Advise.

[Raina]

I've been a little ball of stress for the past 2 weeks-- ended a 2 year relationship over the weekend. Everything is upside down. I'm okay, but I can barely get myself to eat or hold down food. I've dropped 15 pounds in the past 2 weeks just from stress. I can't sleep, think, or anything else.

The last time I worked out was on Tuesday. I'm just about force feeding myself just because I'm scared of losing more weight. I was planning on starting to work out again today. I figured it would be good to take a week off since I'm fatigued on every level....but not working out is just making me feel worse. I'm lacking focus and energy.

So is it better to just baby myself and not let myself go to the gym or to go there anyhow?? I'm just lost. Thanks.

Kate

 

[alexiarenee]

I'm sorry to hear that.
Whenever I would have that sort of problem ( a lot in the past )
I would find the gym helped me take my mind off of it for a lil while and made me feel better.

 

[smoknjilly]

go

a little time for you to take your mind off everything...plus get out some of that stress!!

 

[vixenbabe]

Vicious cycle my dear....

Take care of your emotional self foremost! Allow the grief , the fear, the anger , etc. to manifest.

Once you do that, the eating will return, the strenght will follow and your progress at the gym will come back.

Good luck and be kind to yourself during this hard time.

One more thing....if you are not eating/sleeping "normal" in a few days...call your doctor!

 

[bunnymt]

I've been a little ball of stress for the past 2 weeks-- ended a 2 year relationship over the weekend. Everything is upside down. I'm okay, but I can barely get myself to eat or hold down food. I've dropped 15 pounds in the past 2 weeks just from stress. I can't sleep, think, or anything else.

The last time I worked out was on Tuesday. I'm just about force feeding myself just because I'm scared of losing more weight. I was planning on starting to work out again today. I figured it would be good to take a week off since I'm fatigued on every level....but not working out is just making me feel worse. I'm lacking focus and energy.

So is it better to just baby myself and not let myself go to the gym or to go there anyhow?? I'm just lost. Thanks.

Kate

The most important thing for you to do right now is to take care of yourself at all costs. You say that you are okay...but your post tells otherwise. Make sure that you eat. Your brain and body need the food to function. I know that it is easier said than done but try to keep strong. I read your profile and because of your difficult past experiences, I would advise you to be selfish right now. Think only of yourself and keep yourself in check. Try to stay focused and never forget the things in your life that are important to you. You will get through this. I am sure that you have heard the old adage...'whatever doesn't kill you, makes you stronger.' Keep that in mind.

Furthermore, go to the gym if you feel like it. Your appetite will probably increase and you will feel a bit better about things, hopefully.

Bunny

 

[smallmovesal]

i know how you feel... i haven't been eating as well as i normally would... i have been forcefeeding myself.

take a couple of days off, then get back at it... try to re-establish your regular routine as much as you can.

and don't forget to treat yourself.

talk to your friends and us on here if you need a sounding board.

 

[Sapphire]

It's easy to get caught up in the stress. When I've had days like that I actually force myself to get off the couch and at least do 30 min cardio. Once I'm there, my drive kicks in and I feel a ton better...at least for a little while.

Smile sweetie....you'll feel better soon...it gets easier every day

 

[SteelWeaver]

I've been a little ball of stress for the past 2 weeks-- ended a 2 year relationship over the weekend.

Omg that's horrible - I'm so sorry - I know exactly how you feel! I was *this* close to that last week, the emotional trauma affects EVERYTHING.

I'd agree with spatts and the others, though - if you're not physically sick, go to the gym and pump some iron - you'll get some endorphin release, and the focus may kick in once you're there.

Oh, gosh, that's hard - just take things day by day.

 

[new@gettinbig]

Give yourself a break...a week off from the gym and just take care of yourself. Then come back and hit it hard..working out is only going to help you....it will take your mind off things. Relax and use your spare time doing things you enjoy that maybe you haven't done in a while...remember there are plenty of fish in the sea..and time heals i promise..no matter how bad it seems you will look back a few years from now and see it was a little stepping stone for you to cross..and you will become a better person and go farther than you ever thought you would....You become who you are by going through all the shit and grief...it passes....and it gets better...just keep your head up and read the boards for some inspiration

 

[Sassy69]

Well, I know that Lobo was trying to be the tuff guy -- "suck it and hit the weights"... i'll throw out my personal beliefs when it comes to stress like that -- especially when you have committed yourself to a relationship for that long -- one part of it is the trust, etc. that you have given and received (this is a very hard thing for me - a person really has to earn my trust because there are so many fuck heads out there, but once they earn it they have it to the death unless they do something to violate it), but the harder part can just be dealing w/ the familiarity of the person and the things you did with that person that you no longer have -- I guess call it a "comfort zone" that you no longer have -- so what do u do with your time and your feelings?? My belief is that you do have to allow yourself a certain period of time to "grieve" or toss that dependence on the comfort zone you have lost. You have obviously been dealing w/ this over the last few weeks. Hard to say how long it will last, or even how long it should last. I've had 2 major relationships in my life fall apart - I have recovered from them and still have those people as friends - but they both resulted in my losing my appetite for 3 months each. (And this is UNHEARD OF for me!) I guess the time to quit grieving is when you feel like the time you are spending being depressed about it starts cutting into time you could be using to be productive - or when you start being sick of being depressed.

In the mean time -- it sounds like the shock is over -- hit the gym -- its an incredible stress relief and physically it will release the endorphins that will make u feel better. For me its the stress relief that has such incredible value in dealing w/ some of the shit that life tosses you. Frankly my training schedule is the one thing I can count on to get me back to a normal schedule because it presents me with the consistency and my own personal comfort zone. No matter how fucked up my personal / social / professional life is -- I can always count on feeling better in the gym. Even on a shitty workout day - I know what I"m doing in there, I know what my goals are and I know how to acheive them. And I can walk out knowing that I accomplished something positivel.