I dont know what to do about my 12 y/o daughter...

[Raina]

I'm glad to hear that things are working better too. It's hard to be a girl at that age even in more "ideal" situations but that kind of emotional stress mixed with raging hormones has to be an adventure to deal with.

It's good that you're not willing to let her act that way at your place. You're her parent and while you're there to love and support her, you don't have to stand by and let her walk all over you and her siblings. My mom certainly never did. There was much clashing growing up. But eventually as I got older I got why she had the fair expectations that she did and appreciated her for it.

Wishing you the strength and wisdom to keep doing what it takes to keep your children safe, happy, and healthy.

 

[wend]

Good for you, Werd, and good for your daughter, too. I'm glad she had the sense to reach out and ask for love, which is, of course, what they all need.

And yes, keep explaining to them that their father has a problem and that it is not anything wrong with them that makes his love for them so fickle. Also help them understand that anger management is something that we all need to learn (and that some never do); that should help them manage their own as it wells up (which this sort of situation is bound to increase).

I'm glad you've got a better lawyer. That should help a lot.

One day at a time, girl!