Increase a womans sex drive

[BigRupe]

ok well rupe you always have good info, when my girl who is 22 had this happen for a week her doctor told us that she would hit her sexual peak around 30 as opposed to me who hit it at around 17-20 depending.

I guess we need to define "Sexual peak" as it's real meaning has been changed. If you look at the biological imperative to reproduce, the reason we are programmed to have sex in the first place, a women is at her peak at roughly the same age a man is at his peak. That is the true definition of "sexual peak" the ability to produce offspring. It has nothing to do with the desire to have orgasms or the ability to enjoy sex more or have an increased craving. A woman at age 22 can have sex as many times and most likely with more orgasms as a woman at 42, there is no biological difference to cause a decrease in the ability with the "exception" of decreased estrogen levels in the older women.

The difference is, the woman at age 22 has more eggs of higher quality, her body is physically better able to handle the demands of pregnancy, she will have less side effects with a pregnancy, her eggs are at their highest level DNA wise, and her estrogen level is at it's highest.

When you discuss "sexual peak" in the refractory response rate then it's true a man's "sexual peak" as defined by his ability to have multiple orgasms within a smaller time frame and that does occur at a younger age, where as women do not have the refractory issue, but as women age they produce less estrogen which does effect sexual enjoyment.

The true definition of "sexual peak" has been improperly defined as a women's desire when sexual peak is defined by the biological ability to reproduce.

Bottom line is as far as being horny, I have met and dated horny women of all ages. I believe to a degree that a women in her 30's is more sure of herself has more confidence and experience to enjoy sex more. She knows her body and what she likes or doesn't like, but the same is true for men.

The ONLY true physiological differnce between a man and women at age 30 is the refractory response time between orgasms. But that doesn't mean a diminshed desire.

 

[mlmdpump]

"Most women start perimenopause between ages 39 and 51. Some women begin to notice menstrual changes and premenstrual syndrome (PMS) symptoms in their late 30s, when hormone levels begin to change and fertility naturally declines. Other women don't notice menopause changes until their late 40s." source - WebMD / AMA (American Medical Association)


dullboy said it was "not likely" menopausal related at her age. dullboy is more than likely right. you're more than likely wrong.

dullboy would guess that this is psychosomatic . dullboy doesn't have a enough information to make that determination, a determination that he is professionally qualified to make.

dullboy says that you should go and play with your penis pump, weirdo.

dullboy would love to find the causation for your penis obsession. most likely, some combination of social phobia and paraphilia.

Methinks Dullboy is a genius - read and learn

 

[BigRupe]

"Most women start perimenopause between ages 39 and 51. Some women begin to notice menstrual changes and premenstrual syndrome (PMS) symptoms in their late 30s, when hormone levels begin to change and fertility naturally declines. Other women don't notice menopause changes until their late 40s." source - WebMD / AMA (American Medical Association)

dullboy said it was "not likely" menopausal related at her age. dullboy is more than likely right. you're more than likely wrong..

I said PRE-menopausal and I did NOT say menopause was likely. I just stated the FACT that as she ages she will experience estrogen related dryness.

Perimenopause is the phase before menopause actually takes place, when ovarian hormone production is declining and fluctuating, causing a host of symptoms. Some clinicians maintain that perimenopause can last for as long as 5 to 15 years, and refer to perimenopause as that period which is a 3 to 4 year span just before menopause. Either way, many women experience more symptoms during perimenopause than after menopause. Because this often happens at an age between 35 and 45, many women's symptoms are overlooked or ignored by their healthcare providers.

http://womens-health.health-cares.net/menopause-periods.php

dullboy would guess that this is psychosomatic . dullboy doesn't have a enough information to make that determination, a determination that he is professionally qualified to make..

Sex is also about emotional intimacy and I feel there might be other issues at play besides the "physiological". You may need to work on the "psychological" and see a sex therapist.

dullboy says that you should go and play with your penis pump, weirdo.

dullboy would love to find the causation for your penis obsession. most likely, some combination of social phobia and paraphilia.

You talk about my dick more than I do so please clue us in to what drives YOUR obsession. My guess is penis envy.

 

[Sassy69]

i see, and i am very interested to hear what your belief is sassy being that you are a woman. so sexual peak can occur at anytime or is it more common to occur at certain times.

LOL I couldnt' tell you - I'm only one sample point & I haven't lived my whole life yet. Maybe I passed my sexual peak and didnt' know because I was dating a lameo or wasn't dating at the time.

Personally I think there's a maturity / self-confidence aspect to it for women as well - we grow up being told we're supposed to be "good girls" but then all the guys around us tell us we have to "put out" to be "liked" (its even worse now as evidenced by all the shit about girls doing oral, anal & everythign BUT regular sex so they dont' get pregnant but will still be "popular"). Or fear of not doing the right thing or not knowing what to expect as guys are pretty clear what they want -- the whole "sex' thing is more physical and very focused on the penis - whereas women are much more emotionally oriented. So there's lots goign on to just get a female to be "comfortable" enough w/ herself & her sexuality to actually feel ok pursuing it to a point of true satisfaction.

To that end I'd say 30+ yrs old. Maybe even 40-ish because there's also greater financial independence for women and they may have already cleared the whole "I MUST BEAR CHILDREN & BE A MOM" thing.

Who knows - but I almost feel its not even worth discussing because what sort of conclusion are you supposed to draw from it? I dont think you can quantitatively define when it occurs and trying to assign some number just won't apply.

 

[mrplunkey]

If the sex isn't mind-blowing with no end in sight, you have ZERO business getting married.

