okay, so does anyone have this kind of luck with women?

[Smurfy]

no way, your all just a bunch of armchair psychologists. hehe

yes and we have all the answers to everyone's problems but our own. just ask us.

 

[chesty]

I know. That is why I do ask actually. It is quite amazing to see the different responses. They usually fall into two catagories with variations of stick it out, give benifit of the doubt etc and the other side which is run, run fast, get the fuck out!

 

[reno240]

her friends are ugly. And no I am not someone different. I asked her about it and dropped it. Her actions will speak louder than any explanation she can give me true or false. I have just been venting my frustrations at the fact that the same shit keeps happening. That is all. I don't like to argue, fight etc. I figure she wants to be with me she will be and she will tell the ex to step off if he gets out of bounds with her. I can't make her like me or love me or be with me. She either does it because she wants to or she will leave. And I have told her as much. I told her from the beginning. She doesn't have to cheat on me, be sarcastic towards me, lie to me etc to get rid of me. she just has to say leave and I will. No questions asked.

Yeah, but don't you want to clear your mind? Don't you want to get all this out, even if your wrong and nuts?

 

[chesty]

Yeah, I do. But the old saying you get more flys with honey than shit applies here

 

[reno240]

Yeah, I do. But the old saying you get more flys with honey than shit applies here

So you have decided to stick it out?

 

[chesty]

maybe

 

[blueta2]

fyi

people use this "i have a wall" excuse all the time. it allows them not to get "too" close in case they want to make a break or in case they want to cheat. that way they can justify their behavior.

in my case, it was neither.
I keep my wall up b/c I've been emotionaly destroyed and can't deal with anymore pain.
It's called survival

 

[chesty]

true it is survival. I was pretty good at it till I figured I found someone I could lower it to knowing I could still get my ass handed to me.

 

[blueta2]

true it is survival. I was pretty good at it till I figured I found someone I could lower it to knowing I could still get my ass handed to me.

well we must be the only two b/c most people who keep their walls up are cheaters or people who want to run away ;-)

Smurf, how much for that shitty assessment?

 

[chesty]

I got burnt so many times it hasn't been funny. so, yes, I keep it up. but like I said, I will still take chances, cause if you dont' you will be lonely. To love someone or fall in love is to also get hurt. Can't have one without the other.