Serious gf situation this is bad...

[manny78]

First mistake, after the first time she left and then came, you shouldnt have let her come back again like 5 times. 2nd mistake, you shouldnt have left the house when asked by the cops. You should have called a lawyer, figure something else and kick her ass out.

NOW forget about her. Next time she calls either you hang up,you ask her when her man will die cause you have a karma bookie on him or tell her you're too busy fucking another girl. Dont let her ass cross your door. She's playing with you. She knows about your weakness and she's taking advantage of it.

 

[marvelous54]

Google for some info on Codependence. You are a classic codependent.
You do NOT love this girl, you are addicted to this roller coaster ride you have with her. Most emotionally stable people would not put up with what you have.
Real love does not feel this way. She has put you into the "Crazies"!
I've been where you are right now.....trust me, read up on codependency.

This site may help you

http://www.studentaffairs.cmu.edu/counseling/documents/relation.htm

EXACTLy, EXACTLY, EXACTLY. Bro, blue is telling you right. That's not love, what you have is a mental illness and it's called co-dependency! You need to stay the fu@# away from her and get some help! Plain and simple!

 

[gunnr17]

These guys couldn't have said it better man. There's not 1 word in these posts I don't agree with. Listen to the advice bro. There's a reason everyone is saying the exact same thing. Its time to move on. You've done all you can for this girl and the relationship. You're too good for her and you'll find much better. Good luck bro.

 

[Fajitas]

When I read this I immediately thought of co-dependency issues but at the same time I think that there could be substance abuse issues as well.

 

[cactus_jack]

They are right on about the co-dependence man. Get outa that situation fast. This is not "Love" that is keeping you. The longer you stay the worse it gets. Good luck man.

 

[Sassy69]

Damn. That sux. Basically she expects you (maybe not in a mean way, but you've demonstrated that she can work you) to provide everything, but still accommodate her "space" or whatever the hell it is that she thinks gives her the right to take off & expect to come back every month. I.e. her ability to plan and take care of herself lasts about 3 weeks tops it appears. And now it looks like she's expecting you to help her take care of this poor slob she's living w/ now. I'm sure she feels like its up to her to help this guy, be there for him, etc because she has such a big heart, etc etc, except she doesn't have the means to help him herself so she asks you for resources that she can turn around & give to this guy.

Dude. Not your job. Its not "love". Its some sort of weird co-dependence where you each derive some sort of satisfaction or meet some need, but its not the same need - for you its love (or maybe your need to be the guy who "saves" this helpless goofy little girl) and for her, its not really clear what it is, but she knows you're there for her when she can't take care of herself.

The guys above nailed it. It doesn't make you a bad person - it just means you can be there to support her "needs" but you are never going to get the love returned that you are willing to put out there.

 

[foxxie]

wtf!! The story that you just told me is pretty much like a horror story. But there's no killer and no victim. YOu are setting yourself up into a pile of BS Crap and the sad part you know for a fact that you are doing this to yourself. Is like pretty much you stab yourself over and over again till you bleed to death. Why?

Afraid that you can't find any better than her? Common now she's playing your mind and using you. I know you know that by reading your story. ( not unless this is bolony, sorry) You can do way better w/o her, not unless you like drama then go right ahead.

Is only your fault when you let this relationship of yours go. please smack yourself and wake up! ( sorry for being bold)

 

[Wulfgar]

Im just stuck on the 60 year old man she is with

she'll be thinking about you with all that white hair, wrinkly skin and old balls rubbin on her
sorry, classic adam sandler

Im also in agreement with the above statements bud. get some counseling and see a lawyer.

 

[PBR]

two words of advice from me: STOP IT. sometimes we need to hear that. especially coming from strangers who have no position and are not able to take "sides"...get off the merri-go-round, life is short...she has proved beyond doubt, you are nothing more than a meal ticket and a rescuer...

 

[dullboy]

there could be substance abuse issues as well.

very likely.

in fact, dullboy guarantees it.