The One

[PHATchik]

My parents: married 28 years
Seen emotional expression....but never seen em fight.
When not at work, usually hanging out together, sometimes doing their own thing in different corners of the house.
"Happy couple"
Mom's parents: married 60 years-Always together
Dad's parents: married 65 years-Always together

All these couples in my life are very happy. After I got older....I could see it in their eyes even.....no matter how old they were, they still look at each other with genuine admiration, along with a deeper connection.

Myself, been with same person last 5 years, married 3.
Never argue. There's things each may wish the other didnt do quite so often, but it's not that big of a deal.
(We're pretty considerate of each other anyway)
So,for me. Yes.

I've seen my grandparents married 57 years. They fight, but they absolutely love each other. That's what I want to find, if it's out there for me. I want that love that can just surpass everything. I see lots of couples that don't work out, my parents included. But then I see my grandparents, and I know it can work. BTW, I don't mind the fighting. It's fun.

 

[HumorMe]

I've seen my grandparents married 57 years. They fight, but they absolutely love each other. That's what I want to find, if it's out there for me. I want that love that can just surpass everything. I see lots of couples that don't work out, my parents included. But then I see my grandparents, and I know it can work. BTW, I don't mind the fighting. It's fun.

It's out there. You just have to be willing to accept someone for their positive and negative traits.

We live in a very selfish society. People tend to get caught up in the here and now and never look at things long term or the effects to their actions. We are moving towards a "no blame", "it's not my fault" attitude in today's behaviour.

It's easier to cast blame on something or somebody else rather then take the blame ourselves. It's called being spineless.

Being happy with just one person is the greatest sacrifice you will ever make. Love simply means loving someone more than you love yourself.

It's worked for me for 21 years (15 years married). We seldom have disagreements and we just enjoy each other so much. It's all about giving more and taking less.

 

[out_at_sea]

It's out there. You just have to be willing to accept someone for their positive and negative traits.

We live in a very selfish society. People tend to get caught up in the here and now and never look at things long term or the effects to their actions. We are moving towards a "no blame", "it's not my fault" attitude in today's behaviour.

It's easier to cast blame on something or somebody else rather then take the blame ourselves. It's called being spineless.

Being happy with just one person is the greatest sacrifice you will ever make. Love simply means loving someone more than you love yourself.

It's worked for me for 21 years (15 years married). We seldom have disagreements and we just enjoy each other so much. It's all about giving more and taking less.

I am the selfish one who gives LESS and takes MORE....Who told you that life is fair?

 

[HumorMe]

I am the selfish one who gives LESS and takes MORE....Who told you that life is fair?

Life is never fair. Life is hard work. How you handle life is your signature, meaning you are either a "hold em and stay in the game" type or a "fold em and watch the game" type. You can't be both.

 

[PHATchik]

It's out there. You just have to be willing to accept someone for their positive and negative traits.

We live in a very selfish society. People tend to get caught up in the here and now and never look at things long term or the effects to their actions. We are moving towards a "no blame", "it's not my fault" attitude in today's behaviour.

It's easier to cast blame on something or somebody else rather then take the blame ourselves. It's called being spineless.

Being happy with just one person is the greatest sacrifice you will ever make. Love simply means loving someone more than you love yourself.

It's worked for me for 21 years (15 years married). We seldom have disagreements and we just enjoy each other so much. It's all about giving more and taking less.

I agree. You should accept people for both their negative and positive traits. Sometimes, you even have to accept the fact that they may not agree with you on things, even important things. I agree that we live in a selfish society. I think that we are not willing to give on subjects. Compromise and molding ourselves is something that a lot of us don't do.

And also, I think that loving someone is a huge sacrifice. You have to be willing to open yourself and accept things, whether you want to or not. And yes, you have to be willing to love that person more than yourself. When you can open yourself and your heart to a person, you know that you have something special. And when you love that person more than yourself, you know that it is definitely something special.

 

[HumorMe]

And also, I think that loving someone is a huge sacrifice. You have to be willing to open yourself and accept things, whether you want to or not. And yes, you have to be willing to love that person more than yourself. When you can open yourself and your heart to a person, you know that you have something special. And when you love that person more than yourself, you know that it is definitely something special.

This seems to be the biggest obstacle facing people in relationships. People are not confident enough to just release that fear. Kind of like receiving a present and not knowing what is inside. Do you open it and reveal the contents and the possibly of being disappointed or do you put it aside and show no interest.

Until they learn to let their guard down and accept someone, they will never find someone to love.

 

[ANABOLICK1]

The truth is there is no 'one' perfect mate for us. There are a lot of good potential partners out there for all of us, but I believe we all eventually 'settle' with someone to some degree. No one is perfect.

 

[gymtime]

The truth is there is no 'one' perfect mate for us. There are a lot of good potential partners out there for all of us, but I believe we all eventually 'settle' with someone to some degree. No one is perfect.

Exactly. The idea of "the one" or "the perfect mate" is myth which people waste years of their lives trying to catch. The fact is, we'd all be lucky to find someone who can tolerate us...the rest is frosting.

 

[out_at_sea]

It is plain lottery; if you happen to be the lucky winner, more power to you!

BTW< I am a gambler!

 

[staw]

Yes, I believe in "the one." I just located the most awesome vibrator.