Playing Mind Games With the Opposite Sex, A Girl worth a Ring

[tempest2003]

hey all, i dont know who to ask here so i want to get some general oppinions from the ladies. First the run down: We definitely had a connection right off the bat. I know she felt things between us were what she was looking for. Then i veered off the trail and never found it again. I tried too hard basically (gifts, tickts to shows, but mostly too much attention) and made myself look like I was too easy to reel in, she's looking for a challenge im almost positive. The thing is i know what kind of person she is, i just dont know how to manipulate her into feeling there may be something worth taking a second look at between us. I also didnt spend enough time on the communication, and focused more on the physical, big mistake which I will never make again. I know if i can get that second look i can do things right the second time. There were never any fights, just awkwardness i guess. I basically cornered her one night asking her to come back and stay with me (she already had multiple times w/out sex) She declined (by declined i mean never got back to me and has made no effort to communicate with me since) and I havent talked to her since either, this was a few days ago. So ladies, please look at it like this, has there ever been a guy who (i am attractive, not to brag, but looks alone are usually enough) who has just seemed unattractive due to him seeming as though he was too easy to obtain? If so, has there ever been anything a guy has done to turn this situation in his favor and mayhaps make you think you wanted to take a second look at this guy? please advise, and please i know i will get half the people saying look for a different girl, I wouldnt be coming here asking for opinions if i didnt know what i wanted. this is what i want, and i cannot give up yet feeling like there may still be a possibility, im by no means heart broken, but i feel like im missing something that I should have had. Nirvana's - "half the man i used to be" is a good explanation of my emotional status right now thanks all, much props in advance

 

[tempest2003]

^^

 

[chewyxrage]

I'm not a woman so I won't comment on your situation but the song you are referring to is called "Creep" and it was made by Stone Temple Pilots.

Had to set that straight

 

[Stefka]

Maybe it wasn't you not being enough of a challenge.
Maybe she just wasn't into you.
If you have to "corner" a girl to get her to stay over, she probably isn't that interested.
I'm hope I'm not being too harsh, but if she just isn't feeling you then there probably isn't much you can do.

 

[chewyxrage]

She stayed the night before w/o sex? Wtf?

 

[tempest2003]

thanks stef, i had the idea for about a week she wasnt really interested any longer, but i asked her about where we were and i couldent get anything out of her as far as her saying she just wanted to be friends. so i kept pressing the situation which was a bad idea, so when i say cornered her i mean that i asked her a question the would I thought i already knew the answer to so she would either have to tell me no, or not answer, to which she chose the latter.

 

[GoldenDelicious]

simple version:

you basically acted like a low value boring chump, just like the rest of the men hitting this girl up. she lumped you in with the rest, got bored, and nexted you.

reattracting her isnt terribly difficult - stop being so nice. stop providing for her. stop acting like a puppy dog trying to buy her affection with gifts. stop being so needy, and wanting her to stay over. dont let her stay over unless shes going to have sex. be less available to her

imagine that you are a busy, popular, successful man, with lots of women chasing him, and an interesting life - imagine it down to the finest detail - which side of the bed you wake up on, what color slippers you have - all of it - and then act like that guy.

 

[fistfullofsteel]

didn't read any of it, but if a women is still playing mind games after she graduated high school then you need to 86 that asap

 

[tempest2003]

"if a women is still playing mind games after she graduated high school then you need to 86 that asap" he says

 

[tempest2003]

Stefka, GoldenDelicious, thanks for your input, ive taken both bits you had to offer and turned the thoughts into some sense. i was the chump whatever, and i think i also just wasnt her type. i can come to terms with that, its when women leave you hanging that you have no idea what it was that drives me crazy. lol anyway, thanks for the words