Increase a womans sex drive

[auto5555]

Ive been with my grilfriend for about 7 yrs now and am getting married in august. The problem is that she is no longer horney anymore. We have sex about once a month or so and thats because I pressure her so much. She went to the doc and everything is good and normal. (dont understand this but the doc said shes normal at 34, not wanting sex and not being as wet is perfectly normal and will get worst in a few years) I love her so much but shit this pisses me of totally!!! I am 28 and I want sex 3-4 times a day.My question is is there anything out there that she can take that well get her in the mood more ( more horney), Im in desperate need so any info would be greatly appreciated.

thanks

 

[BigRupe]

That is tough and yes as they age they do get less lubricated when excited. To be honest though I don't buy into the wome at 34 years of age no longer want or need sex. That's a crock.

Again as she gets older she won't get as wet, but hell she should still want sex more than 12 times a year!

Did you speak with the doctor or did she relay this to you? Sex is also about emotional ntimacy and I feel there might be other issues at play besides the "physiological". You may need to work on the "psychological" and see a sex therapist.

I'd hold off on the wedding until you both are happy with your sex life or expectations of what your sex life should be.

 

[Sassy69]

I'd definitely start by discussing it w/ her - you don't say specifically what you both have talked about yet. I"m assuming that 7 yrs of dating means that you do have excellent communication together. But there are a couple things to explore. First make sure that she sees the issue in the same light that you do -- i.e. she's not feeling pressure because your'e a horny guy and she isn't as horny. But I do agree that if the sex part of your relationship has fizzled out, its critical to deal w/ it because that should be an integral component of a successful & happy marriage (IMO anyway).

The easy part to deal w/ is the physical stuff - does she discuss this w/ her doc? Are her natural T-levels low? Thyroid or anythign else that might make her less sensitive, less interested, less whatever? I would personally punch my doc in the neck if he told me - yea you're getting older, it starts to go down hill here and you're pretty much just a cold lump of humanity in a few yrs -- at age 34?? Fuck that man. I was banging a 23 yr old when I was 34. I don't think there is a lot of truely understood knowledge about hormones, particularly in women and how it is all interconnected w/ our feelings, moods, etc. so I would seriously ask for a second opinion or some sort of more productive discussion or just look on the internet for some better info than that.

I will say that I think women do go thru periods of time where they don't want to be touched or have sex for whatever reason. How long those phases last I don't know but I do know they exist. I've experienced it. But not for months on end.

IMO its just plain wrong to not get a real good handle on the physical part just to make sure there isn't something fundamental that is affecting her sex drive. I'd even ask the OB/GYN if her t-levels are low, the viability of using a topical test cream like androgel or something. I'm suggesting this mostly just to illustrate the fact that peopel do this all the time- there are lots of women I've seen post on this forum and others that they use androgel or some sort of test support at very low doses. But also she is not near menopause yet so I don't want to imply that that is "the answer". Further I'm not suggesting that you attempt to self-diagnose & self-medicate w/ somethign either.

A random thought I wanted to include here - I personally experienced a bit of a hormone change at age 37 where I noticed things like I don't get nearly as much acne as I did my whole life. That was probably the most apparent difference. I'm not infertile yet, haven't hit anythign remotely like menopause and I certainly can't say I'm not interested in sex - hell, if anythign, probably more than ever. But I will also say I'm much more confident and comfortable in myself & my sexuality than maybe I was when I was 30 -- so there are lots of factors involved. But I just wanted to call bullshit on the age thing -- but also include that there are hormonal changes coming in the next few years that she should be aware of but I think its a copout on the doc's part to just say - yep, you may be sort of ok now, but you're screwed in a few yrs.