And before people pile-on with the "relationships are about more than sex" stuff, hear me out. Sex is to a relationship what oil is to an engine. If you designed an engine to perfect tolerances, perfect heat management, perfect bearings, etc. etc., you wouldn't need oil. Similarly, if you have a relationship with perfect communication, perfect syncrony, perfect preferences, perfect interest matches, etc. etc. then you wouldn't need sex either. As for the rest of us, my advice is to stick to finding someone you will enjoy fucking.

 

[BigRupe]

LOL I couldnt' tell you - I'm only one sample point & I haven't lived my whole life yet. Maybe I passed my sexual peak and didnt' know because I was dating a lameo or wasn't dating at the time.

Personally I think there's a maturity / self-confidence aspect to it for women as well - we grow up being told we're supposed to be "good girls" but then all the guys around us tell us we have to "put out" to be "liked" (its even worse now as evidenced by all the shit about girls doing oral, anal & everythign BUT regular sex so they dont' get pregnant but will still be "popular"). Or fear of not doing the right thing or not knowing what to expect as guys are pretty clear what they want -- the whole "sex' thing is more physical and very focused on the penis - whereas women are much more emotionally oriented. So there's lots goign on to just get a female to be "comfortable" enough w/ herself & her sexuality to actually feel ok pursuing it to a point of true satisfaction.

To that end I'd say 30+ yrs old. Maybe even 40-ish because there's also greater financial independence for women and they may have already cleared the whole "I MUST BEAR CHILDREN & BE A MOM" thing.

Who knows - but I almost feel its not even worth discussing because what sort of conclusion are you supposed to draw from it? I dont think you can quantitatively define when it occurs and trying to assign some number just won't apply.

The women I have dated in their 30's and older were more "comfortable" with their sexuality and desire for intimacy. They are a bit more grown up to emotionally. I have dated younger womena nd they liked having sex, but there was a difference that's very hard to explain. Subtle but still there.

 

[Bruce]

good post as usual

I guess we need to define "Sexual peak" as it's real meaning has been changed. If you look at the biological imperative to reproduce, the reason we are programmed to have sex in the first place, a women is at her peak at roughly the same age a man is at his peak. That is the true definition of "sexual peak" the ability to produce offspring. It has nothing to do with the desire to have orgasms or the ability to enjoy sex more or have an increased craving. A woman at age 22 can have sex as many times and most likely with more orgasms as a woman at 42, there is no biological difference to cause a decrease in the ability with the "exception" of decreased estrogen levels in the older women.

The difference is, the woman at age 22 has more eggs of higher quality, her body is physically better able to handle the demands of pregnancy, she will have less side effects with a pregnancy, her eggs are at their highest level DNA wise, and her estrogen level is at it's highest.

When you discuss "sexual peak" in the refractory response rate then it's true a man's "sexual peak" as defined by his ability to have multiple orgasms within a smaller time frame and that does occur at a younger age, where as women do not have the refractory issue, but as women age they produce less estrogen which does effect sexual enjoyment.

The true definition of "sexual peak" has been improperly defined as a women's desire when sexual peak is defined by the biological ability to reproduce.

Bottom line is as far as being horny, I have met and dated horny women of all ages. I believe to a degree that a women in her 30's is more sure of herself has more confidence and experience to enjoy sex more. She knows her body and what she likes or doesn't like, but the same is true for men.

The ONLY true physiological differnce between a man and women at age 30 is the refractory response time between orgasms. But that doesn't mean a diminshed desire.

 

[KD1]

I think my comments were more directed to kd1...

Just because you love someone does not mean you should marry them. It has to be someone you can live with the rest of your life. If you think you can fix a relationship, whether it be sexual problems, or otherwise in nature, after or by getting married you are in up against long odds.

If you want to write a bunch of sappy posts about how love can conquer all kinds of problems and this and that fine, go ahead and pull the wool over this kids eyes. I mean what the hell - in 5 years when he is going through hell with his divorce you wont even be posting here any longer.

Im getting married once, to somebody I can share the rest of my life with.

 

[Sassy69]

Just because you love someone does not mean you should marry them. It has to be someone you can live with the rest of your life. If you think you can fix a relationship, whether it be sexual problems, or otherwise in nature, after or by getting married you are in up against long odds.

If you want to write a bunch of sappy posts about how love can conquer all kinds of problems and this and that fine, go ahead and pull the wool over this kids eyes. I mean what the hell - in 5 years when he is going through hell with his divorce you wont even be posting here any longer.

Im getting married once, to somebody I can share the rest of my life with.

I don't think I said anything to the effect of "love conquors all". My point is that there are all sorts of things that happen to people over the course of time. The topic here is a guy looking to "fix" why his g/f doesn't have a sex drive right now. The thing is that that's a relatively common issue and I haven't actually found much in the way of "medical solutions" for it - but they all seem to say that "it passes". But to jump to this conclusion that the whole relationship is fucked because of something that is inconvenient right now is sort of short sighted IMO. I'm not saying its not possible that it may be that big of a problem if is a continuous thing -- but it's not clear what the real problem is first - it could be a simple communication thing. Could be an imbalance in hormones. Could be a signal of a thyroid problem. Its very hard to find a really good relationship in this world, if you have a pretty good one but somethign changes then are you going to just toss it or at least spend some time exploring the issues first?

 

[BigRupe]

Its very hard to find a really good relationship in this world, if you have a pretty good one but somethign changes then are you going to just toss it or at least spend some time exploring the issues first?

Exactly