How come I have to go thru this B.S. every time I get into a relationship?!?

[Razorguns]

Hot Chicks are handed applications for prospective boyfriend from guys almost 7 times a day. They're always have the upper hand, which is why hot chicks do the dumping almost 95% of the time. It's just a fact of life you gotta get used to.

If you have some real guts --- dump HER and tell her to figure out her "priorities".

That'll shock her trust me.

 

[Nathan]

There's a breaking news bulletin.

YOU'RE a breaking news bulletin. Also, eat shit.

 

[the nature boy]

I'd find the escape pod and launch myself to the safety of Planet Newass.

I haven't seen that planet in a long time ever since my old lady took away my gained control of my telescope.

 

[bran987]

this was much better than your old thread about how you'll never get into another relationship!
dancing karma man will now show you his approval

 

[TC2]

LOL so predictable...

 

[alien amp pharm]

from that IM conversation, she seems so emphatic. the truth of where her heart lies is unknown to all of us, possibly including herself. but if she does still have romantic feelings for this other fellow, and knows it...she must be absolutely pathological to be able to say such things to you while still caring for him.

I believe her when she tells me she doesn't like him anymore. We've all been thru that before though. Only her actions will tell.

i think you have the right idea, in that you want to know what she wants. if you discovered that she felt more for him than for you, i know you would leave. and that's the only thing to do...scarcely anyone could be worth holding onto in such a situation. chances are, not her.

I will leave if I think she does still care for him. I'm not going to be caught up in the drama.

but it's possible that you may have pushed things a bit a too much, because you've elicited her "no no i love you"-relationship-survival response. maybe it's true, but maybe it's just instinct. you want to go beyond the conscious attitudes and behaviours, and try to see how she thinks, talks, and acts when at her most natural.

This ain't Wild Kingdom here.
j/k

it would be nice if you could just ask her what she really wants, and explain that her happiness is the issue here, and that you're not trying to get an apology, or punish her, or make her beg, or control her. but it's entirely plausible that this will only kick up an automatic, defense reflex (as she may have displayed already).

If she didn't realize this before, she def. knows my intentions now.

lastly, try to consider the mindset, values, and even past relationships of those who give you specific advice advocating one approach or another. if a dude who doesn't seem to really care for girls, or want long-term relationships, tells you to "dump the fucking bitch and move on"...heed his words with caution, because he probably doesn't think like you or want what you want.

Yeah, I've been in the same "I hate women" mindset all too often. I know where they're coming from. I just don't think this relationship is ready to end yet over this. As long as things improve then it's only gonna get better. Only time will tell though.

 

[alien amp pharm]

this was much better than your old thread about how you'll never get into another relationship!
dancing karma man will now show you his approval

I agree, seeing me struggle is much more entertaining.

Heck, with that mindset, my whole life has been entertaining.

 

[alien amp pharm]

LOL so predictable

You're just jealous because even prostitutes turn you down with a wad of $100's in your hand.

 

[Moderate_THIS]

This dire situation calls for a candlelit dinner and a Michael Bolton compilation CD

 

[alien amp pharm]

This dire situation calls for a candlelit dinner and a Michael Bolton compilation CD

Sure thing!
What are you cooking?