Then along w/ eliminating any physical issues, I'm w/ Rupe as well - do you think there are any communication issues between you? Is she self-conscious about the sex thing or tells you she's not interested or tries to sidestep the issue? Is she willing to discuss it? I'd realy dig into this if it bugs you this much - but I want to make sure that it is something that she is in the right frame of mind to discuss and that she doesnt' take it as an "attack" or a big frustration on your part that she is "doing" to you. If its as big a concern for her and she wants to pursue the solutioin & your communication is spot on - then dig into it. Might be a little frightening, maybe a little exposing on the part of her emotions -- but its such a fundamental part of a loving relationship its worth the effort.

Good luck!

 

[Sassy69]

Oh, also in the interim, have you tried anything like cialis? Or has she? I'm not saying it will fix the problem, but women can take the stuff.... Don't force it on her but you can suggest it.

 

[Bruce]

my girl is a freak for the most part, but like sassy says, every once in a while she randomly doesn't want to be touched, its very frustrating i know. you wanna fuck so bad and you tell her you can get her in the mood but you can't she has no interest. i tried fempower, its a cream you rub on the clitoris and they go nuts. still it can be tough sometimes for them to let you put it on if they are being negative toward sex. if she is open to it try it can't hurt. i feel ya bro. luckily its only happened two times and it only was a day, both times she had lost someone important so its a bit different.

 

[KD1]

If I were you I would break it off, there is something wrong with her.

You will end up getting divorced if you follow through, if you are not happy now its not going to make things better marrying her.

 

[Bruce]

If I were you I would break it off, there is something wrong with her.

You will end up getting divorced if you follow through, if you are not happy now its not going to make things better marrying her.

this is very hard to do my friend. if he loves her its deeper than that, and if he breaks it off his whole life he might wonder how it would have turned out, if it was just a phase. they need to talk. i agree it will lead to serious problems if it isn't addressed but man my heart goes out to you, it hurts to love someone sometimes it really does.

 

[KD1]

Yeah I know it will be tough, but its your whole life you are talking about, you have to be selfish. Its better to do it now than in 5-7 years when there are kids involved and legal stuff.

 

[Bruce]

Yeah I know it will be tough, but its your whole life you are talking about, you have to be selfish. Its better to do it now than in 5-7 years when there are kids involved and legal stuff.

i agree. its just a really tough situation. i'm saying to give it a try to bring her back, if it doesn't work and he is not happy yes he may have to let go. i know how much i love my gf, and it would take a lot for me to leave, but i couldn't decide to spend my life frustrated and horny, it is selfish. i'm just putting myself in his shoes and i feel for him. is she on birth control, maybe its fucking with her hormones

 

[BigRupe]

If I were you I would break it off, there is something wrong with her.

You will end up getting divorced if you follow through, if you are not happy now its not going to make things better marrying her.

Actually there is "something wrong" with all of us. Love will seek to find a solution and get help not just dump her.

I don't know one couple that didn't have some issue with the other. I would get counseling and IF that doesn't work then they might decide to go their seperate ways, but once you fall in love you'll realize you'll do just about anything to be with that person

 

[dullboy]

That is tough and yes as they age they do get less lubricated when excited.

bullshit.

unless the the woman is menopausal.

not likely at 34.

 

[Bruce]

thank you dullboy i didn't want to get into it but i was under the impression that women hit their sexual peak at 30. i'm only 25 but i banged a 33 year old when i was 22 in vegas, she was hot and dying for sex. never had an animal like that before.

 

[BigRupe]

bullshit.

unless the the woman is menopausal.

not likely at 34.

Dullboy has a great track record of being wrong.

Many premenopausal women in the early and late 30's do start to experience fluctuating degrees of estrogen and do have vaginal dyness and this dryness increases as they age.

Premenopausal symptoms can occur as early as 10 or even 15 years before menopause. Do the math!

Every woman is different and I did NOT say that at 34 she will be dry I said as she ages she will have less lubrication just like the doctor suggested.

She could be having pre-menopausal symptoms of menopause at 34 years of age. She may be having varying degrees of estrogen production for a host of reasons, one of which is stress.

