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calveless wonder
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yes, *her*. that ex...
after over a year and a half of no contact, and the last contact was the most venomous conversation/email exchange ever....i decided to casually reach out to her on her bday which was yesterday. No, it wasn't an attempt to get her back or because i was vulnerable blah blah blah. I just didn't want to leave things the way they were and i finally felt it was enough time for the emotions to disappear.
For those who don't know, a nuclear holocaust is the equivalent of our how are breakup occured.
Even though she fucked me over really really bad, i made alot of mistakes that led up to that and more significantly enacted a horrible revenge on her that fucked her life almost equally. I played the victim for awhile, but i had to accept the responsibility in that. I always lived with that guilt to an extent, and it's finally gone.
I assumed she hated me for what i did, and apparently she thought i hated her as well.
I just sent her a sincere email letting her know what's been going on with me and that i've accepted what happened and forgive her, and that even regardless of the circumstances i didn't mean to hurt her in the way I did. I let her know that wasn't an attempt to be best buds again or get her back, just a simple hey how are you.
She sounded happy, and the exchange was very light and amicable.
Turns out she's doing really well and found a really lucrative career in the business world. That actually made me really happy to hear, because the one thing i always wanted her to do was stop relying on her model looks and more on her intellect and charisma, which was equally as strong.
She also sent me a picture of our dog lol..which made me cry, but it was good to see him happy and healthy
http://i42.tinypic.com/epjebs.jpg
I feel like i can really move on with my life now completely and not just "for the most part"...and let go of all the regret, anger and pain.
i really can't put into words how much a monkey off my back that is.
after over a year and a half of no contact, and the last contact was the most venomous conversation/email exchange ever....i decided to casually reach out to her on her bday which was yesterday. No, it wasn't an attempt to get her back or because i was vulnerable blah blah blah. I just didn't want to leave things the way they were and i finally felt it was enough time for the emotions to disappear.
For those who don't know, a nuclear holocaust is the equivalent of our how are breakup occured.
Even though she fucked me over really really bad, i made alot of mistakes that led up to that and more significantly enacted a horrible revenge on her that fucked her life almost equally. I played the victim for awhile, but i had to accept the responsibility in that. I always lived with that guilt to an extent, and it's finally gone.
I assumed she hated me for what i did, and apparently she thought i hated her as well.
I just sent her a sincere email letting her know what's been going on with me and that i've accepted what happened and forgive her, and that even regardless of the circumstances i didn't mean to hurt her in the way I did. I let her know that wasn't an attempt to be best buds again or get her back, just a simple hey how are you.
She sounded happy, and the exchange was very light and amicable.
Turns out she's doing really well and found a really lucrative career in the business world. That actually made me really happy to hear, because the one thing i always wanted her to do was stop relying on her model looks and more on her intellect and charisma, which was equally as strong.
She also sent me a picture of our dog lol..which made me cry, but it was good to see him happy and healthy
http://i42.tinypic.com/epjebs.jpg
I feel like i can really move on with my life now completely and not just "for the most part"...and let go of all the regret, anger and pain.
i really can't put into words how much a monkey off my back that is.
