okay, so does anyone have this kind of luck with women?

[silverstar1025]

If she isn't already cheating on you with him then she will. There will always be feelings there. I think you play with fire stayin friends with the ex. My ex and I were together for years and when we were finally done I cut all ties. I knew that if I didn't one day we would just end up back in the cycle again. I moved on and never looked back.

 

[redshirt27se]

you're fucked.


if you're in a relationship where you have to constantly go behind her back reading emails, rummaging receipts and shit, its not a healthy one and you should move on. you obviously like this girl a ton, but she obviously doesn't feel as strongly about you or she wouldn't be contemplating cheating (if she hasnt already).

its a shitty situation man. but cut the chord. save yourself the pain.

 

[healother]

^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
lol...here's the guy that's had this kind of luck with women.

actually not really. i dont get involved in relationships so i havent been cheated on. i wasnt in my first relationship until very recently

 

[healother]

yup...lots of good girls go there

what about the ratio of way more men online than women?
and do any of them put out?

 

[chesty]

well, everyone has good points. Yes, I like her and yes I trusted her completely till the receipt thing. Well, 99%. I was/am always suspicious that he was constantly calling her at home, on her cell, txt'ing her etc. When we first started talking I asked her straight up if she was over him and it was through and she said yes, so I didn't think twice about it. Except for the constant phone calls etc.

Come to think of it that is probably why she get's defensive when I ask her what she is doing and she doesn't answer and I have to ask again, or like what time to come over and she is like why?

Here is what I don't get, on the one hand I am sure something is up, yet I think she genuinely does like me (she even said so the other day after talking for an hour on the phone and her telling me quite a bit about herself, etc) Anyway, I am not needy because she said that one reason she liked me so much was that I don't pressure her for anything (commitment, sex, etc) and that I am just letting things happen naturally. On occasion I will say something stupid, like today.

After being frustrated by asking me to send her a good morning txts while she is in Texas (and she doesn't respond to them, well at least during the second week she has been gone) and the fact that I sent a very romantic new years eve text last night and by 10 am today never heard anything. So I asked how it was going and then she replied okay, but no mention of txt. So, I had to ask her if she got and her reply was yes, thank you.

Now I ask, if you have time to read them wouldn't you have time to send a quick txt back saying thank you honey or whatever? I wonder if she has realized that she really does like me and is shutting down or trying to force me out or both.

Anyway, she comes back Fri or Sat. I will find a way to get her cell phone while she sleeps or is taking a bath and check her txt. If I find what I don't want to find, I will just leave without saying a word. If I don't I will have to find a way to bring up the ex situation again and let her know that I am really uncomfortable with him calling so much and wanting to hang out with her, but not make it sound like I am jealous or worried, just uncomfortable with it.

 

[chesty]

Another item that does not make sense to me is like saturday morning, she txt me right back after i said good morning and said she really misses me, but i have not had much conversation with her since. She says it is because of her family's demands on her time right now. I have no way of proving that and have to take her word at it.

I would just hate to dump her to protect myself and find out I was wrong and she really was just friends with the ex and that he just doesn't get it that they are over and she is just being nice. Of course, 4 months isn't a lot of time invested yet. It would hurt to say good bye, but I would be over it quickly.

 

[bw1]

Another item that does not make sense to me is like saturday morning, she txt me right back after i said good morning and said she really misses me, but i have not had much conversation with her since. She says it is because of her family's demands on her time right now. I have no way of proving that and have to take her word at it.

I would just hate to dump her to protect myself and find out I was wrong and she really was just friends with the ex and that he just doesn't get it that they are over and she is just being nice. Of course, 4 months isn't a lot of time invested yet. It would hurt to say good bye, but I would be over it quickly.

I think you already know what's going on. Run like hell

 

[chesty]

yeah, I just want proof

 

[chesty]

And she still has a pic up on myspace of her, her ex with his hand on her shoulder and some other friends. She last updated on Sept 2007 so she may just not have wanted to take it down. Of course she showed me her my space page and pointed that out so she may be trying to tell me something and I am not picking up on it I guess.

 

[heavy_duty]

And she still has a pic up on myspace of her, her ex with his hand on her shoulder and some other friends. She last updated on Sept 2007 so she may just not have wanted to take it down. Of course she showed me her my space page and pointed that out so she may be trying to tell me something and I am not picking up on it I guess.

You and healother are twin brothers eh?
sorry bro but with all due respect YOU ARE FUCKED IN THE HEAD.