Some people deserve to die

[ohashi]

That's fucked up.

 

[MattTheSkywalker]

poor kid.....

Thanks douchebag. Good post whore too.

 

[Buddy_Christ]

Poor kid has like 11 parents. And a bunch of them suck. I suppose we'll skip the questionnaire on socio economic data and allow the crack pipe and prevention of re-enlistment to speak for itself.

Here's some advice. Most of the adults are using the kid for some sort of emotional leverage.

Clearly this harms the child, teaches B powerlessness, makes her blame herself for all of this stuff, and, yes, you guessed it, starts her down the path to adult dysfunctionality.

So, don't participate. When the kid is around you, be the best role model you can. When she's not, don't get involved with the other human garbage that plays these games. Just don't bother.

Take away perceived leverage and watch behavior change.

We are smart enough to not play those emotional games with her. No matter how much shit her father has said about us in the past, we don't turn around and talk shit about him. There have been many times she's seen him and then come home and told us that he said we don't love her.

She has a very stable life here with us. I raise her as my own child and she knows we love her and care about her.

We really need to look into setting something up just in case anything would happen to my gf. Her and B's grandparents all want me to have custody of her if something should ever happen. Not sure what we have to do though, maybe go through the courts so I have legal gaurdianship of her. This recent explosion of bullshit is just a wakeup call to us that we need to get those things in place NOW. If something happened to my gf and B's father got full custody, she'd live a horrible life.

 

[stilleto]

Yeah, even though it might not happen until she's in her 20s, she'll realize it eventually. It wasn't until I became a father that I realized just how good my dad was to us when we were growing up.

I just feel so bad for her that she's caught in the middle of this shit. No kid should be in the middle of that. Even though her father is a complete piece of shit, we never talk bad about him. In the past 6 months, she's gone to see her grandparents for the weekend or whatever and her father had made plans to come over and see her, which she was told about. More than half of those times he never showed up. She's starting to see and understand just how little he cares.

all the more reason why she'll need to see that you DO care as she grows into a teenager. thats the time she'll be looking to replace that male love and affection if she feels her life lacked it.

 

[1_more_rep]

Yeah, it gets tricky sometimes, especially when dealing with parents that are split up.

I will laugh my ass off if he files for custody. He was screaming some shit about having joint custody, getting B for 6 months out of the year. It will NEVER happen, especially since they're planning on moving out to sacramento and we're in PA.

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oh boy if he comes out to Ca i'd be more than happy to beat his ass...but since i'm a man i wouldn't be able to do anything to the female bitch counterpart of his...but i'm sure there's some beautiful/athletic woman on this site in cali willing to do the job...

in the past 3 years...4 people i was close to died...i wish death took away assholes like this from the planet instead of the people we care about...it's ok...if his pipes don't get rid of his existence...maybe you'll luck out n his psycho gf goes even crazier n kills him then shoots herself (we can only hope )

edit: i'm talking after B's 18 of course...so you get that child support
until then let the bastards move and good riddance...people in Ca aren't as patient as those in PA i'm SURE...so he will probably piss someone bigger/better than him here n get his ass beat either way...

 

[jackangel]

Thanks douchebag. Good post whore too.

lol/wtf ?

 

[foreigngirl]

Thanks douchebag. Good post whore too.

no, I just didnt have time to write what I wanted, cause MY kid started crying

 

[Buddy_Christ]

all the more reason why she'll need to see that you DO care as she grows into a teenager. thats the time she'll be looking to replace that male love and affection if she feels her life lacked it.

Doin my best

oh boy if he comes out to Ca i'd be more than happy to beat his ass...but since i'm a man i wouldn't be able to do anything to the female bitch counterpart of his...but i'm sure there's some beautiful/athletic woman on this site in cali willing to do the job...

in the past 3 years...4 people i was close to died...i wish death took away assholes like this from the planet instead of the people we care about...it's ok...if his pipes don't get rid of his existence...maybe you'll luck out n his psycho gf goes even crazier n kills him then shoots herself (we can only hope )

I've met some of my gf's friends from high school recently, and they were friends with him too. They all hate him now. Her friend's husband said that if that idiot shows up at his doorstep with the bitch wife behind him, it'd take a team of clydesdales to hold him back from getting to her. For a guy to say that, you know she's a complete bitch and deserves to be hit like a man.

 

[foreigngirl]

I think its so nice that you care for B, even if she is not your kid...thats rare. And, yeh, Stilleto is right, she needs to know that you really care about her (I'm sure she does now). That dad of hers needs to straighten up his attitude and learn how to be around kids - maybe learn from you?

 

[Buddy_Christ]

I think its so nice that you care for B, even if she is not your kid...thats rare. And, yeh, Stilleto is right, she needs to know that you really care about her (I'm sure she does now). That dad of hers needs to straighten up his attitude and learn how to be around kids - maybe learn from you?

My dad legally adopted me when I was 2 years old, right after he married my mother. I didn't know until I was almost 25, but he ALWAYS treated me like his own son. I never knew a difference, and they had 3 kids together. I've used that as an example of how to be with B.

Him learn to straighten up his attitude around me? No, it wouldn't happen. There's bad blood between us and if I ever got face to face with him again, it'd end when I got pulled off of him. It would not go very well for him physically.