Start thinking NOW about whether you would want to live where he is now in terms of:
- being happy given distance to your family
- being able to make a living financially
- any age differences
- goals, children, etc
- When you visit them pay CLOSE attention to how they live.
I spent 2 yrs doing the long distance thing then moved in with them for the next 8 years only to find out she was a lot different from what I thought in terms of lifestyle and what she wanted in life.
Start thinking NOW about whether you would want to live where he is now in terms of:
- being happy given distance to your family
- being able to make a living financially
- any age differences
- goals, children, etc
- When you visit them pay CLOSE attention to how they live.
I spent 2 yrs doing the long distance thing then moved in with them for the next 8 years only to find out she was a lot different from what I thought in terms of lifestyle and what she wanted in life.
Man long distance is tough, I think it's okay for shorter durations with a forseeable end. If it wasn't for my Ex needing to stay at UF an additional year I firmly believe we would still be together. I think DT broke everything down.
I met my gf online as well.She reponded to a CL add i had we talked for 2mos met and within 15 minutes after meeting we were having sex and now we are happy as hell together.
Meeting people from online is like meeting them anywhere else. There are good people and bad people no matter where you meet them. You will find out once you meet him in person if he is what you had hoped for. =-)
I didn't really find out until years after I moved to where she was that my internet SO:
- wasn't really a motivated career type person and actually wanted to be a stay at home girlfriend (that didn't want kids)
- was really quite messy but would spend a entire month cleaning before I'd come visit, and that's not exaggeration.
- was not really as active and outdoorsy as portrayed. She did the typical woman thing of doing the treadmill 90 minutes a day til she got a man then she gained about 80 lbs once I moved in.
- doesn't really like or want friends and if she could figure out a way to do would never leave the house as long as she lived.