In any case what I said is 100% accurate.
http://www.menopauseexpert.com/vaginaldryness.html

 

[Sassy69]

I like how some of you guys are talking about well fuck it, she's a complete waste of time because YOU can't fix her and this and that and a whole load of other shit. I'm really glad its easy to lump your perception of this one particular block of time into a bucket that says "sure, be selfish, dump her because you cant fix her right now"..

Holy fuck - how would u think your g/f deals w/ your deca dick and all the other shit that result from AAS? She just has to live w/ it until you go thru your PCT and hope nothing gets fucked up. Don't you think that a relationship has a little more goign for it than just "fuck it, toss it, not worth it, too bad, so sad". Holy shit people - you're dealing with some very common and very fundamental hormone-based issues. There's so much the medical world doesn't understand about it. But to sit here and make judgement calls like that w/o taking the time to explore ALL the potential aspects. It may not be her... it might be YOU and how she perceives that you treat her. There are a whole host of reasons and sometimes they are really fucking obvious, sometimes they aren't. Start w/ the medical stuff that a doctor could determine w/ reliable testing (e.g thyroid, etc), then start exploring the communications and the state of her life, your life and your relationship before you start looking to a steroid board for "ways to fix" it.

Sorry for the rant, but holy fucking shit this gets to be stupid conversation.

 

[Bruce]

sassy if you read my post, you will see that i said it was not as simple as just dumping her. i said if you love someone like i love my gf it would be hard to dump them over sex and live your life wondering. but she is unwilling to work with you or talk it over then it might be like that for all problems you have and that is unhealthy. i never said dump her. if he loves her and she loves him for real then they need to talk and there is a way to fix it

I like how some of you guys are talking about well fuck it, she's a complete waste of time because YOU can't fix her and this and that and a whole load of other shit. I'm really glad its easy to lump your perception of this one particular block of time into a bucket that says "sure, be selfish, dump her because you cant fix her right now"..

Holy fuck - how would u think your g/f deals w/ your deca dick and all the other shit that result from AAS? She just has to live w/ it until you go thru your PCT and hope nothing gets fucked up. Don't you think that a relationship has a little more goign for it than just "fuck it, toss it, not worth it, too bad, so sad". Holy shit people - you're dealing with some very common and very fundamental hormone-based issues. There's so much the medical world doesn't understand about it. But to sit here and make judgement calls like that w/o taking the time to explore ALL the potential aspects. It may not be her... it might be YOU and how she perceives that you treat her. There are a whole host of reasons and sometimes they are really fucking obvious, sometimes they aren't. Start w/ the medical stuff that a doctor could determine w/ reliable testing (e.g thyroid, etc), then start exploring the communications and the state of her life, your life and your relationship before you start looking to a steroid board for "ways to fix" it.

Sorry for the rant, but holy fucking shit this gets to be stupid conversation.

 

[Bruce]

ok well rupe you always have good info, when my girl who is 22 had this happen for a week her doctor told us that she would hit her sexual peak around 30 as opposed to me who hit it at around 17-20 depending.

Dullboy has a great track record of being wrong.

Many premenopausal women in the early and late 30's do start to experience fluctuating degrees of estrogen and do have vaginal dyness and this dryness increases as they age.

Premenopausal symptoms can occur as early as 10 or even 15 years before menopause. Do the math!

Every woman is different and I did NOT say that at 34 she will be dry I said as she ages she will have less lubrication just like the doctor suggested.

She could be having pre-menopausal symptoms of menopause at 34 years of age. She may be having varying degrees of estrogen production for a host of reasons, one of which is stress.

In any case what I said is 100% accurate.
http://www.menopauseexpert.com/vaginaldryness.html

 

[Sassy69]

This shit about sexual peak puts people in a box that says if you are over / under this age, you just missed the boat so don't bother. Sex is such a fundamental aspect of human existence and is subject to too many things to make accurate broad statements like that.

