Ulcasterdropout said:
You had no college degree, little job skill, or experience and a stay at home mom? So where you get 20K upfront, eh? I know you don't have rich family.
LOL, you got that money from your husband, and you didnt give or were forced too give, you let him keep it.
You disappoint me. I thought you were the only person on this thread with a brain.
I dont have a rich family. My parents were poor immigrants. I have had a job since I was 14.
My ex didnt have a pot to piss in when we met and I loved him and married him anyway.
The money was rightfully mine for me and my kids. I let him keep it because my kids begged me to make it stop. I knew of many women whose kids went through this litigious bullshit for up to 9 years. The lawyers got rich and the kids got fucked.
I was told my rights as the noncustodial parent would be protected. So I did the best I could at the time for my kids. I gave him all the money and hoped that he would take good care of the kids. He fought me for custody from the word go. I couldnt take what it was doing to them. Why should the money go to lawyers I thought. I busted my ass to build myself up and as soon as I found out what he was doing to the kids I came back in 3 days time. Only I had given him custody so he successfully used them to fuck me for the next six months.
You dont have a clue what it means to fight for kids.
I do.
I have done it from the minute I was told that they might never be born. A man will never know this feeling.
You can say what you want. There is one board member (A MAN) who understands all too well as it is happening to him from the other way around.
You can all preach as if you know. Until it happens to you, you dont know what you are talking about.
I never said that a woman shouldnt work.
Men dont have a clue about having their rights taken.... at least not the white men in this country.
Spend some time in China, try speaking out against the government and then talk to me about your rights.
Please I am tired and have had enough of my sleep robbed from me by people who talk smack. I have proved every bit of what I said and I am not the only one that this has happened to. I come across more and more men who have 50/50 split not because they deserve more or less - it is because the courts dont give a shit what is best. Children are now possessions. If the couple can not agree - 3 years and 100,000 dollars later IT WILL BE 50/50 split. The only one's whose rights are being violated are the rights of the children.
Engage me in an intelligent debate and maybe I will continue another day.