should i stop my run, going through a break up

[flex123]

If you stop the cycle atleast continue hitting the gym. Ive been through the same thing and if I stayed in the gym working out instead of stopping I would have felt so much better.

 

[bbkingpinn]

i know, by emailing her and calling her, and going to her house when she asks me to, gives her all power over me. she knows that when she feels insecure she can call me and i will always be there for her, cuz i have been. i dont think its intentional on her part, but makes her feel good about herself, and makes me feel worse.

Bro, a short lesson is that you are obsessing about her which is in your mind. Since you cannot control the obsessive thoughts, you have to take control of your actions. NO PHONE CALLS, NO E-MAILS, NO GOING TO HER HOUSE. You can control your actions. It's a vicious cycle, your actions feed your obsessive thoughts so by stopping the only thing you can control right now -- your actions -- you can break the cycle. Put a sticky note on your phone, on your PC, on the steering wheel of your car. STOP. No phone calls, no emails, no trips.

Call a friend, go to Hooters, have a beer or a root beer, some hot wings or buffalo shrimp. Go have fun! She is not better than you! She is not better than you! She is not better than you! Keep saying it, because it's true. She is not better than you! FUCK HER! Plain and simple. Jerk off for a while. (Just don't fantasize about her.) Go to a strip club, a very high class one (if you're near big city), just to remind youself how many hot women there are in the world (the strippers are just the tip of the iceberg!) There are so many good looking women out there without attitudes or mental problems. Take a few credits at local college to see who you might meet.
MOVE ON, bro.

 

[wutangnomo]

No phucking way!!!! Get a hold of yourself. You go put your schedule of shots together. Write out a new training split, get in the gym and quit whinning on the board. You will be over this mania in 2 weeks. You can certainly get to the other side of 2 weeks can't you? The whole mess will work itself out one way or the other so just put your head down and plough forward. Nothing feels better than being on and nothing is more depressing than coming off. SO YOU STAY ON. I ain't playin with you, get back on schedule. RIGHT NOW! Go get a syringe out and get to work. And don't bring your sorry ass back here until you do.

Gotta agree with Ulter on this one.

Getting off cycle would only make you more depressed and emotional, after all, that is what usually happens right?

You don't seem too stable as it is so stopping your cycle might not be the wisest decision to make at this point in time.

Where the hell is Needsize to slap some sense into you??

 

[Djicy]

How old are you ALLTRAPS?

 

[shortstack]

fuck bro, i know how you feel and it is absolute shit... no matter how much these fkers tell you to stop thinking bout her and shit, you still will... the only thing that i found that somewhat eased the pain, is having sex with someone else, i wish i had done it sooner... go try and bang and many girls as possible and try not to see her... as hard as it is, TRY as HARD as possible not to see or call her. bro if its doomed for sure, save yourself before you feel to bad..... after you lose the 20lbs mark you will feel like absolute shit. save yourself. do what you can to cut her out your mind and go skrew someone. if shes already made up her mind, all your doing with calling and seeing her is driving her more and ore away, whether she admits it or not. i found someone else, and realized what a bitch i was with before. you WILL recover, its just up to you how long that will take.

 

[hrlydvdson1]

dude, just dont piss her off. by what you are saying about the closeness of your relationship she prob. knows about your juicing. first thing she will be doing is telling on you like two 1st graders on the playground. a breakup hurts dude, if it was your fault why the relationship didnt go--you will always feel a bit of guilt. but, you will make it bro, best of luck to you!

 

[alltraps]

How old are you ALLTRAPS?

im 28

shortstack, im not that type, i dont sleep around. i was raised to save yourself for that one person. i know its so old school, but it kinda stuck with me. i know if i went and did that, i would just start crying like a girl and wouldnt be able to go through with it. i hate strip clubs too. i hate sluts, strippers and all that shit. im pretty wierd when it comes to this shit, but these are my values, and were hers too. i cant change, and dont want to. i am not giong to call her anymore, or email her back.

i went to the gym just now, saw a few friends and they helped me work out a bit. it wasnt a record breaking workout, but it was something. i still couldnt get her out of my head.

i gotta get selfish and make myself happy, instead of trying to help her. she obviously doenst want to help me, and is running instead of dealing with my insecurity, which she caused me to have. i honestly dont think i could have done anything different. she fucked up and as much as i want to blame myself, it was her. she just ran from our problems, which caused even more serious problems, the ones she doesnt want to face right now and by leaving, she doesnt have to. i have to accept that, and see that she is being selfish, only looking out for herself, so i have to be the same.

 

[alltraps]

if you guys dont mind, i would like to keep this thread going, and write my feelings whenever i need to. reading over what i have wrote and what you guys wrote, i think will help me.

 

[bw1]

Bump^

 

[shortstack]

im 28

shortstack, im not that type, i dont sleep around. i was raised to save yourself for that one person. i know its so old school, but it kinda stuck with me. i know if i went and did that, i would just start crying like a girl and wouldnt be able to go through with it. i hate strip clubs too. i hate sluts, strippers and all that shit. im pretty wierd when it comes to this shit, but these are my values, and were hers too. i cant change, and dont want to. i am not giong to call her anymore, or email her back.

i went to the gym just now, saw a few friends and they helped me work out a bit. it wasnt a record breaking workout, but it was something. i still couldnt get her out of my head.

i gotta get selfish and make myself happy, instead of trying to help her. she obviously doenst want to help me, and is running instead of dealing with my insecurity, which she caused me to have. i honestly dont think i could have done anything different. she fucked up and as much as i want to blame myself, it was her. she just ran from our problems, which caused even more serious problems, the ones she doesnt want to face right now and by leaving, she doesnt have to. i have to accept that, and see that she is being selfish, only looking out for herself, so i have to be the same.

i understand, thats some awsome values my man... hard ones, but good ones. remember, there are many fish in the sea like her. there are many girls that will share the same values, and when your not expecting it, down the road, a girls gonna come around and share the same values as you and make you as, or more happy than this one has. best of luck, be strong.