 

[Sassy69]

sassy if you read my post, you will see that i said it was not as simple as just dumping her. i said if you love someone like i love my gf it would be hard to dump them over sex and live your life wondering. but she is unwilling to work with you or talk it over then it might be like that for all problems you have and that is unhealthy. i never said dump her. if he loves her and she loves him for real then they need to talk and there is a way to fix it

I think my comments were more directed to kd1...

 

[Bruce]

i see, and i am very interested to hear what your belief is sassy being that you are a woman. so sexual peak can occur at anytime or is it more common to occur at certain times.

 

[dullboy]

Dullboy has a great track record of being wrong.

Many premenopausal women in the early and late 30's do start to experience fluctuating degrees of estrogen and do have vaginal dyness and this dryness increases as they age.

Premenopausal symptoms can occur as early as 10 or even 15 years before menopause. Do the math!

Every woman is different and I did NOT say that at 34 she will be dry I said as she ages she will have less lubrication just like the doctor suggested.

She could be having pre-menopausal symptoms of menopause at 34 years of age. She may be having varying degrees of estrogen production for a host of reasons, one of which is stress.

In any case what I said is 100% accurate.
http://www.menopauseexpert.com/vaginaldryness.html

"Most women start perimenopause between ages 39 and 51. Some women begin to notice menstrual changes and premenstrual syndrome (PMS) symptoms in their late 30s, when hormone levels begin to change and fertility naturally declines. Other women don't notice menopause changes until their late 40s." source - WebMD / AMA (American Medical Association)


dullboy said it was "not likely" menopausal related at her age. dullboy is more than likely right. you're more than likely wrong.

dullboy would guess that this is psychosomatic . dullboy doesn't have a enough information to make that determination, a determination that he is professionally qualified to make.

dullboy says that you should go and play with your penis pump, weirdo.

dullboy would love to find the causation for your penis obsession. most likely, some combination of social phobia and paraphilia.

 

[BigRupe]

ok well rupe you always have good info, when my girl who is 22 had this happen for a week her doctor told us that she would hit her sexual peak around 30 as opposed to me who hit it at around 17-20 depending.

I guess we need to define "Sexual peak" as it's real meaning has been changed. If you look at the biological imperative to reproduce, the reason we are programmed to have sex in the first place, a women is at her peak at roughly the same age a man is at his peak. That is the true definition of "sexual peak" the ability to produce offspring. It has nothing to do with the desire to have orgasms or the ability to enjoy sex more or have an increased craving. A woman at age 22 can have sex as many times and most likely with more orgasms as a woman at 42, there is no biological difference to cause a decrease in the ability with the "exception" of decreased estrogen levels in the older women.

The difference is, the woman at age 22 has more eggs of higher quality, her body is physically better able to handle the demands of pregnancy, she will have less side effects with a pregnancy, her eggs are at their highest level DNA wise, and her estrogen level is at it's highest.

When you discuss "sexual peak" in the refractory response rate then it's true a man's "sexual peak" as defined by his ability to have multiple orgasms within a smaller time frame and that does occur at a younger age, where as women do not have the refractory issue, but as women age they produce less estrogen which does effect sexual enjoyment.

The true definition of "sexual peak" has been improperly defined as a women's desire when sexual peak is defined by the biological ability to reproduce.

Bottom line is as far as being horny, I have met and dated horny women of all ages. I believe to a degree that a women in her 30's is more sure of herself has more confidence and experience to enjoy sex more. She knows her body and what she likes or doesn't like, but the same is true for men.

The ONLY true physiological differnce between a man and women at age 30 is the refractory response time between orgasms. But that doesn't mean a diminshed desire.

