I am seeking for motivating words,,, and sugestions.

[HiDnGoD]

Try suggesting things initially that she may find as fun. She may not like the gym. But she may like to take walks, go for a jog, riding a bike in a scenic area, go rollerblading, hiking. Anything to get her moving. And these are all things that you guys can do TOGETHER. That is where you will win the points as a good boyfriend. Your spending time together doing something. Initially most people if they are sensitive about their weight will not want to set foot in the gym where all of the "fit" people hang out . But if you guys can start doing those things a few times a week, she will start to notice the difference in herself. She will loose some weight, her energy levels will go up, and so will her self confidence. As time passes she will like what she sees, and then maybe want to go to the gym, and eat right. But it will take baby steps first. Hope it helps at all.

Good point.

 

[mbcrump]

" Initially most people if they are sensitive about their weight will not want to set foot in the gym where all of the "fit" people hang out . "

I know this first hand. When i started working out on June 19, 2005, I was extremely overweight and was afraid the gym rats would point and laugh at me. But this was not the case at all, several guys helped me and I never once had someone make fun of me. Mostly everyone was proud i wanted to better myself and get fit. I even had cute girls talking to me. Now today, I am fit and in good shape and I lend a hand to any fat person that needs help in the gym.

 

[HiDnGoD]

" Initially most people if they are sensitive about their weight will not want to set foot in the gym where all of the "fit" people hang out . "

I know this first hand. When i started working out on June 19, 2005, I was extremely overweight and was afraid the gym rats would point and laugh at me. But this was not the case at all, several guys helped me and I never once had someone make fun of me. Mostly everyone was proud i wanted to better myself and get fit. I even had cute girls talking to me. Now today, I am fit and in good shape and I lend a hand to any fat person that needs help in the gym.

Whenever I see morbidly obese people in the gym, I feel bad for them. If you watch their eyes, they are constantly looking around, as if to see who's watching them. I'd like to cheer for them & say "Yeah! Do it!" but I wouldn't want to make them self conscious.

 

[Novacek]

I can tell you this is a very difficult position to be in.

As one of the other members suggest you have to make this something she is comfortable with and enjoys. DO NOT tell her she needs to start working out cause she needs to get into better shape. let her know you are interested in getting into better shape and your fitness is important to you. THen invite her to be involved in some of the things you are doing. If you can get her started you will have a work out partner for life.

 

[pintoca]

Tom Venuto's "Burn the Fat feed the muscle"

Chapter 1

 

[redman2020]

Now my goals in dieting are completely diffrent than hers would need to be to loose weight.... can anyone tell me the total daily calorie intake for a female trying to loose weight.

 

[lacoste]

Use pintoca sticky at the top of the forum it has a good calculator in there. You can just plug in her stats.

 

[que_66]

Above all - be honest with her and tell her what you told us.

She's going to be hurt no matter what you say because weight is a touchy subject. Hopefully she will realize that it's not a matter of vanity.

I explained to my bf that I would like for him to stop smoking. Not because I wanted to tell him what to do but because I want him around for a long time and the smokes just continue to rob us of time.

Depending on your schedules, try to pick a time that both of you can go to the gym when it's the least crowded.

It helped me by cleaning out all the "crap" food that I had in the house and replacing it with a healthier alternative. When the kids come over they fuss about it but I don't see them going hungry.

Good luck & let us know how things go. Maybe she can join EF and we can help with the motivation.

 

[*Bunny*]

redman any updates? I'm curious

 

[doctor1]

Some words of encouragement,.....I have this posted on my wall and look at it everyday before going to the gym. "We must be willing to do the things today, to have the others won't do, to have the things tommorrow others won't have." Hope it helped a little. helps me