MGF's 2006 Log

[*Bunny*]

You are trying to inform, the uninformed. Trying to help another person get the most out of the time in the gym. Alot of people don;t do that, they sit back & watch the poor form, lack of knowledge and cry for help. Why? Well, it's not your 'job' and alot of people have other things more important to worry about, but I applaud you for trying to help someone who needs help. FEELS GOOD to share the knowledge and help someone else doesn't it? Man, I just love helping others like that... makes my friggin day. The fact I don;t get paid to do it, and do it b/c it makes me happy, makes it THAT more satisfying to me, while nuts to others ... maybe someday I'll be able to have a career change.

I am so sorry. I am not married with children so I can't imagine how difficult this is for you

 

[momsgettinfit]

You are trying to inform, the uninformed. Trying to help another person get the most out of the time in the gym. Alot of people don;t do that, they sit back & watch the poor form, lack of knowledge and cry for help. Why? Well, it's not your 'job' and alot of people have other things more important to worry about, but I applaud you for trying to help someone who needs help. FEELS GOOD to share the knowledge and help someone else doesn't it? Man, I just love helping others like that... makes my friggin day. The fact I don;t get paid to do it, and do it b/c it makes me happy, makes it THAT more satisfying to me, while nuts to others ... maybe someday I'll be able to have a career change.

I am so sorry. I am not married with children so I can't imagine how difficult this is for you

Exactly I love it. And then when I see that they are really getting what I'm saying and incorperate that into their workouts and lives it's a wonderful high and I will not stop doing it. He's just gonna have to deal or he won't I can't be burdened with his insecurities like that. Just like this guy asked me why I keep resistance on the ab bench. SO I showed him how to get a more effective ab workout on it while going in deeper in the ab muscles. He is now doing it and blowing out all the air on contraction and tells me how much that has intensifies his ab workout and thanked me. I was on cloud nine.

 

[scorpiogirl]

He's going to go thru ANGER, SADNESS, ANXIETY, ANGER AGAIN......and over and over and over. And if he's anything like mine, he'll tell you the same thing 10 times in a 20 minute conversation to try to expain how HE feels, and ignore anything you say (well, the parts about how YOU FEEL anyway). This is his way of trying to "wear you down" - trying to make you believe him, feel sorry for him, understand him....blah blah blah. What about you?

ONLY ONE THING MATTERS!.....IT (whatever IT may be) has happened and nothing can change that. If it's been an issue in the past, has it been solved? If it's a new issue, do you think it can be fixed? Just a couple of things to think about.

I have a feeling when I laid all my shit on the table in my log, you may have taken a closer look at your relationship and there were similarities (I could be wrong here). Whatever you decide, don't let your kids grow up in a home that isn't happy! They sense it and it WILL have effects on them. I WAS one of those children.

Good luck, sweetie!

 

[momsgettinfit]

He's going to go thru ANGER, SADNESS, ANXIETY, ANGER AGAIN......and over and over and over. And if he's anything like mine, he'll tell you the same thing 10 times in a 20 minute conversation to try to expain how HE feels, and ignore anything you say (well, the parts about how YOU FEEL anyway). This is his way of trying to "wear you down" - trying to make you believe him, feel sorry for him, understand him....blah blah blah. What about you?

ONLY ONE THING MATTERS!.....IT (whatever IT may be) has happened and nothing can change that. If it's been an issue in the past, has it been solved? If it's a new issue, do you think it can be fixed? Just a couple of things to think about.

I have a feeling when I laid all my shit on the table in my log, you may have taken a closer look at your relationship and there were similarities (I could be wrong here). Whatever you decide, don't let your kids grow up in a home that isn't happy! They sense it and it WILL have effects on them. I WAS one of those children.

Good luck, sweetie!

He is a child from a bad home. His dad use to cheat on his mom,beat her,and do to her what he's doing to me. She finally had enough and left him and never went back. I left him in 99 and was gone for a little over 2 yrs,we started talking again and dating some and got back together and it was good for a while and now he's back to his old self. The only thing he's not doing is going out drinking all the time. The only difference is that I'm not the same women I was years ago. I'm older,wiser (well some of the time),stronger and I know myself better. He knows that and is scared to death b/c he knows if I have to I can and will make it no matter what I have to do to take care of my kids. Hmmmm do you think if I took a 25 lbs db and wacked him upside the head it would knock some sense into him. I have found what I am meant to do and feel good about it and I'm damn good at it too and he's hating it. He hates change and I've been going through alot of it. But yeah I think we have alot in common as to what's going on here.

As for the past we have issue's hell we have been together since I was 17 yrs old on and off only broke up once for that time I mentioned above. We both made mistakes in the past but we were kids he does dwell on them but only mine and not his. Hmmmm must be a pattern. I know I'm not perfect but I work hard to make a good home for my kids. I just want some peace in my life and in theirs. I don't want to be one of those moms that have to look in their eyes and see instability where security use to be. I don't know what's going to happen but I know they are my first priority.

