Men.... how are they so different from us??

[sexkitten]

mayb its just me but every man i get serious is such a wonderful person in the beginning and then as time goes on they become so mean. ladies, why do men do these mean things to us that we would never do to them in a million years, and why do we put up with it???

i love my boyfriend so much, he even talks about marriage in the future, but i feel like his attitude changes day to day.

i dont know, im upset and needed some girly advice.

 

[jenscats5]

mayb its just me but every man i get serious is such a wonderful person in the beginning and then as time goes on they become so mean. ladies, why do men do these mean things to us that we would never do to them in a million years, and why do we put up with it???

i love my boyfriend so much, he even talks about marriage in the future, but i feel like his attitude changes day to day.

i dont know, im upset and needed some girly advice.

Well, is it that they have become "mean" or is it more that the blinders have come off &/or you just don't want to put up with his BS anymore or are just less tolerant to it??

Cuz I wonder if it's really that they've change or is it just as the infatuation *slash* starry-eyed early part of a relationship is now over, so the stuff they do is just more annoying and you are just less likely to overlook it??

Hmmmmm..... not sure about that yet.....

 

[sexkitten]

that feeling when you first meet someone should last forever, but too bad it doesnt. i dont know if mayb i dont want to put up with the bull ne more or it now there is just so much more than there was b4.

i just know i love him and i feel like our relationship is in a very low point right now. i wish men didnt have this power over us...

 

[jenscats5]

that feeling when you first meet someone should last forever, but too bad it doesnt. i dont know if mayb i dont want to put up with the bull ne more or it now there is just so much more than there was b4.

i just know i love him and i feel like our relationship is in a very low point right now. i wish men didnt have this power over us...

Well, you only give them the power....they don't lord it over you....well I try to think of it that way...LOL

Now that I'm older & wiser (35) and was married once before, I like to think that I know more of what I want, etc.....

When something bothers me I try to use the "When you do X, it makes me feel Y" as opposed to "You always do X!!" which shuts men down....

I truly think the goofy "Men are from Mars, women are from Venus" is true, cuz sometimes it seems we are truly from different planets...

It may help to, for you, to decide what battles to fight. Like I HATE that my hubby leaves the top off the toothpaste tube & there is, LITERALLY, toothpaste all over the bathroom sink, but in the whole scheme of things how important is that next to X that bothers me or Y that also bothers me? If it's not worth it, I grit my teeth & try to get over it & let it go....

 

[velvett]

Define him being mean and him having power of you.

 

[FitFossil]

mayb its just me but every man i get serious is such a wonderful person in the beginning and then as time goes on they become so mean. ladies, why do men do these mean things to us that we would never do to them in a million years, and why do we put up with it???...

Every relationship starts with a "sales phase" where both people are on their best behaviour. This phase will not last forever. The relationship will either die or become deeper. The foundation of any relationship is based on respect for each other. Without mutual respect, no relationship, be it romantic or friendship, can survive. Add to that equation respect for oneself. People who don't have respect for themselves will treat others (and sometimes themselves) badly.

Always remember that anyone who truly loves you will never ever be mean to you. Never accept that sort of treatment from anyone. The Golden Rule - 'Treat others how you wish to be treated' works BOTH ways.

 

[velvett]

Every relationship starts with a "sales phase" where both people are on their best behaviour. This phase will not last forever. The relationship will either die or become deeper. The foundation of any relationship is based on respect for each other. Without mutual respect, no relationship, be it romantic or friendship, can survive. Add to that equation respect for oneself. People who don't have respect for themselves will treat others (and sometimes themselves) badly.

Always remember that anyone who truly loves you will never ever be mean to you. Never accept that sort of treatment from anyone. The Golden Rule - 'Treat others how you wish to be treated' works BOTH ways.

Brilliant answer - as expected!

 

[brunette]

after the sale, watch for the refund

 

[SparkyGirl]

I would remond you one book:

LOVE : the course they forgot to teach you in school
by Gregory J.P. Godek

the book is amazing is has helping me alot in my relationship, this subject is very complex for just a few words so i would strongly remond this book

 

[Werd]

Every relationship starts with a "sales phase" where both people are on their best behaviour. This phase will not last forever. The relationship will either die or become deeper. The foundation of any relationship is based on respect for each other. Without mutual respect, no relationship, be it romantic or friendship, can survive. Add to that equation respect for oneself. People who don't have respect for themselves will treat others (and sometimes themselves) badly.

Always remember that anyone who truly loves you will never ever be mean to you. Never accept that sort of treatment from anyone. The Golden Rule - 'Treat others how you wish to be treated' works BOTH ways.

WERD

I've known my my guy for over 3 years, but haven't fallen madly in love with him until recently. I always liked him. I mean truly enjoyed his company but NEVER lusted him. First time in my life this has ever happened... Amazing how differently things look after some quality therapy, no?

ONE TIME HE MADE ONE COMMENT ONCE THAT REALLY HURT MY FEELINGS AND I JUST STRAIGHT UP STOPPED SPEAKING TO HIM FOR WELL OVER A YEAR.

He has apologized profusely since and we had worked it out. It will never EVER happen again or he knows I am history.

He is NEVER EVER mean. He does not raise his voice. He never speaks to me (or anyone else for that matter) disrespectfully. Control is not EVER an issue.... and I mean NEVER. This goes both ways.

If this happened just ONCE (whether I was the one he was treating disrespectfully or the guy that cleans the floors at the Home Depot) I would seriously reconsider being in his presence - PERIOD. Second time? I AM OUTTA THERE.