 

[mlmdpump]

"Most women start perimenopause between ages 39 and 51. Some women begin to notice menstrual changes and premenstrual syndrome (PMS) symptoms in their late 30s, when hormone levels begin to change and fertility naturally declines. Other women don't notice menopause changes until their late 40s." source - WebMD / AMA (American Medical Association)


dullboy said it was "not likely" menopausal related at her age. dullboy is more than likely right. you're more than likely wrong.

dullboy would guess that this is psychosomatic . dullboy doesn't have a enough information to make that determination, a determination that he is professionally qualified to make.

dullboy says that you should go and play with your penis pump, weirdo.

dullboy would love to find the causation for your penis obsession. most likely, some combination of social phobia and paraphilia.

Methinks Dullboy is a genius - read and learn

 

[BigRupe]

"Most women start perimenopause between ages 39 and 51. Some women begin to notice menstrual changes and premenstrual syndrome (PMS) symptoms in their late 30s, when hormone levels begin to change and fertility naturally declines. Other women don't notice menopause changes until their late 40s." source - WebMD / AMA (American Medical Association)

dullboy said it was "not likely" menopausal related at her age. dullboy is more than likely right. you're more than likely wrong..

I said PRE-menopausal and I did NOT say menopause was likely. I just stated the FACT that as she ages she will experience estrogen related dryness.

Perimenopause is the phase before menopause actually takes place, when ovarian hormone production is declining and fluctuating, causing a host of symptoms. Some clinicians maintain that perimenopause can last for as long as 5 to 15 years, and refer to perimenopause as that period which is a 3 to 4 year span just before menopause. Either way, many women experience more symptoms during perimenopause than after menopause. Because this often happens at an age between 35 and 45, many women's symptoms are overlooked or ignored by their healthcare providers.

http://womens-health.health-cares.net/menopause-periods.php

dullboy would guess that this is psychosomatic . dullboy doesn't have a enough information to make that determination, a determination that he is professionally qualified to make..

Sex is also about emotional intimacy and I feel there might be other issues at play besides the "physiological". You may need to work on the "psychological" and see a sex therapist.

dullboy says that you should go and play with your penis pump, weirdo.

dullboy would love to find the causation for your penis obsession. most likely, some combination of social phobia and paraphilia.

You talk about my dick more than I do so please clue us in to what drives YOUR obsession. My guess is penis envy.

 

[Sassy69]

i see, and i am very interested to hear what your belief is sassy being that you are a woman. so sexual peak can occur at anytime or is it more common to occur at certain times.

LOL I couldnt' tell you - I'm only one sample point & I haven't lived my whole life yet. Maybe I passed my sexual peak and didnt' know because I was dating a lameo or wasn't dating at the time.

Personally I think there's a maturity / self-confidence aspect to it for women as well - we grow up being told we're supposed to be "good girls" but then all the guys around us tell us we have to "put out" to be "liked" (its even worse now as evidenced by all the shit about girls doing oral, anal & everythign BUT regular sex so they dont' get pregnant but will still be "popular"). Or fear of not doing the right thing or not knowing what to expect as guys are pretty clear what they want -- the whole "sex' thing is more physical and very focused on the penis - whereas women are much more emotionally oriented. So there's lots goign on to just get a female to be "comfortable" enough w/ herself & her sexuality to actually feel ok pursuing it to a point of true satisfaction.

To that end I'd say 30+ yrs old. Maybe even 40-ish because there's also greater financial independence for women and they may have already cleared the whole "I MUST BEAR CHILDREN & BE A MOM" thing.

Who knows - but I almost feel its not even worth discussing because what sort of conclusion are you supposed to draw from it? I dont think you can quantitatively define when it occurs and trying to assign some number just won't apply.

 

[mrplunkey]

If the sex isn't mind-blowing with no end in sight, you have ZERO business getting married.

And before people pile-on with the "relationships are about more than sex" stuff, hear me out. Sex is to a relationship what oil is to an engine. If you designed an engine to perfect tolerances, perfect heat management, perfect bearings, etc. etc., you wouldn't need oil. Similarly, if you have a relationship with perfect communication, perfect syncrony, perfect preferences, perfect interest matches, etc. etc. then you wouldn't need sex either. As for the rest of us, my advice is to stick to finding someone you will enjoy fucking.

