Does sex existed after 6 yrs in a Relationship?

[presguy]

had the same prob, got rid of her

 

[Generic MALE]

Generic MALE:
Be romantic?!? Did you see my Handel "LatinLoven"!!!
I love peotry so write peoms to my girl all the time. I woiuld write them at work & female friends of mine would kid that if I wrote them a poem like that they would fuck me!!! I give her lil cards, bring roses for no reason.... I mean what else can a guy do?!?

Sorry my bad. I am slow on the uptake sometimes. I write poetry too and some of my guy friends tease me about it. I guess I missed your LatinLoven handle. I think I misread it as ItalianLoven - and foreplay for an Italian consists of snapping their fingers to get the girls attention and pointing at their groin (sorry bad joke. An Italian friend of mine told me that and I thought it was very funny)

I too think people often give up on relationships too early, although there are definately times to call it quits. It kind of confuses me when people tell me "We are breaking up cuz she is (or I am) a completely different person than when we met. She (or I) Have changed."

Of course people change over the years. We go through so much change from the time we are 5 until we are 20 that each stage is given a different name : infant, toddler, child, teen, young adult, adult. But once we are 21 and an adult there are no new designations until we are really old (senior citizen). We are just an "adult" for something like 44 years (from age 21-65).

But during those 44 years we change ALOT. If anyone gets in a long term relationship they have to expect they and their partner will change in many ways - physically, politically, tastes and interests etc.

 

[Just2Flex4Ever]

What I beleive you shpuld do is approach her with your side and say something like "Baby whats been going on with US , I mean at the beginning we were having sex like 2-3 times a night and now its hard for us to get together for that intimacy!" I dont know TWEEK that shit!! Say something like that but be upfront!! How DO YOU KNOW THAT SHE IS NOT FEELING THE SAME WAY??
Be nice about it and all HONEYBUNNY with the subject!! THE ANSWER IS DEFINATELY NOT TO GO OFF AND CHEAT!! "You dont know what you have until you loose it!!" TRUST ME.... Be upfront with her she will understand... Remeber a commitment means that you have committed to one person and that you are willing to work out anything with that person whatever it is!! Also check this site out :
www.romanceclass.com/miscr/howto/stages.asp

 

[BonerBoy]

I have found that a gauze pad full of chloroform or a wellplaced kick to the back of the head can do wonders in this scenario.

You could try doing Xtacy together. or buy some spanish fly or watch some porn where the guy is really hot and it's all romatic and shit.

 

[LatinLoven]

LatinLoven,

Lexapro is an SSRI, (an antidepressant). Some antidepressants lower libido and mine is fine (probably increased)on this med.

Her birth control is doing a number on her, I would get off it.

From a females perspective I think she is feeling that maybe she is wasting her time with you and that you may never commit to marriage. She may feel you have been on some level using her for 6 years....that she gave you all her love and youth and now she will end up with nothing. There could be some passive aggressiveness to this. I know that sounds harsh but I'm just giving you a woman's view.

If you do get married and have kids...the years with young babies you will have less sex and that's pretty much guaranteed....it's all worth it though.

I think she is having some issues with your willingness to be a lifelong partner and the birth control. I would definitely recommend counseling together. You have 6 years in this, whatever you decide you really want to make the right decision, that is a lot of time to invest.

Good luck!

Wow.... so you say it me hua... Honestly I can kinda see that in a way because I'm sure she knows I'm dragging my feet so to speak about getting married, but I'm doing as a result of the current contions of our relationship.

 

[LatinLoven]

I have found that a gauze pad full of chloroform or a wellplaced kick to the back of the head can do wonders in this scenario.

You could try doing Xtacy together. or buy some spanish fly or watch some porn where the guy is really hot and it's all romatic and shit.

Bogus... O ya I'm sure they love you after you kick them in the back of the head or knock them out... lol

As far as drugs its not my thing bro. I'm not into the whole X rolling thing maken my brain bleed.

Id be down w/ some Viagra for women. But does that actualy make them horney? I know male Viagra will just keep you hard so what does it do to women just keep them wet?

 

[gingersnap]

Latin Loven,

Why don't you just talk with her? What do you have to lose? Flat out tell her "The reason I'm concerned about marriage is I want sex on a regular basis, X times a week, with variety and spice etc." She may just feel guilty about having sex with someone that is possibly not going to be her husband or she just may not be very sexual. If it's the latter it's probably not going to work. But if it's the former you are in business. Those goody goodies can have lot of guilt over out of wedlock sex....I know I used to be one...LOL...In my case it's just the way I was raised I guess (Catholic)...and when I got married the sex got better (much to my husband's surprise) because I had no guilt, I was free. He was and still is amazed at this....I guess guys just don't have these hangups as much....anyway, let us know how it goes!

 

[LatinLoven]

GingerSnap

Thanks for the advice... I guess what do I really have to lose right...