CCJ:
First of all, I will skip most of the things posted on here.
I am very proud of you. Always have been, always will be. Remember that.
Finding the proper way to deadlift, squat...heck...ANY lift...comes with time and doing it over and over and over...and over again. It comes with LOTS of time doing them. YOU will find what works best for YOU...I have faith in that.
It just so happens that I have found that the principles that Spatts has outlined above, and throughout this thread/board, are the ones that work for me also.
Keep pulling, keep working...you will succeed.
B True