 

[BigRupe]

LOL I couldnt' tell you - I'm only one sample point & I haven't lived my whole life yet. Maybe I passed my sexual peak and didnt' know because I was dating a lameo or wasn't dating at the time.

Personally I think there's a maturity / self-confidence aspect to it for women as well - we grow up being told we're supposed to be "good girls" but then all the guys around us tell us we have to "put out" to be "liked" (its even worse now as evidenced by all the shit about girls doing oral, anal & everythign BUT regular sex so they dont' get pregnant but will still be "popular"). Or fear of not doing the right thing or not knowing what to expect as guys are pretty clear what they want -- the whole "sex' thing is more physical and very focused on the penis - whereas women are much more emotionally oriented. So there's lots goign on to just get a female to be "comfortable" enough w/ herself & her sexuality to actually feel ok pursuing it to a point of true satisfaction.

To that end I'd say 30+ yrs old. Maybe even 40-ish because there's also greater financial independence for women and they may have already cleared the whole "I MUST BEAR CHILDREN & BE A MOM" thing.

Who knows - but I almost feel its not even worth discussing because what sort of conclusion are you supposed to draw from it? I dont think you can quantitatively define when it occurs and trying to assign some number just won't apply.

The women I have dated in their 30's and older were more "comfortable" with their sexuality and desire for intimacy. They are a bit more grown up to emotionally. I have dated younger womena nd they liked having sex, but there was a difference that's very hard to explain. Subtle but still there.

 

[Bruce]

good post as usual

I guess we need to define "Sexual peak" as it's real meaning has been changed. If you look at the biological imperative to reproduce, the reason we are programmed to have sex in the first place, a women is at her peak at roughly the same age a man is at his peak. That is the true definition of "sexual peak" the ability to produce offspring. It has nothing to do with the desire to have orgasms or the ability to enjoy sex more or have an increased craving. A woman at age 22 can have sex as many times and most likely with more orgasms as a woman at 42, there is no biological difference to cause a decrease in the ability with the "exception" of decreased estrogen levels in the older women.

The difference is, the woman at age 22 has more eggs of higher quality, her body is physically better able to handle the demands of pregnancy, she will have less side effects with a pregnancy, her eggs are at their highest level DNA wise, and her estrogen level is at it's highest.

When you discuss "sexual peak" in the refractory response rate then it's true a man's "sexual peak" as defined by his ability to have multiple orgasms within a smaller time frame and that does occur at a younger age, where as women do not have the refractory issue, but as women age they produce less estrogen which does effect sexual enjoyment.

The true definition of "sexual peak" has been improperly defined as a women's desire when sexual peak is defined by the biological ability to reproduce.

Bottom line is as far as being horny, I have met and dated horny women of all ages. I believe to a degree that a women in her 30's is more sure of herself has more confidence and experience to enjoy sex more. She knows her body and what she likes or doesn't like, but the same is true for men.

The ONLY true physiological differnce between a man and women at age 30 is the refractory response time between orgasms. But that doesn't mean a diminshed desire.

 

[KD1]

I think my comments were more directed to kd1...

Just because you love someone does not mean you should marry them. It has to be someone you can live with the rest of your life. If you think you can fix a relationship, whether it be sexual problems, or otherwise in nature, after or by getting married you are in up against long odds.

If you want to write a bunch of sappy posts about how love can conquer all kinds of problems and this and that fine, go ahead and pull the wool over this kids eyes. I mean what the hell - in 5 years when he is going through hell with his divorce you wont even be posting here any longer.

Im getting married once, to somebody I can share the rest of my life with.

 

[Sassy69]

Just because you love someone does not mean you should marry them. It has to be someone you can live with the rest of your life. If you think you can fix a relationship, whether it be sexual problems, or otherwise in nature, after or by getting married you are in up against long odds.

