okay, so does anyone have this kind of luck with women?

[xrsist]

That doesn't mean she slept with him?!
I'm smart enough to figure out a lot but I'm very leery of jumping the gun since I have in the past and was proven wrong.
It does seem fishy, but I'm guessing this girl doesn't feel she needs to answer to someone she's been with for only 4 months.

i didnt mean to doubt your intelligence at all darl

in that case he needs to leave because im guessing that he wants something serious and hes simply not getting it from her

 

[Bikini Mod]

yeah, she didn't mention that she was supposed to take the ex to the airport till I brought up the lunch receipts. That is why I am questioning her honesty. Plus the fact that since she got to Houston Friday, she has become increasingly less wanting to talk. Her week in the Panhandle area with her mom and sister she was quite talkative and really missed me so she says, but since she got to Houston, I don't see that. So, something is up. And the fact that she has not tried to say hi yet today is just another sign to run.

I was gonna wait to go contracting in May because we were doing so well and that would of let us both move to Texas (where she wants to go back to) at the same time. she told me that we wouldn't even be talking if she wasn't willing to keep working on the relationship when we moved. That was two months ago.

But now, I am thinking of just going in February or March regardless of how we are doing. Which from what I gather there will be no us well before then.

You should do what you want to with YOUR LIFE regardless. You guys aren't married or engaged.

Just a thought... did the thought ever occur to you that MAYBE she is a bit withdrawn because she isn't as "sure" about your relationship as you are? (TOTALLY normal and justified response) The possessive/game-playing reactionary behavior that you are talking about is A SURE WAY to keep pushing her away.

 

[chesty]

I havent' brought it up at all about the ex except for the receipt and her exact words to me were, one reason I like you so much is that you put no pressure or expectations on me and that hasn't changed. Nor has my attitude towards her.

 

[reno240]

I havent' brought it up at all about the ex except for the receipt and her exact words to me were, one reason I like you so much is that you put no pressure or expectations on me and that hasn't changed. Nor has my attitude towards her.

So - she thinks your someone that you're not.

Eventually, you will crack and start to accuse her of something - right or wrong - it will all be over then. So you might as well fire off on her now. Why just leave when you can make a scene about it first? Unless of course she has a friend you want.

 

[chesty]

her friends are ugly. And no I am not someone different. I asked her about it and dropped it. Her actions will speak louder than any explanation she can give me true or false. I have just been venting my frustrations at the fact that the same shit keeps happening. That is all. I don't like to argue, fight etc. I figure she wants to be with me she will be and she will tell the ex to step off if he gets out of bounds with her. I can't make her like me or love me or be with me. She either does it because she wants to or she will leave. And I have told her as much. I told her from the beginning. She doesn't have to cheat on me, be sarcastic towards me, lie to me etc to get rid of me. she just has to say leave and I will. No questions asked.

 

[nefertiti]

Wait a flippin minute.

I did not see this before my post on the other thread of yours.

Get away from this girl, NOW.

He left the receipt in my car??? A receipt that just happens to have her favorite food.

Ummkay.

She's lying.

Then she brings up cheating before you do...another RED FLAG because that's what cheaters do...they turn it back on you like, "How could you not trust me?"

At a minumum - MINIMUM - she's lying to your face about what went on the day she had a "fever."

edit: I may be reposting what others have said...didn't read through the thread. Just my .02, though. Run, don't walk.

 

[heavy_duty]

Me thinks he is not sleeping with her and he somehow has slipped into the "friend zone"

 

[chesty]

I agree with you and I am going to let her hang herself if she is lying it will catch up to her and she will slip up for sure.

On the other hand, and i am not making excuses for her or me, it is possible that her dad did take him to the airport that day and had creme brule and he had the margarita ( he likes them both) and the dude did leave the receipt in the car (either way he left it there intentionally to hopefully start something)

But you see, she will do something similar and I will just find out by seeing if she really is at home or at his place or he has come over. And if I catch her red handed, I will bust in the act that way she can't say anything. If I never catch her and she can prove herself to me great.

 

[Lestat]

that sucks man. you've only been dating 4 months though, had you been in it for a year or more I think this would be a bigger blow to the integrity of the relationship, but for now I'd let it slide and see where things go.

 

[chesty]

that is what I am thinking as well. Just continue with not forcing anything and see where it ends up. It will either work out or it won't.