 

[scorpiogirl]

You know what's best for you. You can feel it in your gut and you're telling yourself every day what you need to do. Follow your instincts. (((((((BIG HUG))))))))

 

[getnfit06]

Thinkin' about you moms. Hope you're having a good evening

 

[momsgettinfit]

Wednesday,3/15

Woke up in a better overall mood this morning. I'm still standing my ground but yesterday I did alot of thinking and I'm putting me on the front burner for once (well except for my kids of course), I am a priority now and not holding back anything at all now. It feels good to speak my mind again and not give a shit. LOL His feelings are his and he's gotta own them and deal with them I can't and won't. And I will continue to help others no matter what happens!

On that note I woke up this mornng to freaken snow! UGh the Appalachian mountains!

M1- stomach is has still not caught up with my head so it's still tied up in knots. Trying to eat something small. I think maybe a protein shake and banana or something like that. I have a big ass bottle I bought from walmart for less than 2 bucks it's a 1/2 gallon sports bottle. So I've got first 1/2 gallon almost gone and have taken my vitamins and supps. I'm getting back slowly. LOL

 

[treilin]

Sorry I'm here now!!! Totally been busy at work, but I caught up on your log! How awful! You know I saw the same thing happening in my marriage after 2 years and at that point I had already saw my parents and knew 100% fact I was never going to be like them. So I told him I wanted a divorce and he knew nothing was going to change my mind (I'm pretty hard-headed at times), I do what I feel. Sometimes going with what you feel is not always good, thinking with the mind and feeling together will keep you stable. Feelings go up and down, are wishy-washy, and can lead you into lonely dark places. Trying to think with the mind with what your gut is telling you is the best way to go. Once your gut says something is wrong, or you need to do this, then don't second guess it start forming a plan in the head to follow through with what the gut is telling you. I see people say they had this feeling but they ignored it for so long that they just become numb to life. Don't let your life ride you, you have to ride your life! Once you start listening to your intuition it becomes second nature to not second guess it and go with it. I have developed this and fine tuned it even more since I started doing massage. While massaging the body gives off energy in different ways. Some areas on a client's body just pull you in and guide you. It's being in touch not only with yourself but being able to see where other people need you most. If you block that sense out then you won't know your head from your feet, nor ever be able to help anyone else out because you are to mixed up yourself. Start with yourself, and then fine tune in onto what other people's body and energy are saying to you. Believe me it's a lot stronger then words could ever be!!
Meditation and alone time are the best ways to balance yourself.... I need to do that more then I do!!!
*******HUG*******

 

[momsgettinfit]

Sorry I'm here now!!! Totally been busy at work, but I caught up on your log! How awful! You know I saw the same thing happening in my marriage after 2 years and at that point I had already saw my parents and knew 100% fact I was never going to be like them. So I told him I wanted a divorce and he knew nothing was going to change my mind (I'm pretty hard-headed at times), I do what I feel. Sometimes going with what you feel is not always good, thinking with the mind and feeling together will keep you stable. Feelings go up and down, are wishy-washy, and can lead you into lonely dark places. Trying to think with the mind with what your gut is telling you is the best way to go. Once your gut says something is wrong, or you need to do this, then don't second guess it start forming a plan in the head to follow through with what the gut is telling you. I see people say they had this feeling but they ignored it for so long that they just become numb to life. Don't let your life ride you, you have to ride your life! Once you start listening to your intuition it becomes second nature to not second guess it and go with it. I have developed this and fine tuned it even more since I started doing massage. While massaging the body gives off energy in different ways. Some areas on a client's body just pull you in and guide you. It's being in touch not only with yourself but being able to see where other people need you most. If you block that sense out then you won't know your head from your feet, nor ever be able to help anyone else out because you are to mixed up yourself. Start with yourself, and then fine tune in onto what other people's body and energy are saying to you. Believe me it's a lot stronger then words could ever be!!
Meditation and alone time are the best ways to balance yourself.... I need to do that more then I do!!!
*******HUG*******

I do believe very deeply in the intuition of women and I do listen to mine that's why I started on this whole path. You know the feeling like you hit something and you have an invisiable string leading you to the next step and it feels so natural and good. That's where I am in the fitness realm and getting in my personal life as well. I do meditate and that's why I believe I'm alot calmer and feel more centered today. You rock my sista! Thanks for the advise.

 

[treilin]

I do believe very deeply in the intuition of women and I do listen to mine that's why I started on this whole path. You know the feeling like you hit something and you have an invisiable string leading you to the next step and it feels so natural and good. That's where I am in the fitness realm and getting in my personal life as well. I do meditate and that's why I believe I'm alot calmer and feel more centered today. You rock my sista! Thanks for the advise.

Yup you got it. It's easy when you listen to it and quit fighting against it. It walks you like a dog on a leash... you don't even have to think. Glad to see you meditate. What have you found works best for you while meditating? I always found being close to water and being outside is best for recharging me.