Looks like I'm going back to Court. Yesterday was very interesting - long ass read, you better be bored to get into this.

[binö]

that guy is a loser and obivously your ex should have zero contact with your daughter
butbutbutbut
i do see a bit of hypocrisy
you demand that she live clean but the question is do you live 100% clean?

 

[jh1]

OT question, How do you pay the lawyer? Is it per hour, per phone call, per case? Weekly? Monthly? You seem to pick up the phone and call him out of the blue, and he gives you legal advise. How does that work out in terms of his fee? thanks.

Arms & Legs bro.

My fees for the divorce exceeded 20k. I will get billed for the recent phone calls and subsequent actions as well.

I don't know what hte xwif's attorney costed, but I know she didn't pay a dime - her father paid for it all. Pissed me off - cause he was just sitting at home drunk not even knowing what's going on just paid the bills as they came in. She had no concience as for as how much money was wasted on fees - because she wasn't paying / working for that money etc... garr...

With this go around - we'll see... right now her and her father are on the outs, I wouldn't be suprised if this 'reunites' them though.

 

[rnch]

quoting my father: "never complain, never explain....just do what you gotta do".

 

[jh1]

that guy is a loser and obivously your ex should have zero contact with your daughter
butbutbutbut
i do see a bit of hypocrisy
you demand that she live clean but the question is do you live 100% clean?

I am tested for the NIDA-5 every three months, a hair follicle test. I have been 100% clean since Sept. '06.

 

[binö]

I am tested for the NIDA-5 every three months, a hair follicle test. I have been 100% clean since Sept. '06.

meh, you know were this convo is gonna go so i'll stop now.

 

[jh1]

meh, you know were this convo is gonna go so i'll stop now.

LOL.... so I hardly ever drink now - I drink with clients, and I even drink socially on occasion. I drank to excess in Vegas, and I've hit a few spots in STL - but it's very rare for me these days. I have my hands full with other stuff.

 

[jnevin]

I'm with Smurfy on you wasting too much time going back and forth with the douchebag. You almost seem to enjoy that drama.

 

[jh1]

I'm with Smurfy on you wasting too much time going back and forth with the douchebag. You almost seem to enjoy that drama.

I think I might.

I find a million reasons to justify it, but in the end it's all nonsense....

 

[jnevin]

I think I might.

I find a million reasons to justify it, but in the end it's all nonsense....

I probably would have baited him to a degree too, knowing I would win. It's just looking from the outside in, it seems like a poor decision if the guy's the douchebag he seems he could be.

You're in a hard situation. Almost seems you'd be better off moving to a different state away from that past life.

 

[Smurfy]

Yeah this all went down late afternoon / last night. I was gonna call her last night after my daughter went to sleep, but I decided to cool it - I was pretty worked up.

I might call her today when she takes her nap. I feel bad that they are always put in the middle of this, and I feel foolish calling and telling on the x to her. Besides that, if we go full bore to remove all visitation - it doesn't matter anyway.

I suppose I will call her and tell her that my daughter is not to be around him and that he is a convicted drug dealer and has been threatening me. I just know the coversation is going to devolve from there into the fact that the x is fucking up by hanging with him, etc...

Just dont let the conversation go down that road. make it plain and simple and make it clear you're letting her know what's going on because she is responsible for supervising the visits. she has a right to know this guy's history as well as your plan to make sure this guy isnt allowed in your daughter's presence. She's got to know what the rules are and why. that's all.

dont even get into a convo about the ex and how shes fucking up, etc because frankly neither you nor the exs Mother have any control who the ex hangs out with or what she chooses to do in her personal life. You do have control over your daughter's safety and well being and you are entitled to take measures to make sure she's safe/