So This is Why I havent been around...

[bicepts101]

i know my self esteem is low but ive never cheated...not too many relationships either...all were long....i have to concentrate on finding on person more than that is impossible

 

[-SD-]

I frankly don't care whether you agree with my points or not. I'm here to give him advice from a male's perspective on women and why they do what they do. She cheated and I think it's best he moves on.

Once a woman cheats, in my eyes she's tainted. I'd never get back with a woman who cheated on me. I just can't see her the same way again, either emotionally or physically......once another guy's pounded her, I don't consider her mine anymore.

That's just the way it is.
DIV

Word is bond. Bitches.

 

[habitualhealth]

so think twice next time before you fuck with someones mind. the shit hurts people in different ways so stop thinking of yourself sometimes.

This is such a powerful statement.

I've read every post page for page of this thread and have to admit that most of you guys/gals are right. Each person brings a valid point to the table. Cowcutter, I don't know you but am truly sorry for what you're going through.

I'm not going to man/woman hate in here but note that men and women deal with the same issues daily. How you deal with it decides your future. You can let it make you or break you. To my misfortune, I too have experienced all of the same emotions, uncertainties, insecurities, doubt, etc that you're dealing with. Now, years later, they still surface. It's really hard to find a way out...to grasp the breath of fresh air. (Especially when you truly love someone.) And yes, like the guys have said in here (some of them) it'd be easy to forget what you're dealing with by pouncing on the next hottie that walks by. But, IMO, all that will do is surpress all of those feelings and create a wicked, malicious, angered, depressed, you name it, you. You create a "victim crutch" for yourself and the excuses for life begin. And could very well make you miss an incredible oppty in the future. Some men and women are too bound by these negative emotions to be able to see something awesome walking in their life....or out for that matter. I would say "stay strong"...but that's quite the cliche with what you're going through. Only you will know the right time to let go.

To succeed at anything in life beit realtionships, career, what have you....you have to daily rededicate yourself to that task, project, committment. Though it sounds like you have done that...you might have a bad egg on the other side. (w/her)

Imo, age is a number....we can define a person based on that all day long....but i feel maturity, experience, goals, self-awareness, and intellect are what truly define a person. (but that's just my $.02)

I hope things get better for you.

 

[beefcake28]

This sounds almost identical to what I went through a few years ago... and I was almost exactly the same age as you when I went through it. I even had the same symptoms: couldn't sleep, eat, lift, or much of anything else... I'm sorry to hear that you gotta go through this... I know firsthand how rough it can be...

 

[DIVISION]

Word is bond. Bitches.

....once another guy's pounded her, I don't consider her mine anymore.

That's just the way it is.







DIV

 

[Lestat]

hang in there man, you've got a lot of good shit going for you, don't let one woman bring you down for too long (a little while is normal)

 

[TC2]

this is the reason women in their early 20's have hold no interest for me.

They are ALL like that.

I've been talking to this "great" girl for awhile, shes smart, funny, beautiful and has a giant heart.

I reccently found out that she just turned 21 not to long ago, as much as I want to, I'm not even about to get involved with her.

 

[DIVISION]

this is the reason women in their early 20's have hold no interest for me.

They are ALL like that.

I've been talking to this "great" girl for awhile, shes smart, funny, beautiful and has a giant heart.

I reccently found out that she just turned 21 not to long ago, as much as I want to, I'm not even about to get involved with her.

She just might be the exception the rule about women in their 20's, TC2......

However, just keep your guard up, nugga.....

Last thing you want to do is invest yourself emotionally in a relationship with her and come home one day to find her getting dickeddown by the mailman.

That's a bill you just can't afford to pay, bro.






DIV

 

[CrazyK]

Just say "NO!" to the white women.

 

[CrazyK]

Okay so if you guys think you can generalize the whole female race then I think I should be able to generalize as well…

Here is it blunt…

Men cheat because they are horn-balls and have the biological need to spread their seed to every willing recipient.

Women cheat because there is something missing in the relationship… Be it emotional or physical..

That being said most likely you were not fucking her right.. And she became so sexually frustrated that she went looking elsewhere to fulfill that need.

She is probably being mean now because you have ignored her needs for so long that she is pissed off that all of a sudden she matters to you…

Sorry that is the bottom line…

Wow that was a fucked up thing to say. I hope you get fucking ass raped, cunt.