The Shadow said:
Calorie free alcohol?
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^^ ha No shit
Mermaid...darlin... GREAT JOB for not drinking! That is a good thing. Think of it as a lesson learned ... You know now for future reference what to do next time you are in a social situation. At first it seemed quite unfortunate for me because I had to give up my social life for ME to suceed. NOT AT ALL saying you have to do this, but going out for me was full of booze, then shots, pitchers, more shots... THEN came the "Who's going to make the call for some 'party favors' ? " I am not saying I was a participant, but something I did NOT want to be a part of... booze, drugs, fake people, what ever it was...
I completely had to remove myself away from ALL of that, and I did lose many friends in the process. But were they really MY friends to begin with, ya know? When you hang with people who are phucked up all the time or it's not a party without booze, I'm sorry that is way past social drinking and NOT my scene... Been there, done that since I was way too young... blah blah blah.
My point is - there will be sacrifices you have to make, even social ones in order to reach your goals. You want to adopt a new lifestyle that is really going to be quite different from your old one, everything is affected by your change. But it's a good one... it's a healthy one...
I hope you find supportive people 'on the outside' that can relate to us here at EF, and tell you, "Girl you've been so good...don't take that bite... your reward meal is coming up, endulge then..." in face in person, a support system....
For me, I had NONE of that so I totally removed myself from ANY temptation and found my strength within and kicked some major ass.
Here are some things to re-read to help refocus... and remember this is just a bump in the road Mermaid... this journey will be will of them and you will make it just fine. Watch out for them Potholes though... they hurt a little bit more, but you'll make it
From Daisy's Intro Sticky - I know it's long, just re-read them really quick
I do often when I need a push in the right direction
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1) Sacrifice. You will have to forgo that extra dessert, that happy hour indulgence, the sleeping in and skipping the gym. You will likely have to severely limit many of your favorite foods. You may have to give up extra time cuddling on the couch because you have to hit the gym. You will have to spend more time planning meals, preparing meals and carting meals around. Sacrifice is a necessary evil to reaching your goals.
2) Pain. Your body will likely ache. You will wonder why it takes so many muscles to sit on the toilet, get out of bed, or brush your hair. Sometimes, laughing will invoke abdominal spasms. Your brain will try to talk you into skipping workouts because you are too tired. Push through this. Do not ignore INJURY signals, but learn to recognize the difference.
3) Determination. You have to WANT the change. I mean, want it deep down in your soul. Not just want to look better in a bikini. You have to want to make the lifetime change to better yourself. You will likely live and breathe your goal. Everything to do will be centered around reaching this goal. This does not mean you have to ignore or neglect family, friends, and work. But you will have to make some sacrifices for this goal.
4) Research. You have to read everything you can. Spend time going through Elite Fitness, other websites, magazines, research studies, whatever you can get your hands on. This does not mean you have to implement everything you read, but the more you learn, the better prepared you are. Don’t be afraid to ask questions, but also know that YOU have to bear the bulk of the responsibility for finding the information.
5) Action. You have to DO something to make the change. The change will not come through resting on your butt. Obviously, if what you are presently doing is working, you wouldn’t be here asking questions and setting new goals to reach. Reaching a goal will require you to take responsibility for your own actions. You alone are responsible for what goes in your mouth and whether or not you workout. You are the only person that can bring about change. We can give advice all day long, but you have to be open to listening and changing.
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