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you didnt ask her to buy the tickets, i wouldnt feel guilty. what do you want?? everyone to speak up and say "yeah fuck this girl no one will ever know and youll be a better man for doing it" or something?? most of this board has warned you, youre either gonna listen or not. no one is gonna tell you to betray your gf. i cant believe you would even think about it. if you do, hopefully youll catch crabs so your gf can move on to better things.
boxhdn said:
no...i never asked anyone to tell me that i was doin the right thing. i was askin those of you who HAVE cheated before how to reduce the feeling of guilt. ive been horny since i was 16 and have hardly been with any females. now im with one of those few and am in a serious relationship but cant help but feel the urge to wanna do something meaningless with someone she wont know about. i cant help the feeling. she is great and i dont wanna lose her but i feel like doin this will get the horniness for others out of my brain and focus more on her afterwards...maybe im wrong. im not experienced with relationships and i do not think im a good person. i want to make her the only one and i feel like if i do something meaningless with someone ill never see again ill feel like i got it out of my system and just wanna be with my girl. so in sum, i dont want anyone to tell me i should do it. im just asking those that have before how to deal with it. i dont wanna leave her but i really need to do this.
Cheating doesnt help. You'll fuck up the relationship. Not only that, but your guilt and the sneaking around will fuck up your "meaningless" flings.
Maybe you should break up with your girlfriend. If this is going to continue to be a problem maybe you should go and "get it out of your system." But there is no need to cheat.
So break up with her and go out and have sex with strangers. You'll either love it and be happy with your freedom or you'll realize that it isnt all that it is cracked up to be and you'll start to miss your girlfriend.
Maybe you'll get back together maybe you wont.
But this is your problem. Your confusion and lack of experience does not give you the right to treat her like shit.
This isnt your first post about wanting to break up with her. Maybe it really is something you need to do - part of the learning process.
Everyone goes through this. Some of us chose to be decent and some of us take the easy way out. Your choice.
Maybe you should break up with your girlfriend. If this is going to continue to be a problem maybe you should go and "get it out of your system." But there is no need to cheat.
So break up with her and go out and have sex with strangers. You'll either love it and be happy with your freedom or you'll realize that it isnt all that it is cracked up to be and you'll start to miss your girlfriend.
Maybe you'll get back together maybe you wont.
But this is your problem. Your confusion and lack of experience does not give you the right to treat her like shit.
This isnt your first post about wanting to break up with her. Maybe it really is something you need to do - part of the learning process.
Everyone goes through this. Some of us chose to be decent and some of us take the easy way out. Your choice.
Stefka said:
i agree. ive been with her for 9 months and have never done anything behind her back even though i could have many times. thing is i broke up with her before and right after i did it i was fine but by that night and the next few days i was so sick, couldnt sleep, wanted to kill myself until she texted me and said she missed me and i missed her to so i went back. i wasnt tryin to go through that again. its like a double edged sword. if i break up ill be sick and wont sleep for a week, wanna kill myself but if i do this ill end up betraying her even though she probably wont find out. in a way ill have betrayed myself. but so many guys have done this before...i cant believe i can find nobody on this board that wont admit to it.
markshark said:
Oh yeah, so other guys do it... its ok for you to do it too right?? You're self justifying it. Break up with her so she can find a better man. Bottom line is you just wanna cheat. She probably deserves a lot better than you anyway. When you do CHEAT (which im sure you will because youre going to put it in your mind that its ok) are you going to stop with this one?? NO!! You're not!!! You'll be like "well, it was ok that time so I'm gonna do it again". Just break up with her, hopefully she can make someone else happy. Later on you can find another gf or if you're really lucky she'll take you back. Have you EVER been cheated on??
kish
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you must have some conscience otherwise you would'nt of started this thread. so ,if you go through with it it will fucking haunt you later as long as your with your current chic. and it will. and you seem like the type that could fold and end up tellin her sooner or later. then she'al hack it off while you sleep.
