How come I have to go thru this B.S. every time I get into a relationship?!?

[Moderate_THIS]

sever all ties from her without warning. Don't return emails, change your IM name, phone calls go directly to voicemail. Show her you mean business. But don't formally break up with her... make her squirm. If she goes back to her ex, your decision is made. If she holds out for you for a few weeks, get head ASAP

 

[supersizeme]

She sounds like a typical 20 year old chick. The part about "I always want to be with you" had me cracking up. This is all part of dating girls in their early 20s. Eventually they grow out of that nonsense.

AAP this basically sucks all around. You're in the honeymoon phase of this relationship and yet you're taking a beating. Shit is supposed to be giggly fart bubbles for 2-3 months and then you find yourself waking up in the middle of the night wanting to push them out of bed because they are taking up 66% of the bed and your top ranked pillow. Too much too early on. I'd find the escape pod and launch myself to the safety of Planet Newass.

 

[alien amp pharm]

Yea, games suck, the ex thing sucks, but I mean Im still friends with my ex and nothing is going on there so whatever. My gf is friends with some of hers, its just trust, if you can't trust people then your doomed from the get go. Life is all about chances bro, REGRET may last forever, but I can almost gaurantee you that if you end this you will regret it a LOT more down the line then not just taking the chance. Im not advocating her or the situation, just speeking in general, if she hasn't done anything REAL to break your trust, then just be cool, whatever, see if she holds true to what she told you. Good luck

Excellent advice bro.
This is exactly my mindset on this.

It all depends on the individual person. This girl is definitly not easy. She is very conservative and from what I know of her would never lie or cheat.

I have a few female friends I talk to occasionally and one ex I'm real close with. I didn't talk to that ex for a year after we broke up to make sure I was over her. The relationship was also 8 years ago. I just think this looks bad on my GF's part since it's so recent of a breakup and he has already expressed how he doesn't want me with her.

I will see how this turns out and will be very cautious for quite a while. This delima she has created has set us back big time though.

 

[Dial_tone]

She sounds like a typical 20 year old chick. The part about "I always want to be with you" had me cracking up. This is all part of dating girls in their early 20s. Eventually they grow out of that nonsense.

AAP this basically sucks all around. You're in the honeymoon phase of this relationship and yet you're taking a beating. Shit is supposed to be giggly fart bubbles for 2-3 months and then you find yourself waking up in the middle of the night wanting to push them out of bed because they are taking up 66% of the bed and your top ranked pillow. Too much too early on. I'd find the escape pod and launch myself to the safety of Planet Newass.

I dunno.....he said she gives good head though. If she took it in the booty the choice would be clear.

 

[Nathan]

blah. Shit's fucked up no matter what you do man. I think life is really little more than a series of fucked up situations you find yourself in. I don't actually know what I'm talking about.

 

[alien amp pharm]

lol @ Nathan being high again.



Well she just got back and she said she told him that it looked bad for them to be around each other, so they should not be close friends yet.

I guess that's a step in the right direction. At least she's putting forth an effort without me asking her too.

 

[from zero]

I don't actually know what I'm talking about.

There's a breaking news bulletin.

 

[alien amp pharm]

She sounds like a typical 20 year old chick. The part about "I always want to be with you" had me cracking up. This is all part of dating girls in their early 20s. Eventually they grow out of that nonsense.

AAP this basically sucks all around. You're in the honeymoon phase of this relationship and yet you're taking a beating. Shit is supposed to be giggly fart bubbles for 2-3 months and then you find yourself waking up in the middle of the night wanting to push them out of bed because they are taking up 66% of the bed and your top ranked pillow. Too much too early on. I'd find the escape pod and launch myself to the safety of Planet Newass.

LMFAO!
You funny.

 

[Y_lifter]

Company leader to raven
Company leader to raven

talk to me johnny..

 

[jackangel]

FZ owned by aap 8/24/04

FZ gets owned by AAP on a regular basis, but it's usually from behind, so that's nothing special.

from that IM conversation, she seems so emphatic. the truth of where her heart lies is unknown to all of us, possibly including herself. but if she does still have romantic feelings for this other fellow, and knows it...she must be absolutely pathological to be able to say such things to you while still caring for him.

i think you have the right idea, in that you want to know what she wants. if you discovered that she felt more for him than for you, i know you would leave. and that's the only thing to do...scarcely anyone could be worth holding onto in such a situation. chances are, not her.

but it's possible that you may have pushed things a bit a too much, because you've elicited her "no no i love you"-relationship-survival response. maybe it's true, but maybe it's just instinct. you want to go beyond the conscious attitudes and behaviours, and try to see how she thinks, talks, and acts when at her most natural.

it would be nice if you could just ask her what she really wants, and explain that her happiness is the issue here, and that you're not trying to get an apology, or punish her, or make her beg, or control her. but it's entirely plausible that this will only kick up an automatic, defense reflex (as she may have displayed already).

lastly, try to consider the mindset, values, and even past relationships of those who give you specific advice advocating one approach or another. if a dude who doesn't seem to really care for girls, or want long-term relationships, tells you to "dump the fucking bitch and move on"...heed his words with caution, because he probably doesn't think like you or want what you want.

good luck.