should i stop my run, going through a break up

[Mavy]

I wish I knew polish to know what they heck was going on in this thread! lol.

 

[alltraps]

mavy, i do realize that its over. but its so fucking hard to swallow. i strongly believe that we could have worked this all out, but she chose to run away, as its easier then building it back up. this hurts, cuz this is the same girl that told me she would move to the moon with me, if i wanted to. she would die for. now, she wont even fight for what we had. and i am having a hard time accepting that. i was willing to DO anything to help her, and help me, but she just wants to run and uses her age as an excuse for EVERYTHING. im sick of the excuses. i had some closure on friday when she told me that she finaly realized why we had to end it, because up to then, it was just that she was 21 and wasnt sure about her life. she admited that she couldnt face me everyday knowing what she had and couldnt live with herself knowing how much she hurt me. i was hurt, and needed her, and she couldnt give me love cuz she didnt love herself. i wanted to help, but she just wants to run. today, this morning she wrote me an email with a poem, again going back to the excuse that is 21 and confused. so i give up. shes just using every excuse she can think of. i know she went out last night,and the poem had really poor grammer and spelling, and she is not like that, so i think she was drunk or something. she would never ever be drunk till 8 in the morning, but i guess that changed. what kills me is that it hasnt even been a week and shes already out getting drunk and stupid. i feel like i meant nothing to her and she doesnt respect me at all. maybe next peom she;ll send me will be about the new guy is in love with. im waiting for a week for that one. FUCK im pothetic

 

[DiamondCutCows]

Going out and getting drunk could be her way of coping.

You gotta PM me and let me know the hell happened between you two. This is driving me nuts. Just know that your bros on he internet are thinking about you in real life.

 

[hikneeken]

stab her with a hiv infected needle and then force her family members to bit a piece off of her....i find serenity in torture

 

[glennds]

21 is too young to be married alltraps. she is still a little girl. you probably would have split up anyhow. consider it a blessing in disguise.

 

[DiamondCutCows]

stab her with a hiv infected needle and then force her family members to bit a piece off of her....i find serenity in torture

Go away.

 

[alltraps]

i didnt want to marry her right away, but we knew once she finished shcool, we were going to. it was so clear. everyone that knew us, knew how perfect we were for each other. but when we had problems, she ran, and now shes running again. and i cant understand why she would. after all we had.

 

[bbkingpinn]

Quit thinking she's the only one for you. If she was, it wouldn't be so difficult. There is no one magic person, destined to make you happy. I used to be fucked in the head like that. It's psychological and you probably should get help if you are that bad. I just got a self-help book which was enough to open my eyes. People who, as children, lose a parent or have a parent who is unavailable (alcoholic/divorced, whatever) are always trying to reconnect to that one special person (the bliss they experienced sucking their mommie's tittie) who, in reality, doesn't exist. Then they overwhelm every new lover with these obsessive desires to reconnect to what they didn't get as children. Any little slight, they perceive as rejection until their overwhelming fear of rejection becomes a self-fulfilling prophesy. They push the person away. Even when things are going great they will unconsciously start a fight with their lover because they are fixated with the struggle rather than their actual goal of finding that one perfect person (which does not exist).
Trust me, I've seen it in my cousins. One has a wife who he left twice and divorced for cheating on him twice (that he knows of). But he keeps going back with her. Why? Because he can't live with the rejection and must prove to himself that he is worthy of her. He can get a lot of girls too. His brother wants nothing to do with the girlfriend and newborn baby waiting at home for him, instead he'd rather sit in a corner bar and try to pick up some other girl. What decent girl will want that kind of baggage? But, you see, they will never be happy because they are programmed psychologically (as a result of their upbringing) not to be.
If you want the name of the self-help book, PM me.

 

[alltraps]

Quit thinking she's the only one for you. If she was, it wouldn't be so difficult. There is no one magic person, destined to make you happy. I used to be fucked in the head like that. It's psychological and you probably should get help if you are that bad. I just got a self-help book which was enough to open my eyes. People who, as children, lose a parent or have a parent who is unavailable (alcoholic/divorced, whatever) are always trying to reconnect to that one special person (the bliss they experienced sucking their mommie's tittie) who, in reality, doesn't exist. Then they overwhelm every new lover with these obsessive desires to reconnect to what they didn't get as children. Any little slight, they perceive as rejection until their overwhelming fear of rejection becomes a self-fulfilling prophesy. They push the person away. Even when things are going great they will unconsciously start a fight with their lover because they are fixated with the struggle rather than their actual goal of finding that one perfect person (which does not exist).
Trust me, I've seen it in my cousins. One has a wife who he left twice and divorced for cheating on him twice (that he knows of). But he keeps going back with her. Why? Because he can't live with the rejection and must prove to himself that he is worthy of her. He can get a lot of girls too. His brother wants nothing to do with the girlfriend and newborn baby waiting at home for him, instead he'd rather sit in a corner bar and try to pick up some other girl. What decent girl will want that kind of baggage? But, you see, they will never be happy because they are programmed psychologically (as a result of their upbringing) not to be.
If you want the name of the self-help book, PM me.

i swear to GOD, this makes sence to me. her family hasnt been there for her at all. in fact , most of the issues she has been talking to me for the last two years have been how fucked up her family is. wow, i am in disbelief how much this makes sence. she was so up and down all the time, one minute bugging me to piick out baby names and talking about where we;re going to get married, to the next minute saying she is so not content with her life and needs braces and go back to school, even though she is beautiful, and already finished shcool and has a fucking career. she just wants to run to fullfill some magical thing tahts she thinks is missing from her life. knowing this, still doesnt help the pain and hurt. i wanted to help her so much, i feel like she really needs me, but pushed me away. often she told me i was the only good and secure thing in her life, and she even though she isnt sure about anything, shes sure about me. but im the only thing she ever pushed away when things didnt go her way or she was depressed. i dont understand why anyone would do that.

 

[glennds]

stab her with a hiv infected needle and then force her family members to bit a piece off of her....i find serenity in torture

BOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!