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I like to write here just to vent sometimes. And a bit of support would be nice, so here goes.
Recently I returned home to New Zealand from a 5 month OE in Canada. I was in my best shape ever before leaving, and continued to train over in Canada, at least not loosing any of my hard earned gains. I had intentions of staying in Canada for at least 2 years but unfortunately I missed my friends and life back home and that coupled with the fact I could not land a technical job and was working as a cleaner I soon got fed up. I may go back to Canada if I plan it better next time.
I am now back in New Zealand, desperately looking for a good job that matches my tertiary qualification (electronics engineering). Until I land a job I'll be living at home with my parents and my older brother who is 29 and bi-polar. Here is where things get complicated, I have over 3g's worth of gym equipment that I have built up over the years so as long as I stay in this house it only makes sense to use them. It's seems however, since being back in this country my brother hates the idea of me training at home even though he's doing a sports science degree at university!!. He says the noise drives him crazy and he'll get real personal with his insults sometimes and walk up on me like he wants to fight etc. He also tells me he hates people who do weights etc etc. I generally tell him to calm down, I'm being as quiet as possible but he's never been so sensitive about this until now.
Also, he has terrible eating habbits!! He never eats with the family, and if my mother cooks a nice roast or elaborate dinner he'll go out and buy fish and chips and eat by himself. He always complains that there is something physically wrong with him and the symptoms change from day to day. The other night he complained how my parents love me and hate him. It's weird because I feel he is bringing me down with him and its additional stress that I don't need.
When I first got back from Canada I benched my personal best within the first 2 weeks of being home and was eating 5 solid meals a day, my confidence was sky high and wasn't too concerned about not having a job and living with my brother. Now it seems, I cant stand to be around my brother. I feel nautious around him and instead of eating like a horse like I normally do my appetite has really sucked lately, I've been observing my brothers bad habits and they are rubbing off on me. At present my desire to eat goes up and down like a yo-yo which has never happened before. I've lost around 15pounds in the last 2months and I am literally desperate to get my job and get out of this house and resume where I left off without these negative influences in my life.
I presume I'm ranting by now, but these things are playing on my mind and I need an outlet, I find myself worrying about my brother even though he can be a complete asshole almost every day. I love my brother regardless but I really need to get this off my chest, so there you go.
Anybody care to chime in and give advice on how to cope with this terrible situation? No-body likes to loose their hard earned muscle and the depression that goes along with it. Thanks for reading.
Recently I returned home to New Zealand from a 5 month OE in Canada. I was in my best shape ever before leaving, and continued to train over in Canada, at least not loosing any of my hard earned gains. I had intentions of staying in Canada for at least 2 years but unfortunately I missed my friends and life back home and that coupled with the fact I could not land a technical job and was working as a cleaner I soon got fed up. I may go back to Canada if I plan it better next time.
I am now back in New Zealand, desperately looking for a good job that matches my tertiary qualification (electronics engineering). Until I land a job I'll be living at home with my parents and my older brother who is 29 and bi-polar. Here is where things get complicated, I have over 3g's worth of gym equipment that I have built up over the years so as long as I stay in this house it only makes sense to use them. It's seems however, since being back in this country my brother hates the idea of me training at home even though he's doing a sports science degree at university!!. He says the noise drives him crazy and he'll get real personal with his insults sometimes and walk up on me like he wants to fight etc. He also tells me he hates people who do weights etc etc. I generally tell him to calm down, I'm being as quiet as possible but he's never been so sensitive about this until now.
Also, he has terrible eating habbits!! He never eats with the family, and if my mother cooks a nice roast or elaborate dinner he'll go out and buy fish and chips and eat by himself. He always complains that there is something physically wrong with him and the symptoms change from day to day. The other night he complained how my parents love me and hate him. It's weird because I feel he is bringing me down with him and its additional stress that I don't need.
When I first got back from Canada I benched my personal best within the first 2 weeks of being home and was eating 5 solid meals a day, my confidence was sky high and wasn't too concerned about not having a job and living with my brother. Now it seems, I cant stand to be around my brother. I feel nautious around him and instead of eating like a horse like I normally do my appetite has really sucked lately, I've been observing my brothers bad habits and they are rubbing off on me. At present my desire to eat goes up and down like a yo-yo which has never happened before. I've lost around 15pounds in the last 2months and I am literally desperate to get my job and get out of this house and resume where I left off without these negative influences in my life.
I presume I'm ranting by now, but these things are playing on my mind and I need an outlet, I find myself worrying about my brother even though he can be a complete asshole almost every day. I love my brother regardless but I really need to get this off my chest, so there you go.
Anybody care to chime in and give advice on how to cope with this terrible situation? No-body likes to loose their hard earned muscle and the depression that goes along with it. Thanks for reading.
