Fuck Buddies who have issues....... play or stay away??

[JoNeS]

--initially posted this on the chat board, but this seems like a more Appropriate spot
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Backround: Met this chick Amy 2 years ago over the internet. Talked with her for atleast an hour every day on the phone for a month and a 1/2. I learned just an absolute shit load of personal things about her. ALot of bad things, but non-the less * fell in love with her personality * if you will..... Finally went out with her, had a great time, nothing developed cuz I ended up re-uniting with an ex, and was with her for the next 6 mths.

Kept in touch with Amy, maybe talked once a month, met up with her a few times at some bars, never hooked up she always had a BF.

Flash forward to this week, went over to her place sunday, turns out she's on the rocks with her BF.....ending up messing around, no sex. (could have though, i dunno i dropped the ball) Calls me up, tells me how she had a great time with me, loved hanging out, wants to do it again.

Calls me last night tells me she just broke up with her BF, so we get together, hook up, have sex. It was fucking incredible, probably the best sex I've had, ever.

She starts tellin me how she's liked me forever, we have so much in common, yadda yadda. Practically pouring her heart out to me. I'm honest with her, tell her I like kicking it with her, she's a fun person and I'm super attracted to her. But tell her I won't make a good BF, i'm not looking to date anyone, and I don't want a relationship, with her...or anyone right now.

Suprisingly she says she's cool with that, and is cool with being fuck buddies. No joke!! She says likes hanging out with me, and wants to continue, no strings attached.


Sounds good right?? Heres my dillemma, this girl has fucking issues, fucking Dr. Drew love line style.

- Previous drug addictions, she goes to Annoymous meetings now
- Father abused her
- Older Sister Commited suicide
- Had an abortion this summer
- and i know thers another one i'm forgetting.


I like this girl, she's fun to talk to, she's fun to hang out with, she's Gorgeous, and she's fucking INCREDIBLE in the sack.

Unfortunately, I would never date her. Ever. I had a gf before who had 1/2 of those issues, and that was a fucked up 9 mth's of my life. I learned from that mistake.

My problem is, is she OK to keep as a friend with benefits?? Any of you guys hooked up with a chick who has crazy issues like these before? I'm saying Fuck NO to dating, but i'm not sure about a no strings attached F-Buddy or not.............and I'm afraid if things continue, I might even fall for her. And then get sucked into her life and her problems.

And i know, she's gonna fall for me (even though she says no strings) and I'm afraid things are gonna get nasty. Cuz i WILL NOT, get involved with someone with her history. Too many problems, I've even started to experience some with her. (( she was trying to get me to take some adderall......... i know fucked up right ?? ))

.............But on the flip side, she's Fucking Hot, my best sex ever, and her personality is cool as hell.

Proceede with extreme caution?? Or run? see I don't even think i'd be able to keep her as a"just friends" now, cuz we crossed the line... and it will happen again

 

[KD1]

Wear a rubber.

 

[Brian123]

I'd worry about STDs.

Even if STDs werent an issue for whatever reason, from what you describe sounds like shes a phsyco. (sp?). They are usually great in bed.

If you can guarantee no STDs and that at some point she wont be harassing you. Go for it. Otherwise its not worth the headache. Thats my impression.

Then again I dont know her and she might be a great girl but born with all kinds of problems around her. But can she handle them herself? Or is she going to drag you into all of her problems?

I remember seeing this girl, once, just once. We had sex four times that night and one time in the morning ( And I wont lie and say thats my norm LOL )

She was a FREAK in bed. She wanted to do everything, and unprotected ( big no no for me ) a true nympho but with all kinds of problems.

She was a freak in bed to the point where she'd say or do things that make me go should I say to myself, wow? or wtf? or both? I didnt think about it much and just enjoyed my time LOL

She scared me away with all of her phone calls and I never met her again. It was obvious that she was the very possesive type. I'm an investor and thinking about my postgraduate degree and other things and certainly dont have time for an extra counsler job!

I dont want to sound mean though. I WOULD help anyone in need. Its just that I truely believe that you can bring water to a horse, but you cant make it drink if it doesnt want to!

 

[immortalis]

Be thankful... thats not even a 1/4 the number of issues my wife has, lol.

 

[upndown]

get out and get out fast

 

[Cutiebaby]

Be thankful... thats not even a 1/4 the number of issues my wife has, lol.

bwahahah!

Seriously if you dont want to make any thing long term about it than you need to go on..Let this girl go find some one else who will be willing to be with her even though she has faults. Maybe she is looking for long term, for a relationship.Do you really want her to stick around and think that is what you will end up having..Move on and find some one new.

 

[youngguns]

Whos that in your avatar??

 

[BNG]

Or.....

Maybe she's ok but just in a F'd up situation and really gets it that you just want a FWB kind-of relationship. Maybe half her problems would go away if she wasn't chasing a dirtbag to call her own.
A lot depends on her maturity. Is she Bi? If she is, include her in all activities with the understanding both of you are free to hook up with someone else but can go back to snack if things don't work out. She may even come to play with a new girlfriend. Make it clear that if she goes "fatal attraction" on you you'll be gone.

She just might need a friend to hang with, and who will MEAT her needs at times. Are you up for major drama? Will there be much at all? Only you know her well enough to judge the situation.

 

[immortalis]

Whos that in your avatar??

who you askin?

 

[JoNeS]

Whos that in your avatar??

If you're talking about me, it's Paul "QuadZilla" Demayo