Looks like I'm going back to Court. Yesterday was very interesting - long ass read, you better be bored to get into this.

[Smurfy]

i thought all the ex-wifs visits with your daughter are supposed to be supervised by her Mother?

 

[rnch]

1. your ex is a lost cause.


2. you MUST protect your daughter at ALL costs.



i know you already understand this and are ready to do what has to be done.

 

[jh1]

i thought all the ex-wifs visits with your daughter are supposed to be supervised by her Mother?

They are.

The x is allowed to transport her to/from daycare/me - and I've allowed her leeway in the past during the day for trips to the store, etc - but the visitation is supposed to be supervised by her mother or step-father. What 'supervised' means is very vague - it isn't defined in the decree other than to say that 'all overnight visits are to be at a place where a designated supervisor is present'.

My understanding is that my daughter got to know this guy before we were divorced and there wasn't a supervision requirement in place. He also comes around my daughter around my x's mother - but I doubt she knows that he's a convicted drug dealer.

 

[Smurfy]

They are.

The x is allowed to transport her to/from daycare/me - and I've allowed her leeway in the past during the day for trips to the store, etc - but the visitation is supposed to be supervised by her mother or step-father. What 'supervised' means is very vague - it isn't defined in the decree other than to say that 'all overnight visits are to be at a place where a designated supervisor is present'.

My understanding is that my daughter got to know this guy before we were divorced and there wasn't a supervision requirement in place. He also comes around my daughter around my x's mother - but I doubt she knows that he's a convicted drug dealer.

Wel since the Ex's Mother is the one charged with supervising, I'd want her to know your concerns as the sole custodian/
She is a party to what's going on.

 

[jh1]

Wel since the Ex's Mother is the one charged with supervising, I'd want her to know your concerns as the sole custodian/
She is a party to what's going on.

Yeah this all went down late afternoon / last night. I was gonna call her last night after my daughter went to sleep, but I decided to cool it - I was pretty worked up.

I might call her today when she takes her nap. I feel bad that they are always put in the middle of this, and I feel foolish calling and telling on the x to her. Besides that, if we go full bore to remove all visitation - it doesn't matter anyway.

I suppose I will call her and tell her that my daughter is not to be around him and that he is a convicted drug dealer and has been threatening me. I just know the coversation is going to devolve from there into the fact that the x is fucking up by hanging with him, etc...

 

[silverstar1025]

Re: Looks like I'm going back to Court. Yesterday was very interesting - long ass rea

don't ever fucking stop doing everything in your goddamn power to rid all the scumbag turds from your baby girl's life because having a good dad like you is all she needs and i'll be damned if i hear anything less than you have most, if not all, custody of the child

What he said! You are a wonderful father and i hope you daughter always knows what a blessing you have been to her!!

 

[gonelifting]

subscribed....i'll read it later.

 

[ponyfitness]

Re: Looks like I'm going back to Court. Yesterday was very interesting - long ass rea

Jesus man I can't imagine going through all this crap, especially just to keep your daughter safe and away from druggies. My eternal respect.

 

[Smurfy]

I think you're doing the right thing (obviously) with not wanting this douchebag around yoru daughter.

However, IMO you engaged this guy way too much. You dont have to explain yourself to him for why you are making this decision. You only have one thing to say to this guy: I dont want you around my daughter, end of story.

Beyond that, you shouldnt let him get you into a tit for tat, and you did this but you did this kind of thing. Youve got better things to do than waste your time and effort communicating with this guy. I'd ignore him from this point forward.

 

[eddymerckx]

lets just say he definetly knows a lot of very skilled fighters and thugs

jhl introduce him to your friends--Mr Sig, Mr. Sauer, and Madame Hollow-Point