If you want to write a bunch of sappy posts about how love can conquer all kinds of problems and this and that fine, go ahead and pull the wool over this kids eyes. I mean what the hell - in 5 years when he is going through hell with his divorce you wont even be posting here any longer.

Im getting married once, to somebody I can share the rest of my life with.

I don't think I said anything to the effect of "love conquors all". My point is that there are all sorts of things that happen to people over the course of time. The topic here is a guy looking to "fix" why his g/f doesn't have a sex drive right now. The thing is that that's a relatively common issue and I haven't actually found much in the way of "medical solutions" for it - but they all seem to say that "it passes". But to jump to this conclusion that the whole relationship is fucked because of something that is inconvenient right now is sort of short sighted IMO. I'm not saying its not possible that it may be that big of a problem if is a continuous thing -- but it's not clear what the real problem is first - it could be a simple communication thing. Could be an imbalance in hormones. Could be a signal of a thyroid problem. Its very hard to find a really good relationship in this world, if you have a pretty good one but somethign changes then are you going to just toss it or at least spend some time exploring the issues first?

 

[BigRupe]

Its very hard to find a really good relationship in this world, if you have a pretty good one but somethign changes then are you going to just toss it or at least spend some time exploring the issues first?

Exactly

 

[dullboy]

You talk about my dick more than I do so please clue us in to what drives YOUR obsession. My guess is penis envy.

penis envy would imply that dullboy doesn't actually have a penis.

 

[mrplunkey]

Just because you love someone does not mean you should marry them. It has to be someone you can live with the rest of your life. If you think you can fix a relationship, whether it be sexual problems, or otherwise in nature, after or by getting married you are in up against long odds.

If you want to write a bunch of sappy posts about how love can conquer all kinds of problems and this and that fine, go ahead and pull the wool over this kids eyes. I mean what the hell - in 5 years when he is going through hell with his divorce you wont even be posting here any longer.

Im getting married once, to somebody I can share the rest of my life with.

These words are so true it's scary.

I do see your point Sassy, and that's to not throw-out something that could be great long-term of what could be a short-term issue. While I wholeheartedly agree with every single word quoted above, I don't think it contradicts anything you're saying either.

1) Relying on marriage to fix ANYTHING, whether it be sex, time together, communication, intimacy... or even thinking it will fix the bitching -- is completely delusional.

2) Love doesn't conquer all. Staying power involves a committment to grow, to accomodate each other, to share each other, and to change as a person if necessary. The entire concept of romantic love is less than several hundred years old yet people bank on it like its part of our DNA.

 

[Mr. Black]

First off you never really stated whether your fiancee was seriously interested in resolving her lagging libido. Assuming she is, get her to see another doc, perhaps one that specializes in Endocrinolgy. Then get a complete set of hormone levels tested (make sure they test her Bio-Available Testosterone). If her test levels are shit then I'm sure you'd see some great improvement with supplementing with testosterone cream. Should her hormone levels come back ok, then most likely her libido problems are psychological based (this could be quite tricky to resolve). Therapy would then be an option. Either way DO NOT FUCKING get married until you get this shit straightened out. Good luck.

 

[Smurfy]

I dont know if this has been asked yet, but is she on any hormonal birth control? I was on deprovera for about 2 yrs and it cause a SEVERE decrease in my libido which caused me to change birth control methods. Also, if she is taking any stimulants, that can cause it too. Is she on any other medications?

 

[KD1]

I was on deprovera for about 2 yrs and it cause a SEVERE decrease in my libido

Maybe thats its method of action? It crushes your libido thus no sex, and no pregnancy.

A similar method for men has been quite successfull. It involves showing the male a naked picture of Rosanne Barr right before intercourse. There has been no known pregnancy, or for that matter, successful intercourse ever reported using this method.

Im joking of course.