You know what ive learned in my past years. when you argue with someone, the person who gets pissed first is the one who loses because he couldnt handle the heat. the person who gets angry and makes a verbal arguement, physical, thats the person who loses. you use your strength on the outside to mask your weakness on the inside, your insecurities. im not hear to bust your balls, or be your life coach, but you can learn alot from reading and applying the responses i gave you.