a nosy little shithead. It would be different if they were doing something right in front of you, but if you are snooping around their forums, shame on you. I hate to tell you, but I'm sure your mother and father still have sex. I don't know if they are still married to each other, but they are having sex with someone if not each other. I guess they are supposed to never have any human emotion such as love or lust because they have an immature kid who can't see them as an fully integrated and sexual adult. Grow up, already, and think of someone besides yourself.

when did i say just cuz youre a parent that you have to stay home and bake cookies? and if someone is fishing around their parent's emails looking for shit.. well shame on them- you are right. my parents are entitled to as much privacy as me. this isnt about my parents. this is about parents who blatantly e flirt, start dramarama, post racy pics of them on the internet.. etc etc (maybe not even on this forum, but ive seen it on other places too). what if the kids find out.. like say.. accidentally. umm that shit is fucked up. like i said if i ever saw MY mother posting shit like "well I like anal lol : x10" i would be beyond freaked out and quite frankly, disgusted. is it her right? yes. but shes a middleaged woman with 3 kids. so are some of these ppl. theyre the ones that should grow up.

 

[heatherrae]

I see your point. You just have to be careful not to be very blatant. In my profile, I don't post anything racy, because I don't want any racy pictures on this computer. However, I will make risque comments or just comments that I wouldn't say in front of the girls. I don't even curse in front of the girls. Gee, though, after being a parent all day, sometimes parents like to have a non-Barney friendly conversation...lol. It isn't that bad.

PS. mid thirties won't look so old to you in just a few years. ;-)

 

[the-short-one]

mid 30's is not old. at all. lol.

You can be a good parent and still have your own adult life. It's unhealthy to give those things up - and unrealistic to think that just because you have children, you should suddenly become non-sexual. As a parent, I have a responsibility to raise my child safely and with an understanding of how the world works. I agree that they should not be exposed to adult material, but I don't agree that a parent is immoral or wrong for taking part in adult "situations" simply because they have children.


When you have kids, do you plan on giving up any flirting, public displays of effection, etc? Will you never look at porn again, or have sex because your child might find out?

 

[Yarg!]

I see your point. You just have to be careful not to be very blatant. In my profile, I don't post anything racy, because I don't want any racy pictures on this computer. However, I will make risque comments or just comments that I wouldn't say in front of the girls. I don't even curse in front of the girls. Gee, though, after being a parent all day, sometimes parents like to have a non-Barney friendly conversation...lol. It isn't that bad.

PS. mid thirties won't look so old to you in just a few years. ;-)

i am pretty sure that if given the opportunity my parents would toss in a few joking e flirt comments (maybe theyre already doing it, id ont know..) anyways, it is their right and everyone can make jokes obviously and have a merry ol' time. i was talking more along the lines of ppl who get into really obscene shit. btw i have no problem with parents who post bikini shots or somethign and want to show off their progress and the weight theyve burned off after 23 kids.. this is a fitness site, and this stuff should be welcomed. but im talking more about the random nude pics or something.. i mean have a sense of decency, u know?

 

[the-short-one]

i am pretty sure that if given the opportunity my parents would toss in a few joking e flirt comments (maybe theyre already doing it, id ont know..) anyways, it is their right and everyone can make jokes obviously and have a merry ol' time. i was talking more along the lines of ppl who get into really obscene shit. btw i have no problem with parents who post bikini shots or somethign and want to show off their progress and the weight theyve burned off after 23 kids.. this is a fitness site, and this stuff should be welcomed. but im talking more about the random nude pics or something.. i mean have a sense of decency, u know?

nudity is not offensive or immoral to everyone. I personally could care less, and will not judge someone based on a nude picture.

a nude PORN picture - now that's a different story. If you're talking (for example) about a naked picture of my mother playing with herself, then I agree that it's not something I want to see. It's not wrong for her to take the picture and share it with her husband, just wrong to let me see it.

 

[heatherrae]

Hmmmm...I think steps should be taken to not let the kids see them. I personally don't take porn pics and share them on the web. It just isn't my thing, but I'm not going to pass judgment on another woman doing it, whether or not she is a mother.

 

[bigtasty25]

Interesting topic. Im a liberal, but i believe (if i had a kid...im almost 25) that he/she should be taught morals, proper ways of doing things, having/giving respect, having/giving boundaries/privacy...and basic things as such...but in no way is it wrong for a parents to have a little "fun" as long as their kids dont violate that privacy. Likewise I don't think the parent should violate the kid's privacy (although there are rare exceptions, especially when the kid is very young, obviously). But hell...i have friends in their 30s...theyre just as normal as younger folks for the most part (my friends anyway), just more experienced in life, they still have that kid sense of humor...we all do...i dont think ive ever grown out of mine...like the saying goes..theres a time and place for everything..

