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[AFeedz]

Also, 30 is really the oldest I date but even guys later in their 30s, I wouldn't think not being married says anything negative about a guy. I would maybe reconsider if at 30, he had never had a serious relationship but marriage? No.

I don't see why anybody would negatively judge a man based on his not having made a mistake. Does that make any sense at all?

 

[-SD-]

Also, 30 is really the oldest I date but even guys later in their 30s, I wouldn't think not being married says anything negative about a guy. I would maybe reconsider if at 30, he had never had a serious relationship but marriage? No.

I don't see why anybody would negatively judge a man based on his not having made a mistake. Does that make any sense at all?

Because divorce is just seen as another milestone in obtaining a higher self actualization. So, you see, those who have not been married and divorced are emotionally stunted. LOL

Or thats just something people say to euphemize their failures.

 

[hanselthecaretaker]

Freedom > women

Men get chastised by the greater public for taking this veiwpoint though. Sometimes I think marriage makes people more miserable than they'd be alone. At least men. It's just that they don't want to admit it because it'd make them look like the bad guy. Regardless of what people say, in modern American society, they man is always gets the short end of the stick in a relationship, especially after marriage.

This is coming from someone who's currently engaged and needing to vent.

 

[the.gladiator1987]

Sounds to me like your relationship problems are a. Your choice in girls and b. Moving too quickly, considering you're 21 and have had 2 fiancées.

or that the 2 girls i chose happened to be cheaters?

 

[hanselthecaretaker]

You're choice, I can happily keep my assumption that all men over the age of 30 that have not been married are entirely too selfish to give up their freedom. Therefore are not good for having a relationship with cause it will end up nowhere.

I'm 32 and am already giving up a considerable amount of my freedom. Not to mention finances down the road with a house, kids, etc. It's mostly for the woman, because they're wired for this stuff a lot more than men, who have far more simple tastes and wants. Extravagant men are either that way to impress women or hide insecurities, and sometimes both.

I'd be willing to be there's not a married guy alive with a shred of sanity left that doesn't, even if only for a moment, wish he was single again.

Although you're 100% right about selfish guys and how they should not get into relationships.

For the rest of us though, we do it because we're willing to sacrifice, as trying as it may be at times.

 

[nefertiti]

Also, 30 is really the oldest I date but even guys later in their 30s, I wouldn't think not being married says anything negative about a guy. I would maybe reconsider if at 30, he had never had a serious relationship but marriage? No.

I don't see why anybody would negatively judge a man based on his not having made a mistake. Does that make any sense at all?

Agreed....I recently met a 32 year old who had never been in any relationship longer than like six months and that made me go "hmmm" a little bit (he was also a textbook man-child. Not a douche, a real sweety, but really really boyish in a way I used to find charming till I dated someone like that for two years lol).

In this day and age unless you're a woman hell bent on having a bunch of kids, I don't see why there has to be an age marker for when someone should get married. Seems like a recipe for a lot of people getting married because of social pressure instead of because they actually found the right person.

 

[just...v]

Also, 30 is really the oldest I date but even guys later in their 30s, I wouldn't think not being married says anything negative about a guy. I would maybe reconsider if at 30, he had never had a serious relationship but marriage? No.

I don't see why anybody would negatively judge a man based on his not having made a mistake. Does that make any sense at all?

I know that everyone is taking that one post I made as evidence that I think all men that aren't married by a certain age are defective. But honestly, I only said that to provoke Puddz into a conversation. Which, lol, he could see right through.

I don't think that all men that are not married by a certain age are defective. I do think that relationship between me and a man that has never had a long term relationship would not work out. I just think that I wouldn't be compatible with someone who hasn't had some similar experience.

 

[AFeedz]

I know that everyone is taking that one post I made as evidence that I think all men that aren't married by a certain age are defective. But honestly, I only said that to provoke Puddz into a conversation. Which, lol, he could see right through.

I don't think that all men that are not married by a certain age are defective. I do think that relationship between me and a man that has never had a long term relationship would not work out. I just think that I wouldn't be compatible with someone who hasn't had some similar experience.

I was just Adding my $.02 in general, it wasn't directed towards you.

But I can definitely see how at times, being divorced/a parent may be an important experience to have in a relationship with another parent/divorcee.

 

[just...v]

Agreed....I recently met a 32 year old who had never been in any relationship longer than like six months and that made me go "hmmm" a little bit (he was also a textbook man-child. Not a douche, a real sweety, but really really boyish in a way I used to find charming till I dated someone like that for two years lol).

In this day and age unless you're a woman hell bent on having a bunch of kids, I don't see why there has to be an age marker for when someone should get married. Seems like a recipe for a lot of people getting married because of social pressure instead of because they actually found the right person.

I realized something also, when Ceo said that maybe it was the company I keep. I am friends with two couples that have been together since they were teenagers. I was with my ex since I was a teenager. I have 3 sets of cousins that have married their high school sweethearts and two of my aunties that did the same.

With the exception of me, all of these couples are still together. I look around me and I see people who have been together for what seems like forever. Maybe this helps to show why I have the pov that I have.

 

[miplank]

I realized something also, when Ceo said that maybe it was the company I keep. I am friends with two couples that have been together since they were teenagers. I was with my ex since I was a teenager. I have 3 sets of cousins that have married their high school sweethearts and two of my aunties that did the same.

With the exception of me, all of these couples are still together. I look around me and I see people who have been together for what seems like forever. Maybe this helps to show why I have the pov that I have.

maybe, but one thing is for sure. It proves that you're a failure.