So, Even 10 Years into Marriage

[digimon7068]

And women are emotionally stimulated.

So is it ok for a guy to act all caring and sensitive and stuff, even if he's just going through such efforts to attract a female?

if that's what you did when you were trying to catch her. . .you probably better not completely jettison all that stuff once you're under the same roof. . .i don't make up the rules, i just try to understand and play by them most of the time.

 

[-SD-]

lol @ links on that site!

CostofSex.com - cost of sex with a girlfriend and wife calculator

simply spectacular.

 

[mrplunkey]

if that's what you did when you were trying to catch her. . .you probably better not completely jettison all that stuff once you're under the same roof. . .i don't make up the rules, i just try to understand and play by them most of the time.

Naw, I'm insensitive all the time.

 

[SaiBoT]

that's an excellent question. . .i've addressed this subject before from my own personal experience. . .because, in my humble opinion lots of guys (and women) get lazy after they "catch" the person they are pursuing. . .i never stopped pursuing mine. . .actually never really felt like i caught her. . .no, i don't put the amount of crazy-ass effort into it that i did 20 years ago (i have 3 kids, a demanding profession and lots-o-bills) but i still "chase" her. . .i still make her feel special and desired. . .consequently, we still get bizzy a lot. . .and at least once a week it's super hot. . .and she still gives me butterflies.

Priceless... most only realize this after it's all over...

 

[shirlene29]

i'm like a beagle i suppose. . .you can feed me the same thing every dang day. . .yet, at 5 o'clock sharp, when i'm laying on the floor sleeping next to the fireplace, and i hear the food bag crunching and crinkling while you're getting it out of the closet, i'll spring to my feet and yell YEEEEEESSSSS!! FOOOOOOOOOOD!!!

lolololololol

 

[Jon79]

jesus fuck

 

[shirlene29]

wth

 

[chewyxrage]

tell her what's up dude.

she needs to accommodate, otherwise your life is going to suck and you got plenty of time left to find someone else if she won't...

 

[EnderJE]

tell her what's up dude.

she needs to accommodate, otherwise your life is going to suck and you got plenty of time left to find someone else if she won't...

Unless he's got kids. Then, he's got a problem. However, if you train your kids to be self supporting and wait until their 18...

 

[*ebony*]

Somehow the "she's cheating on you" cliche cuts so much deeper coming from a female. But you were in the Service so I guess you become "one of the boys" in that environment.

Strangely enough, in the "glory days" 5 years ago, she did complain that I didn't grope her like I used to.

But once I corrected that, she quickly realized that the no-groping situation wasn't nearly the problem she imagined. Seems that gets old fast.

Currently on 600mg/week of testosterone so believe me when I tell you that I pull out all the seduction tricks I've learned over the years in an effort to get some action going.

The difference is any little thing will throw the mood off for her now. Used to be it didn't matter how crazy life was around us. We could look at each other, know that we both wanted it and lock ourselves in the bathroom for 7 or 8 minutes to get the job done. I think keeping that kind of passion up 10 years into a marriage is pretty good.

Just couldn't keep it up forever.

i'm not sure what your seduction tricks are. but why don't you woo her like you did before y'all were married. the dinners, the flowers, the compliments, ect. make her feel beautiful, and wanted and appreciated. do anything to boost her ego. i know plenty of girls with low self esteem that have sucky love lives. make sure she understands that you still find her body insanely hawt. flirt with her, coerce her, do simple things she'll appreciate. house chores she might usually do, u take over once in while, errands, cooking, ect.

i know it seems like a lot of effort but it shouldn't be, if your not doing this already, u should be. trust me she's going to appreciate all the effort, and she'll do more of things you want because it'll make u happy.