Hell..my dad who's 64 sends me funny emails occasionally about things people in their late teens, 20s, 30s etc would all laugh at, he's cool like that..my older step brother who's 35 (almost 36, later this month), is basically just a big kid...loves his "jaw's" movie collection, has a million holloween masks (literally), has occasional partys when he invites a ton of friends, they can sometimes get a little wild..which is why i dont always stay for those lol... sounds and looks like he's almost my age (he honestly looks like tom cruise's identical brother hah)...just because you get older doesnt mean you stop having fun...with some people its actually the opposite way around...
=0

 

[Wulfgar]

hey if all of our parents werent horny and didnt fuck like rabbits none of us would be here

thank god my parents are still fuckin. I can only hope I can even still get my shit hard when Im in my 60's

i never got what the problem is with sex in our culture. Everyone does it, everyone wants to do it, everyone is curious about it. But we try to deny in ourselves the very nature of what we are.

 

[bigtasty25]

thank god my parents are still fuckin. .

LMFAO classic!!!

"i never got what the problem is with sex in our culture. Everyone does it, everyone wants to do it, everyone is curious about it. But we try to deny in ourselves the very nature of what we are."


It's like this essentially bro...back in the days when caveman ruled and women KNEW their role...man would just see an attractive women, konk her over the head with a bomboo shoot, drag her by hair back to cave, throw over rock, n have his way...the day when MEN ruled and women KNEW their role...lol!!


True thats a men's personality and inherently all us guys feel like this deep down inside, hell i dont exactly advocate this exactly as i just said it, but..the position of power, authority, demand for respect, get what we want, etc...but at the same time (this might sound a little corny, but its essentially true i think) being gentle and kind, sincere and concerned, understanding, is what really makes the romance novel...interchanging these two variables of personality. Internally I think it's programmed in all guys that we want to do the right thing...since we have feelings, it's possible to get what we want by giving back (jerks/players/liars dont agree here, but helping/giving back does give joy and gratification)..it's all about give and take, not take and take...what saddens me is seeing all these childish, immature boys at my gym, jerks/liars n the such...doing their "playa" thing with women then afterwards "hurting" them emotionally (using them)...just for sex...for their selfish desires...and thats not what it's about really...i can go on n on about this, im no expert but it just seems basic n logical if u think about it...theres a good way to go about having sex, then theres the wrong way...
Now if you want to become a male prostitute...just triple layer that fucker please

On a more note, this sesapure really kicks my ass ...just had a whole load...(*ahem* excuse me, loaf) of wheat bread and a stick of butter with 2 sesapure...with wulfgar's magic glycogen refilling stack (ala, , glutamine, creatine, 4 hydroxyisoleucine, aakg, etc etc)....muscles r as full n veiny as my...



goonight & goodmorning

 

[al420]

Well..... to al the sickos that can't see the light you will more than likely be raising one or more of your GRANDCHILDREN.

My oldest kid is 8 so sex and nudity aren't being brought up yet - My wife and I still shower around the kids, walk around naked, etc. We even will have sex w/ one of the kid's beating on the locked door, so I'm not at all saying that sex or any other personal persuits aren't needed.....more so that anyone that chooses sex, or porn, or e-flirting over taking care of thier kids needs deserves to be shot

 

[Wulfgar]

LMFAO classic!!!

"i never got what the problem is with sex in our culture. Everyone does it, everyone wants to do it, everyone is curious about it. But we try to deny in ourselves the very nature of what we are."


It's like this essentially bro...back in the days when caveman ruled and women KNEW their role...man would just see an attractive women, konk her over the head with a bomboo shoot, drag her by hair back to cave, throw over rock, n have his way...the day when MEN ruled and women KNEW their role...lol!!


True thats a men's personality and inherently all us guys feel like this deep down inside, hell i dont exactly advocate this exactly as i just said it, but..the position of power, authority, demand for respect, get what we want, etc...but at the same time (this might sound a little corny, but its essentially true i think) being gentle and kind, sincere and concerned, understanding, is what really makes the romance novel...interchanging these two variables of personality. Internally I think it's programmed in all guys that we want to do the right thing...since we have feelings, it's possible to get what we want by giving back (jerks/players/liars dont agree here, but helping/giving back does give joy and gratification)..it's all about give and take, not take and take...what saddens me is seeing all these childish, immature boys at my gym, jerks/liars n the such...doing their "playa" thing with women then afterwards "hurting" them emotionally (using them)...just for sex...for their selfish desires...and thats not what it's about really...i can go on n on about this, im no expert but it just seems basic n logical if u think about it...theres a good way to go about having sex, then theres the wrong way...
Now if you want to become a male prostitute...just triple layer that fucker please

On a more note, this sesapure really kicks my ass ...just had a whole load...(*ahem* excuse me, loaf) of wheat bread and a stick of butter with 2 sesapure...with wulfgar's magic glycogen refilling stack (ala, , glutamine, creatine, 4 hydroxyisoleucine, aakg, etc etc)....muscles r as full n veiny as my...



goonight & goodmorning

lol, true enough bro! you crack me up...
and im glad you like my magical glycogen refilling stack! stuff is the bomb isnt it?
i havent even tried the sesamin oil yet. you like it? what are your experiences with it bro? Pm me. i love RLA btw..