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Matter of fact, last night was game on but we "finished up" before we ever go to full on intercourse. Insatiable old fuck said to me, "You know, oral sex isn't REALLY sex so we will have to get it on again before the morning."
I was asleep at that point and just played possum.
Truth of the matter is that while sex is VERY important it is rare when a couple has the identical sex drive. So what do you do? FEEL REJECTED (which is quite immature IMHO). Or do you realize that she is making love to you all day long when you are secure in the knowledge that there is NOTHING that another man could offer her that would make her even turn her head.
I will be 41 soon and there was a HYUGE drop in my libido in the last 2 years. There are a lot of factors that I don't care to go into. But if my husband were to tell me that I should take *this drug* or *that one* because he desired me to have sex with him more than I had THE DESIRE FOR SEX (please pay carefull attention to the wording gentlemen) I would kick his ass to the curb and not look back once.
I am not an animal or a plaything. Truth is that there are many circumstances that I desire in life but that don't mean I am going to get them.
We must look at the big picture.
My husband is 57 years old and his cock is hard 24/freaking 7. He comes and is STILL HARD. When I am feeling well then we have MORE than enough sex. When I don't feel well, he understands.
And also, for the record, with the exception of his first wife whom he married just out of the military waaaaaaaaay back in the day I am the first NON-SWINGING wife. That's right, up till me he would NEVER have less than 2/3 women in the bed with him. He knew that though I desire sex there are often times I can't and he is so skilled that he satisfies my VERY easily (I've NEVER had that happen. Don't know if it is a blessing or a curse. LOL) and he married me IN SPITE OF THIS.
So now, gentlemen, you tell me, if that ain't goin from 60 to ZERO in nuthin flat... I don't know what is.
Bottom line is that if SHE is disturbed by her lack of drive (which very well might be - this is often the case as women enter peri-menopause or after hormonal changes brought on by a baby) then SHE can go to her gynecologist and seek help. If YOU are disturbed by her lack of drive and everything else is in place in the relationship then you'd better step back and think why it is that you chose to stay with this woman in the first place. If it was for the sex then you'd best do HER a favor and move on.
Women need emotional intimacy to desire physicality.
Men need physicality in order to desire emtional intimacy.
Hopefully, if a couple has a lot more on the ball than "just" that animal attraction, they will be able to meet somewhere in the middle.
Matter of fact, last night was game on but we "finished up" before we ever go to full on intercourse. Insatiable old fuck said to me, "You know, oral sex isn't REALLY sex so we will have to get it on again before the morning."
I was asleep at that point and just played possum.
Truth of the matter is that while sex is VERY important it is rare when a couple has the identical sex drive. So what do you do? FEEL REJECTED (which is quite immature IMHO). Or do you realize that she is making love to you all day long when you are secure in the knowledge that there is NOTHING that another man could offer her that would make her even turn her head.
I will be 41 soon and there was a HYUGE drop in my libido in the last 2 years. There are a lot of factors that I don't care to go into. But if my husband were to tell me that I should take *this drug* or *that one* because he desired me to have sex with him more than I had THE DESIRE FOR SEX (please pay carefull attention to the wording gentlemen) I would kick his ass to the curb and not look back once.
I am not an animal or a plaything. Truth is that there are many circumstances that I desire in life but that don't mean I am going to get them.
We must look at the big picture.
My husband is 57 years old and his cock is hard 24/freaking 7. He comes and is STILL HARD. When I am feeling well then we have MORE than enough sex. When I don't feel well, he understands.
And also, for the record, with the exception of his first wife whom he married just out of the military waaaaaaaaay back in the day I am the first NON-SWINGING wife. That's right, up till me he would NEVER have less than 2/3 women in the bed with him. He knew that though I desire sex there are often times I can't and he is so skilled that he satisfies my VERY easily (I've NEVER had that happen. Don't know if it is a blessing or a curse. LOL) and he married me IN SPITE OF THIS.
So now, gentlemen, you tell me, if that ain't goin from 60 to ZERO in nuthin flat... I don't know what is.
Bottom line is that if SHE is disturbed by her lack of drive (which very well might be - this is often the case as women enter peri-menopause or after hormonal changes brought on by a baby) then SHE can go to her gynecologist and seek help. If YOU are disturbed by her lack of drive and everything else is in place in the relationship then you'd better step back and think why it is that you chose to stay with this woman in the first place. If it was for the sex then you'd best do HER a favor and move on.
Women need emotional intimacy to desire physicality.
Men need physicality in order to desire emtional intimacy.
Hopefully, if a couple has a lot more on the ball than "just" that animal attraction, they will be able to meet somewhere in the middle.